Quote from: laurenb on November 18, 2015, 07:57:07 PM
Kate
I don't post much but I always read your posts. I'm an extra class myself and I have had much angst about my hobby conflicting with my transition. You made me feel like it's ok to be an amateur radio operator and a trans woman at the same time. I know, it's silly right? There are plenty of women hams. But for some reason it's a GD trigger. I guess I need a trans ham Elmer. Thanks.
I'm more than happy to be your elmer, or whatever, or just your friend.
I think I know why you feel how you do and it is multiple fold.
I could write a lot on transition as a ham... I have been a ham since 1997, I love the hobby I would not give it up for the world.
First of all, what scares some people off is that ham radio is typically a hobby of old men. The average age of hams is over 50. A friend of mine (a woman, actually) made a joke asking if I was retiring. I asked, why? She said ham radio is a hobby for retired engineers.
That aside there are some things in ham radio which are very much on the dark side. For example, 75 meters after dark above 3800MHz. Or maybe some guy who you QRMed by accident. Or maybe the local repeater where it's the same 5 guys and they won't welcome any newcomers.
The other thing is if you use phone modes and your voice is not passable it might cause problems. This is one of the major reasons I fixed my voice first in my transition. I already use it on air without problem. Of course if you operate CW or digital modes you won't have that issue.
The way I handled my transition with my ham clubs is that I told a few people privately first, and when I was at a point to reveal to them I did. I gave the president and meeting host a heads up and I went to a meeting.
The last meeting I went to was my DX club and I met everyone again. Some people were confused. They thought I was my wife. However during the health and welfare reports portion of the meeting I stood up and I said this:
"Hello, this isn't really an introduction but more of a re-introduction. My callsign is <my call> my name is Kate (not my real name) and I used to be known as (old name). I appreciate all the support and I would just like to say that I AM BACK."
I got a hearty round of applause and I got private emails from club members generally wishing me well. I have not had one negative reaction.
However, I know cases of trans women who have had very negative experiences and some even ending up leaving the hobby as a result.
I would say that despite the fact that everyone should be tolerant, you have to prepare yourself to re-introduce yourself with grace. And you really need to understand that with some people they are still stuck in old ways of thinking but if they realize that you are a genuine person they will warm up to you.
73,
iKate