Hello, a quick introduction. I am a natal male who has been in a 3 way relationship with J&M for the past 11 years. J&M have been married for ~25 years. About 6 months ago J came out as Trans to us.
As the 3rd party, and obviously not heavily invested in a
"Traditional " relationship, I am having no problem with J.
For me, it is like seeing a new person come into the world.
Thier wife, however is having a lot of trouble.
She is loosing the man she married, and I have to remember this.
She sees the new "person " as an Evil twin, and wants the old one back.
Things are getting better, with counseling and time. But M. still is far from happy. She is imagining life without J.
For the last decade we have all gotten along together, along with a house full of art, home improvement projects, and animals. We all have our own contributions and the house runs pretty well with the 3 of us.
The dogs and I would be devastated if the house was broken up.
My main reason for joining this group is to help M find a natal female partner of a trans male to female person, so she can talk with them directly. She wants to find out how they have coped with the changes. She has read most of the book "Head over heels - stories of women who have stayed with transgendered and cross dressing men" but wishes to talk with a real person.
So here I am.