I found no place for trans parenting so decided this was the place. My daughter is now 9, her mother diverced me in a traumatising stageshow 4 years ago. They have all moved to Chicago from Hawaii. I now live in Hawaii still. I have contacted Cook county ( IL) leagal aid society to start the advise.
My daughter wrote me and showed a great deal of sadness to be completely cut off from talking to me, seeing me in person and even wishes to see pictures of me. She wrote a song that was heartbreaking about loosing love. I was the stay home parent while we where married and I thought my children where ok even though their mother has paranoid schizophrenia ( judging by her accusations of abuse that never happened) triggered when her sister died. In 20 years we never had a single domestic problem and there is not a single person to conferm they ever witness either of us actine in abusive ways.
Children do need both parents. My daughter says when she grows up she is naming her first child after me ( Anela) if it is a girl and my birth male name if she has a boy. She is fixated on me and said school is hard because she cannot get me off her mind and wishes we had a relationship still. I can appear by phone in the Cook county family court and do not have to travel.
It has clearly shown to me my daughter is begging me to fight to be a part of her life and that she is not okay and is having emotional problems. I feel it is best my daughters hit these teen years with me involved in their lives.
I have no money, I am now severely crippled and living in a nursing home awating disability to get out.
The only thing going for me is their mother lied a lot to gain full custody and got divorce papers served to someone else to sign and claim me so I woould not know I was getting divorse and was out of the house on restraining order she got claiming I was out to kill her and my children. Non of her accusations are true and tghe courts will want proof of domestic violence or threats to consider them.
I need all the advise i can get from my brithers and sisters here. I am the bio father and have no criminal record. I am after summer visitation to Hawaii and extended holidays. Their mother already disrupted their lives abruptly taking them and i wish to leave them with their schools and lives they have now but be a more involved parent as my daughter has clearly shown she wishes to happen soon.
I am asking for advise, connection to atturneys that might take on this case probono being trans and am even willing to mediaise it as my art and music could help me by being noticed financially.
Thank you so much for reading my post, Ill be back tnight.. I have to go to bed. It is 5 am in Hawaii.
Love Anela, Aloha
