So many just dont get it

[Larisa]

I really do not get it about people not understanding transgender people. At rare times I feel extremely boyish but even than like other night, I look at 3 girls sitting in the restaurant Im in. I look thinking I wish I were you. It's still there even when my dysphoria is down. Thing Is Im attracted to girls, not guys. I have zero interest in guys at all. So in many people and Ive seen this before infact heard it once in person.

They will be like if say well me I like girls, Im must not be trans. I see this stuff and than even in person an exfriend and this was a year ago. He knew I related and understood girls but not guys. Now remember this guy hated transgender people. He would tell me "You are the most hetro guy Ive ever known". Well first hetro for sexual attraction, not relating. This where things get wrong.

Basically if you downright put it, Im a girl inside so since I like girls, not guys, Id be a lesbian. I never thought of it that way till a few weeks ago but okay. So many would say Im not trans based on I like girls even though basically no one knows I feel this way.

It's people not knowing what they are talking about. Like I said at first where if I do rarely feel really guy like, there is still that knowing I relate and think like a girl like the other night but because I appear a guy, I wouldnt feel any different. It sucks. This all probably sounds jumbled but this bugs me.

[Dena]

There are two things that apply to everybody and they are NOT related.
Gender Identity - who you want to go to bed as
Sexual Preference - who you want to go to bed with
Gender Identity determines if you are transsexual or not. Sexual preference determines If you are heterosexual, gay, bisexual or asexual. Nothing says you have to be heterosexual after GCS and often that not the case. Around half the married couples remain together after reassignment and while I don't know, they must be doing something behind closed doors.

[kathb31]

This always seems to be a big area of confusion. Your gender identity, who you
really are inside and who you are are attracted to. I knew from the time I was a
teenager that as a women I would be attracted to men. I have had some
conversations with family members trying to help them understand this.


Kath

[stephaniec]

It's a weird issue for me, I'm not lesbian and I'm not gay, I'm a Bisexual. I'm the same as either a male or female, kind of weird .

[ThaliaNyx]

This confused me for a while, actually. I thought at first that maybe I wasn't into girls, I just envied them, and that maybe I was into guys. Then I thought that it would be creepy to, you know, like a guy, and decided that maybe since I was into girls, I was actually just a normal teenager going through a gender-confused phase. Eventually, I stumbled across the word that best defines me: sapiosexual. It means I'm not attracted to people based on gender or appearance, but by intelligence, deep thinking, and creativity - in other words, I like people with beautiful minds.

[Tristyn]

It means I'm not attracted to people based on gender or appearance, but by intelligence, deep thinking, and creativity - in other words, I like people with beautiful minds.

This is the most empathetic comment I've heard in a long time. :3

That is truly liking someone for who they are. And that in itself is so beautiful.

~Nixy~

[kittenpower]

From what I've noticed IRL and here at Susan's is that a lot of trans women are attracted to other women, so you're not alone.

[Jamie_06]

According to Wikipedia, there was a study done that suggested trans women were about 38% bisexual, 35% lesbian, and 27% straight, so being lesbian and trans isn't that unusual. I'm bi myself.

[Catherine Sarah]

Hi Larissa,

As usual, Dena hit the nail on the head

There are two things that apply to everybody and they are NOT related.
Gender Identity - who you want to go to bed as
Sexual Preference - who you want to go to bed with
Gender Identity determines if you are transsexual or not. Sexual preference determines If you are heterosexual, gay, bisexual or asexual.

The other determining aspect may be envy. Your drive in identifying with these 3 women, was it subconsciously based on their looks, fashion, style, mannerism? This can be a very blinding aspect of our development.

It is also very important not to get hung up on labels. As Anna would say, labels are for lolly jars. Trans, bi, hetero etc, etc, etc, are all constructs in an attempt to categorise an almost fathomless quantity of derivatives. Listen to your own feelings and heart. Be driven by that. Invariably they are never wrong.

Speak to you as soon as I weed the garden.

Huggs
Catherine