so honestly let it all out, what do you really think about being trans.

[BunnyBee]

Honestly?
Next step decision will be suicide for me.

Trans Lifeline can be reached at 877-565-8860. For LGBT youth (ages 24 and younger) contemplating suicide, the Trevor Project Lifeline can be reached at 1-866-7386. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 can also be reached 24 hours a day by people of all ages and identities.

[Swayallday]

An expensive joke I can't afford and it's not even funny either

[Kellam]

I hated being trans until I accepted it and began transition. Now I have wholeheartedly embraced it and love it. When I get to fill in my own gender on a form now I always put trans woman. I am finally free! If I had a chance to change anything in my life, I wouldn't. If I get another go at being human after this trip through life and I get to pick my gender I will ask for trans again. I have learned so much in life because of who I am and what I have been through. I can't wait to find out what I will learn next.

Transness is truly a gift and a blessing, and lest we forget most true blessings can feel like a curse at first.

To paraphrase Jen Richards...me happy trans! !

[Ofelia]

I love it! I mean all the nights of despair and suffering, all the days of seeing cis-girls walking down the street and dying with jealously, all the years of wishing I could play with Barbies, faeries and pink things, well it has all culminated in the most outrageously, sublimely and beautiful experience one could ever go through... to be able to turn around the ultimate gender dichotomy is the greatest privilege I could have ever had bestowed upon me. If only the Christian God was real so that I could one day tell Him how wrong he was about the virtues of being trans.

[Peep]

I used to think it was something to be celebrated, but now I realize it's a medical condition, unlike for example being gay.   I'm sure one day medical science will have a better treatment, and flip some switch in the brain to help it match the gender of your chromosomes and body.   But for now, seriously, who would wish to be trans?

'cause that won't be abused haha

i know that's not what you meant but it just makes me think of the use of prefrontal lobotomies as a cure for depression ._. scary

[Sebby Michelango]

I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy... Even terrorists, Hitler and Putin doesn't deserve to be it. It's very unfair and just hard. I doesn't see any advantages being transgender. It's just something you're born into against your will.

I have enough problem. I'm very sensitive at smells. So I can notice smells easier and react at them. So perfume, sweating etc. at school is something I experience everyday. And people using my sexuality as swearing is another problem. They shout the f and g-word everywhere. :/ And I belong to a couple of minority... so being trans' make it just worse.

[kitten_lover]

I hated being trans until I accepted it and began transition. Now I have wholeheartedly embraced it and love it. When I get to fill in my own gender on a form now I always put trans woman. I am finally free! If I had a chance to change anything in my life, I wouldn't. If I get another go at being human after this trip through life and I get to pick my gender I will ask for trans again. I have learned so much in life because of who I am and what I have been through. I can't wait to find out what I will learn next.

Transness is truly a gift and a blessing, and lest we forget most true blessings can feel like a curse at first.

To paraphrase Jen Richards...me happy trans! !

That's very inspirational, thanks.

Whilst it's very easy to get fixated on the major things that trans prevents us from doing and having - we have to remember the joy, in coming out, in living our lives, what we've learned about ourselves, that we are free - although it feels like we are trapped. We are free, and we wouldn't dissuade people from transitioning, because we know the true freedom that you get from it - if you are the gender inside which isn't congruent with what your born with.

Thanks for your message today

[kitten_lover]

An expensive joke I can't afford and it's not even funny either

Off topic - where is your profile picture from? I really love it.

[Laura_7]

Off topic - where is your profile picture from? I really love it.

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[Tessa James]

Being transgender has been true for my entire life but is not something I could fully accept until about 3 years ago.  Being trans has helped me to make sense of my past and choose a better future by embracing this basic truth and transitioning. 

Being trans and living a closeted, repressed and hopeless existence, relative to that truth, was slowly killing me.  Being trans and transitioning has been a dream come true vs the nightmares, I imagined, that were mostly unfounded.

Being trans is unique for each of us and allows us insights to gender, sexuality and culture few will ever experience or understand.  And yes, being trans with or without self acceptance can extract costs we are wise to consider.

Being trans is simply the truth and the truth can set us free.

[Sspar]

 For me. its a fluid and a evolving answer...
I started this journey recently after 40 years of struggling.. At the beginning I was filled with major self hatred and would have given anything to not be Trans..
Now, after 6 months of hormones, a good therapists, and a surprising amount of supportive people ( to be fair, I define anybody who doesn't spray me with mace as supportive ), I am almost Proud to call myself Trans.. its getting there.
I think trans fits well because I really don't think I am a woman,  But I definitely don't think I am a male..
Time will tell how it will all shake out.

But I am happier now than I have been in a long time.. So I think I will proudly call myself a Transwoman..

[Hyperduck_23]

Whilst it's very easy to get fixated on the major things that trans prevents us from doing and having....

I don't think being trans prevents anyone doing or having anything. I think that if people feel that it will prevent them doing the things they want to do then they aren't going to be able to do them.

As with most things in life, it's about the attitude people have towards the situation they find themselves in. We make our own reality, so if we expect limitations then we'll find them. Granted, being trans does sometimes take over a bit and can cause emotional lows that make functioning in society a bit more of a challenge than it would for a cis person (maybe....I don't really have any experience of being cis, which undoubtedly comes with it's own issues!), but in itself it doesn't prevent an individual from doing what they want.

I still go to the places I did when I was presenting in my assigned gender and still do the things I used to do....these things include running half marathons, going to the same job, attending and occasionally playing at underground raves and free/squat parties, going out for food, shopping, festivals, taking the car to the mechanic, literally everything I want or need to do.

Admittedly, there are some places where I get a few looks and very occasionally there will be someone mouthing off, but these things aren't my issues, they're the problem of the other person and I don't let it concern me....it's only by allowing it in does it become my reality. And I don't want that sort of nonsense in my life.

[stephaniec]

I don't know I'm having a lot of fun with it. Growing up it was hell. Living in denial was hell. Coming out and being me has been like riding on sunbeams across the sky. I met a waitress a couple of weeks ago when she started working at the restaurant I go to. I told her about me being trans and she totally accepted me. She's got a boyfriend that's trying to figure out where he fits under the umbrella  and another friend who's trying to figure out if he's MTF or CD.

[Anna33]

I love it how the word 'free' repeats all over the posts. <3


Free. Free to live a life full of depth, complexity and meaning.

For me, I just started on this journey, per se. But ordinary things such as enjoying a cup of tea with your special one, or just staring at the sunset through the window, suddenly turn into fabulous experiences.

Living the dreammmmmmm. Lol.

Clara.

[Rainbow Dash]

"Why did the chicken cross the road?
Because transgender!"

Essentially, the whole notion of being trans is a punchline in my world.  I find it more amusing than good/bad.

Also, not trying to be all Freudian up in this thread, but I believe the people who 'hate' being trans would find some fault in themselves anyway, and the people who 'love' being trans are carefree, happy individuals regardless.  Loving yourself (especially being trans!) is a full-time job, folks.

Good thread as always, Ms. Stephanie!

I disagree. Being trans is one of 2 sucky things about my life. I  live life on the road as an over the road truck driver. I'm happy where I am

[Autumnleaf]

Also, not trying to be all Freudian up in this thread, but I believe the people who 'hate' being trans would find some fault in themselves anyway, and the people who 'love' being trans are carefree, happy individuals regardless.

Totally disagree.  I don't hate or even dislike myself.  As a guy, I did pretty well in all departments.  Being trans put a huge damper on things.  Although I have to admit that how I feel about being trans varies from day to day.

[Ⓥ]

I disagree.

Totally disagree.

I certainly understand your disagreement!  My wording wasn't the greatest!

Like, I myself am not too thrilled about not being able to have kids, limiting the dating pool by a large margin (or deal exclusively with ->-bleeped-<-s), taking meds till I'm dead to feel normal, the money of multiple surgeries, having to justify my existence to the religious minded and such, etc.. etc.. etc.. on and on.  No one in their right mind would love this aspect of being trans.  So perhaps you guys are saying that you can hate this, but still love yourself??  I agree with you if that's it.

So, obviously for me (and most of us I think), being trans is far from optimal, but that doesn't make me a self-loathing b*tch now.  I was happy pre, I'm happy now, and quite positive I'll be happy post and I'm okay with being trans BECAUSE I'm happy no matter what.

So check it out, here's an analogy:  Replace -trans- with something the majority of people wouldn't be happy with, say, -no thumbs-

Would life be easier being cis?  Yes
Would life be easier with thumbs?  Yes
Would anyone truly want to be trans, given a choice?  Probably not
Would anyone truly want to have no thumbs, given a choice?  Probably not

I still believe a positive, happy person put in the situation of having no thumbs would always PREFER to have thumbs, but they'll be okay with not having thumbs and still love themselves.  Happy people will make the best of their situation; that's what they do!  This is what I meant when people who love being trans are probably happy people in general.

A sad, self-loathing person would probably curse God and wish to die if they didn't have thumbs and blame most of their problems on only having eight fingers, but would probably still be a sad, self-loathing person even if they did indeed have their thumbs and find some other fault in themselves regardless, because nothing will make them happy!

I mean, I've seen a good chunk of stories both here and on /r/asktransgender of sad people who stay sad, even during or after transition.  They still find fault in themselves and their lives

I guess this is what I was going for in my OP.  I'm so sorry if I over-generalized!

[Deborah]

.  So perhaps you guys are saying that you can hate this, but still love yourself??

And that sums it up perfectly.  You are what you are and what you have always been.  Once you accept and love who you are then the rest just follows no matter what path that might take.


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[stephaniec]

I was in so much pain, denial, self loathing, wondering why I felt so compelled to be the way I was then finally realized its just who I am and moved on.

[Girl Beyond Doubt]

So honestly let it all out, what do you really think about being trans?

Together with many other things, it is a part of who and what I am.
It offers me opportunities and creates challenges, it makes me contemplate life, society, gender, sex, happiness, purpose, duty, freedom, limits, friendship and love.
Being trans has given me both the chance and the responsibility to choose between extremely different paths, to make decisions with huge consequences.
It has made me find my willpower and realize that I can overcome seemingly insurmountable adversity.
I have found a happiness through my new life and my new body that is unknown to cis people who just take it for granted.