Well of course, I told him I'd think about marriage when we were situated, when we both had sustainable jobs, were both fully functional adults either 21-25 depending on what you consider an adult to be.
I decided to post this after an incident that arose from the past week of events.
Warning: You don't actually need to read this if you find it too long or are offended by sex, penises, or threats You can just skip to the end.
A little prologue to the situation: I dated a girl for 3 years in high school. She sexualised everything about my trans feelings, such as wanting me to have a penis to screw her with even though surgery is not even something I'd be comfortable to do upon my body. When she went to university 4 hours away, she cheated on me with the first cis-male she saw. I don't hold any ill will toward her other than that I no longer have the trust of her. She came back in October, about 3 months after she left for college, expecting to have a threesome with my boyfriend and me. Even though we both declined, she came over. Again for spring break. So, she has tried to have sex with him mainly, two times. She married the man she met 3 months ago.
If you jump to recently, my boyfriend had been talking to my ex-girlfriend on Facebook. In high school he was mean to her, treating her subhuman because of her desperation for penises. He was talking to her because he wanted to meet with her at the beach and talk things out and apologise to her for how he treated her and wanted her to apologise for pursuing him. Well, her husband did not like the idea. I have no idea how long or if he was ever talking to my ex in the first place, but apparently the recent days, it had been the husband talking to my boyfriend, not my ex, but he was posing as her. So my boyfriend was being "catfished". The husband planned a meeting between my boyfriend and my ex yesterday.
Yesterday, I went to college with my boyfriend and I was left in the library while he was in class. I decided to talk to my ex on Facebook since I was honestly getting a little jealous of my boyfriend constantly being on his phone, on Facebook, talking to her. I threatened her a little rashly. I said this:
"finally youre online <br> hey I was wondering something <br> you know me well, and you know I have bad anxiety right? <br> well I feel weird <br> i am pretty sure its you chris always talks to and im really anxious about it <br> especially since he is now ALWAYS on his phone since you and other chris came over <br> and since i know you want chris's dick, or at least used to.... in high school and college <br> well... it makes me uneasy <br> and even right now well.. a few minutes ago, like an hour <br> chris was on his phone and being weird <br> so i want to say to you that ill kill you if you touch him <br> i know where your parents and grandparents are <br> and you piss me off"
Well, I was told by my boyfriend that his dad was angry and that I could not come over. After class, my boyfriend took me home. At this point, the person I thought was my ex asked for my phone number, I obliged, and they called me. A man was on the phone. It was her husband, not her. He convinced me that what my boyfriend had told me was a lie because my boyfriend had scheduled a meet at the beach with "my ex". While I was saddened by not being able to see my boyfriend that day when I really wanted to spend time with him, I believed it. I was talked into stalking my boyfriend at the beach. Any normal person would know what stalking is and how it works, but I was with my ex's husband and my ex's 16 year old cousin, we were in the car talking about anime and video games. I thought we were having fun, I didn't realise what I was partaking in was stalking. My ex was talking with my boyfriend, walking around the beach. We were circling them, following very conspicuously and poorly.
My boyfriend noticed immediately. After their talk, he followed us and saw me int he car. I immediately ran to him when both cars pulled over.
He scolded me in the car ride home. I was bawling and trying to explain myself. He was completely offended at me and what I had gotten myself into. Hours pass of me crying and trying to rationalise what I did. He allowed me over even though he said that I could not earlier.
Well, I was tricked into stalking my boyfriend by my ex-girlfriend's husband because he convinced me that his wife would try to cheat on him and that my boyfriend lied to me.
After this, my boyfriend and I talked about marriage. We both felt offended that someone would use me and try to turn me against him because of untrust between a husband and wife.
