How to stop cutting self?

[Dena]

Then don't tell them you are transsexual. Tell them you are depressed and you cut. If they don't believe you, show them your scars. You will be brought to a doctor where you make the deal that you will tell him or her why you cut as long as they promise not to tell your parents without your permission. Talk with the doctor and work out something you are comfortable with.
You need to get treatment somehow because cutting isn't good. You might get infected and you are marking your body

[stephaniec]

I don't have an  answer about how to do it , but you need to get treatment from a doctor.

[Laura_7]

I just wish they would support me. They are convinced trans and bi is sinful so they won't support it.

Ok...
there are two things that can be done imo...
one is to get rid of short term anger... thats like throwing paperballs... hitting a pillow... distractions...

the other is to longer term look for a solution.
So that the anger does not well up.

You might tell your parents you want counseling, for emotional reasons, and pick someone who has, amongst others, gender on their list.
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,193402.msg1724373.html#msg1724373

Or you might email plannedparenthood, or a lgbt center and ask for counseling...
you might go to a school and talk to the school counselor there...

another option would be to talk to your parents, educate them and tell them you want some counseling, for gender purposes.
Its up to you what you say since you know them best...
being transgender has nothing to do with religion.
Many people now say it has to do with brain development before birth, so its nobodys fault.
Things like this happen.
Here is a brochure from a very reputable source, specifically for family and med personnel:
http://www.gires.org.uk/assets/DOH-Assets/pdf/doh-transgender-experiences.pdf

You might tell them you want counseling, a supportive person to help you along.
Just pick someone supportive. You might ask at plannedparenthood or a lgbt center. If they are not supportive look for another.

If your parents have questions they might look for the next PFLAG chapter. Its parents from all walks of life.
You might even call there and ask for support.

hugs

[suzifrommd]

I just wish they would support me. They are convinced trans and bi is sinful so they won't support it.

Oh, Jackie, this is a very difficult situation to be in.

A lot of parents don't know that gender is wired into us - that it's not something we can help or that will go away on its own. The also don't know how our gender can destroy us if we ignore it.

Is there an adult who can help you explain to them what their lack of support will do to you? Someone at school? A relative or family friend? If not, is there a PFLAG group near you?

This is a very heavy burden to carry alone.

[vihar_kitsune]

I used to cut, I used to cry and felt so hollow inside when I did it, all this was before I came out. The feeling of being stuck and completely miserable is a horrible feeling but it DOES get better, waiting it out seems impossible however it is far from it, you just have to grit your teeth and be strong.

The way I stopped was by seeing therapists and whenever I felt urges coming on I would stick my earphones in and drift off or go for a run to release the anger. If it is possible, if you cannot access doctors, try to find something temporary to distract you.

Hope you are alright

Much love

[jessilynn]

Whenever I get upset I cry until I cut and I can't be happy in the least if I don't cut.. I don't want to cut.. I hate it but I can't stop.. I cut myself yesterday after going a week and a half without.. But I want to stop.. Any advice..?

Been there done that.

It's not worth it honestly. To cut yourself I mean.

What you should honestly do when you are upset (and this helped me MAJORLY), When you are crying upset, get to the root of the problem. Try to figure out what is REALLY bugging you, and ask yourself why?

If it's a certain person, understand they have no control over you. Unless it's your parents... because, assuming you are a minor posting here, just don't let them get to you. If it is your parents, try to talk, calmly and collectively.

And the next time you feel like cutting, ask yourself "Do I really want to die? Or is there something to live for?" And honestly the answer is simple, there is a lot to live for...

[officialxian]

I just saw this in my Tapatalk digest and thought I could offer some advice... I cut for about 7 years, and I recently quit (about 1.5 years ago). I quit with a thick rubber band that I wrote my goals on, if I felt the urge to cut, I snapped the band. I also had a bracelet that said "What Would Mom Do" that helped me. I was also going through therapy and they got my meds adjusted correctly. If you want to you can PM me or drop me an email (official.xian@gmail.com) if you'd like to talk. Good luck.

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[IrishPotato]

Have you ever watched the youtuber Kati Morton? All her videos are about mental health, she has lots of videos about self harm and how to try to stop. As a person who's had a self harm problem in the past I know how you feel and how difficult it is to stop. I'm clean a good while but I still get thoughts about it. I would recommend watching her videos, I know they helped me with loads of things so I really hope they help you too. I promise it gets better, it'll be difficult but it's worth it. I hope your day is beautiful!
-Seamus.

[Sadephanie]

This is freaking great!! I'm back to cutting daily!! Yay I hate my lifeee!!

[enigmaticrorschach]

I really wasn't gonna to post but here it goes. I started cutting very young, maybe around 4 or 5 after accidentally cutting my arm on a piece of class on a picture I won at the carnival. I hate to admit it but it felt really good so I just did minor stuff like use pencils or purposely step on broken glass. wasn't till I was around 14 that things started going down hill and it was due to a very worried teacher (mind you I started wearing hoodies because I got cold easily at this point and started sleeping a lot in class) so I got caught and I was out in the light. even after getting caught and sent to hospitals, to this day I still do it (I know I know its wrong but my wrists ache if I don't) OK long story short, if your cutting gets worse and your not seen by a doctor or professional, if your a minor, than that's considered neglect. if you feel like your not getting the help you need, I hate to say it, but you need to be removed and put somewhere safe so you can receive the help you need.

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[Sadephanie]

Sorry but regardless of if my parents hate me or don't support me I still love them and will not put them through that. Ever.

[Laura_7]

Sorry but regardless of if my parents hate me or don't support me I still love them and will not put them through that. Ever.

-you could talk to them and tell them you'd like to see a therapist for emotional purposes, then pick someone who has gender on their list
-you could go to a school and talk to the counselor there.

[Yakayla]

It's a really hard thing to get over. I used to cut myself too. It felt really good when I did it. But then I started feeling guilty about, which made me want to do it more. It's a vicious cycle. What I did to stop myself is I kept a rubber band around my wrist, and snapped it whenever I felt the urge to do it. You can't really do too much damage with a rubber band, but it still hurts a lot. Some people don't like this kind of thing, cause your still inflicting pain on yourself. But I see it as the lesser of two evils.

The only real way to stop is too stop being sad or stressed. But I know that is totally not an easy thing. I played a lot of video games where people like to talk and found that it was a nice escape from reality too. Didn't talk about my problems with them, just talked about random stuff and had fun. I never had those urges when I played games. I know it doesn't fix your real world problem. But it does make parts of your life more positive, and easier to deal with.

It's okay that you've cut yourself, and it's okay if you mess up and cut yourself again. We all make mistakes, and learn from them. Don't let yourself get down about cutting. Cause feeling down about feeling down is just not gonna help ya any. I've also know quite a few cutters, none of them still cut. It does stop, if you let it. Just stay positive! <333

[Sadephanie]

I just hate cutting because I know it scars and I have some now.. Luckily only on the inner thigh so no one will see them.. Until I wear booty shorts after my transition anyway.. Yeahhhh.. Hopefully I can stop it..

[Laura_7]

I just hate cutting because I know it scars and I have some now.. Luckily only on the inner thigh so no one will see them.. Until I wear booty shorts after my transition anyway.. Yeahhhh.. Hopefully I can stop it..

Well here are some resources:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,193366.msg1724015.html#msg1724015

You might use a public phone if you have restraints...
and they also have a chat...

And please get rid of all sharp objects.

And in case of anger outbursts remember making paper balls and throwing them on the floor...
or striking a pillow...
or taking a few breaths and thinking of something nice...


hugs

[Sadephanie]

Thanks but I'm not calling anything. I'm going to try a little harder to stop cutting.

[Laura_7]

Thanks but I'm not calling anything. I'm going to try a little harder to stop cutting.

Good 

One strategy can be to make it through the next five minutes...
then the next five... etc...


hugs

[Sadephanie]

I recently got pretty bad. Hopefully I can be good again.

[Devlyn]

Jackie, if you need to cut, that's fine. I understand. Just be sure your tools are clean so you don't get infected. Have you tried hot sauce on the tongue instead of a scarring method? Pinching? Ice held in the hand hurts like hell too. PM, email, or Skype me if you like.

Hugs, Devlyn

[Laura_7]

I recently got pretty bad. Hopefully I can be good again.

I hope so.
Does it help to concentrate on what you feel is good in your life ?

Do you have a pet ? They sometimes can help coming to a calmer viewpoint...

Well you might make a list with what you could do to have an improvement in the long term...
maybe on your pc where you are the only one to see it...