When did it feel right to go with srs

[sarah v lehr]

Hi sisters, im curious when it felt right to go ahead with srs and have no douts that its the right choice to take. Ive been on hormones for a year and a half and doing fine but im not 100% on srs just because how permimate it is and the work needed for it. Im generaly lazy most days and my pills have been taken regularly but i do miss a dose here and there due to forgetting for a busy life. I get hella dysphoria with my current genitalia but at times it doesnt bother me and it makes me wonder if i can just live with it even if i dont want to. Anyway im just curious about experiences y'all have had when you thought it was the right things to do

Let me know and stay beautiful!

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[Hannahh]

Dear Sarah,

If you ask yourself, maybe you are feeling that you need it.
I can answer about myself : it was a necessity from the beginning. 
It was like a stranger who disturbed me a lot.
Now, no rush. Do what you feel when you feel to do it about finally everything... in my opinion.
Take care of yourself Sarah,
Hannah

[Sarah82]

When I first started thinking about transitioning SRS was one of my biggest fears.
When I started coming out and talking about it SRS was one of my family & friends biggest fears.
So I read about the surgery, pre and post op care, other people's experiences, and even watched a recording of the procedure.
I'm still scared but I will be pursuing SRS.

[OCAnne]

Hello everyone, opinion and experience with my single-minded mindset to undergo SRS.  My following view had been previously published online.  Lost a few friends over it and will continue too.

I believe how and when ones feels right with SRS largely depends on whether they suffer from gender dysphoria or transsexualism.

I was intensely transsexual, HRT, dressing, name change, makeup, and using the female bathroom all seemed phony and wrong.  How could I consider myself female when clearly, I had the wrong parts!  Expressing my sexuality was not possible; I lacked a vagina and thus the ability to please a male lover and perhaps one day a husband.

It's difficult to describe not having the right body to those not suffering from transsexualism.  I did not want to live a minute longer than absolutely necessary with the wrong body.  I refused to let money, family, insurance companies, doctors, therapist or people get in the way of making myself right on a incredibly expedited (I am told) schedule.

My transition ended one beautiful cloudy and cold morning in May of 2015.  I could now die in peace.
There was no real peace until the moment I awoke from SRS with the correct body.  Yes, correct body.  FFS, BA and HRT does not make a transsexual woman, SRS does!

SRS does hurt, complications should be expected but for some living true far outweighs any risk, even death.

Today I am a just a woman, a transsexual version of one but nonetheless a real woman.

Transsexualism does have a cure its called Sexual Reassignment Surgery.  It does work, I am cured.

Now I deal with the same problems that face many women.  Looking pretty, fixing what needs attention and finding the perfect bra, etc. Oh I almost forgot, finding the perfect man (a man) who will one day take me as his wife.

Thank you,
Anne

[iKate]

I had always wanted SRS but was afraid of the lifelong maintenance I'd have to do, and the pain.

Now as I'm living full time as the woman I am, SRS is more or less inevitable for me. I want to be complete.

I thought of being a non-op for a while but then I realized that I would not feel complete.

[Serenation]

Srs was always the plan for me, it is hard though. Your journey doesn't end the day you have surgery. Just a new chapter starts

[Kellam]

Srs was always part of my transition needs. I did want to wait on it though. I am only 6 months into transition and like five on hrt. It took me 20 years to feel it was time to make those changes. I waited until the middle of this summer to begin electrolosis, because I wanted to be sure. Now I have taken three major and irreversible steps. In that time I have begun passing and find myself more comfortable with my body than ever. The genital dysphoria has gotten worse. It has been called into relief by the absence elsewhere. So I just began my process toward srs yesterday.

I have been picturing myself naked. I have never been comfortable that way. But since hrt I am quite happy naked but for panties, in the house. I realized that if that down stairs situation was corrected, I could be totally comfortable with my body. I might even become a nudist!

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I don't think it's possible to have "no doubts" since no matter how dysphoric we are, we can't know what it will feel like. I read dozens of descriptions and it feels nothing like any of them.

For me, I asked myself, if I experienced all the worst complications would I still think it was the right thing to have done. When I was able to answer yes to that, I went through with it.

[Jenna Marie]

When I realized I was avoiding the sight of what I had down there more and more, and that the more feminine my body was the more it highlighted the one thing that wasn't. However, I quite firmly don't believe GRS makes someone a woman or made ME a woman - I was living as a woman for quite some time before that, and considered my transition finished when I went full-time. I had GRS to fix what upset me about my own body, not to change my identity or how I felt I deserved to present to the world. If someone doesn't have sufficient genital dysphoria to want GRS, I wouldn't suggest doing it; only you can decide for yourself, though. And you *will* need to be able to commit to dilation regularly for at least the first few months.

It took about another year to save up the money, so that part sucked.

[SorchaC]

Hi Sarah

For me it wasn't whether or not I was going to have SRS but how soon could I get it. Once I'd decided I couldn't live as a man and had gone full time then SRS was going to happen sometime and but for being too big weight wise it would only have taken me 2 years.

I always believed I was female but I wasn't going to be happy just appearing to be a woman when dressed I wanted to see myself naked as well so SRS needed to happen. I think you'll know when the time is right but you will still have doubts. My doubt was could I keep up dilation? I am lazy but oddly I look forward to dilating now. Dilation is when I prove to myself how far I've come.

I hope it all works out for you whatever you decide

Hugs

Sorcha 

[warlockmaker]

Just like Sorcha, it was never a matter of if I would have SRS but how soon could I get it done. I'm now scheduled for Januart next year and I can't wait.

[Cindy]

 

While I can agree with the need or desire for many or some women to have GRS, let us remember that many women do not want it, or cannot have it for whatever reason and I do not want to see posts that in anyway invalidate their decisions.

A woman is a woman, no matter if she has had GRS or not.

Thank You

[Lady_Oracle]

Ever since I started transition I've wanted grs. When I learned that their was a word for the way I felt about myself down there, it all made sense. However my want for grs has drastically increased over the years. The more I became myself, the worst I began to feel about my bottom.

[Rejennyrated]

I'm one of those for whom SRS was my sole objective from the day I first learned about it as a possibility when I was a child. There was never any doubt in my mind that I would have the procedure, and indeed I temporarily went along with some of the "social transition" stuff purely to smooth my path to that table. If there had ever been any doubt about SRS I would have totally refused to transition as I wasnt in the slightest bit interested in what that step gave me - I wanted to have the bits or nothing. I do think there are clearly two different approaches to this. There are those who clearly see SRS as an optional aid to social transition, and there are those of us (like me) who clearly see social transition as an optional aid to SRS. In many respects we tend to end up in more or less the same place, but it does perhaps explain why we often have such diverse views on things.

[Sammy]

I am with those who said that You are ready, when You feel being ready. I am setting my own pace and not making any haste decisions (like I want it to be done by __ year). I have to come realise that everything else comes up nicely and although I am kinda theoretically interested in guys, yet my libido is quite low (borderline asexual) and I am quite OK being on my own for the rest of my life. And once the sex life bexomes excluded from equation, the whole point of having vagina becomes a bit moot, or at least, it does not put any pressure on me or requires to act. When I will have enough finances and my life situation will be stable, most probably I will go for that surgery, but the timeline is about 3-4 years (at least).

[Dena]

For me the point to decide on SRS was when I had enough time in the new role that I could compare my old life with my new one and I knew I could never be as happy in my old life as I was in the new. All of the pain and discomfort of the old life was gone. That was when I was sure there would be no turning back for me.

[LizMarie]

There are always tiny nagging doubts, even after you've answered those doubts over and over. But I was sure enough (99.9%?) that I went ahead with it anyway.

I'd always been uncomfortable with my male bits. I'd nearly tried self-mutilation as a teen, and that fact alone encouraged my therapist to talk to me about SRS.

But I knew I made the right choice when just a few days after SRS, I realized I could not, for the life of me, remember what those bits down there felt like. Having female genitalia just seemed completely normal even with the discomfort I was feeling at that point. And now, I don't even think about it.


Every single one of us is different. My experience won't be yours and yours won't be that of the next person. In the end, only you can decide if you need SRS.

[pretty pauline]

Fear of the surgery, pain, healing and worries about things going wrong delayed my SRS, it's the same with any major surgery I decided to go ahead with it, the day of surgery I was given a sedative to calm my nerves, the lead up days was the worse, but it was the right choice, it completed my transition, it was nearly 2 years before I completely heal. I'd finally done it.
Now fast forward 30 years, I'm a married woman with a husband, that wouldn't have been possible without SRS, I now feel totally complete, have the same problems just like any other woman, bad hair days etc. and being a housewife, no regrets being the woman I'v now become.

[Isabelle]

The idea of keeping my original genitals was never an option. I've been dysphoric since I was a toddler. I'm also old fashioned. I know there are a lot of transgenders that are fine with their bodies and that's great but for me (and this is only my feelings, not intended to hurt anyone else's) I'm a woman, and women don't have penises.

[Beth Andrea]

When I first started transitioning, SRS was not on the radar...as I became more comfortable with being female, then as a woman, my perception of the parts below went from "meh" to "dammit these keep getting in the way!"

Especially when it comes to tucking...I just Do. Not. Want. Dangly Bits.

But, everyone is different. Take your time, and your reason (for or against) will be just as valid and real as any of ours.