Moving out/coming out?

[XxCosmicEvan]

My parent's already know i'm transgender and want to use He/him pronouns they aren't very good at understanding but there not non supportive either i just have to deal and hope it works out.
But my question isn't about my parent's it's actually about me moving out of my home and my sister and nephew
When i move out which i'm hoping it should be around this spring? i'll be addressing myself a male to everyone i meet even if it isn't on my ID or anything yet. And i haven't told my sister i got thinking what is more acceptable me telling my sister first before she finds out from people on the street? Or me just letting her find out the hard way?
Note: Her husband is homophobic and transphobic i think she struggles with it to but not as badly.
So yea, because i want to be respectful she is still my sister but at the same time i don't know what to do wait or tell any advice? Because this just came to mind and if i tell her i sort of end up with a time limit and i hate that but it's true and its life.

[Ms Grace]

But my question isn't about my parent's it's actually about me moving out of my home and my sister and nephew
When i move out which i'm hoping it should be around this spring? i'll be addressing myself a male to everyone i meet even if it isn't on my ID or anything yet.

I presume you're not moving in with your sister? Sorry, that bit isn't clear.

Regardless, I suggest you tell her yourself, it would probably not be good for your relationship if she found out some other way.

[XxCosmicEvan]

I presume you're not moving in with your sister? Sorry, that bit isn't clear.

Regardless, I suggest you tell her yourself, it would probably not be good for your relationship if she found out some other way.

Yea we already don't talk and no i'm moving out alone but it would easily spread around sense i live in a small area and people knew my birth gender as female. But yeah i agree i sort of decided that also last night

[FTMax]

Hey Evan,

Is there a reason why you're moving out? I know it can be frustrating when people struggle with pronouns, but generally that does improve as they see you more often, especially as you're continuing to masculinize.

I agree with Ms. Grace's assessment. Imagine how you'd feel if she had a secret and you found out from someone else instead of her. Unless your intention is to move and never talk to your family again, I think it's easier to just have the conversation and work towards helping her understand.

As far as her husband, a lot of people are homophobic and transphobic before they meet someone from the LGBTQ community. Often times after that, they find it hard to reconcile the things they believed us to be with the reality of what we are. While it may take some time for him to come around, I wouldn't immediately write him off as a lost cause.

Best of luck to you, friend.

[XxCosmicEvan]

Hey Evan,

Is there a reason why you're moving out? I know it can be frustrating when people struggle with pronouns, but generally that does improve as they see you more often, especially as you're continuing to masculinize.

I agree with Ms. Grace's assessment. Imagine how you'd feel if she had a secret and you found out from someone else instead of her. Unless your intention is to move and never talk to your family again, I think it's easier to just have the conversation and work towards helping her understand.

As far as her husband, a lot of people are homophobic and transphobic before they meet someone from the LGBTQ community. Often times after that, they find it hard to reconcile the things they believed us to be with the reality of what we are. While it may take some time for him to come around, I wouldn't immediately write him off as a lost cause.

Best of luck to you, friend.

True, and i'm moving out not just because of being trans but i'm moving out because i don't really get along with my family we never get out of our house and the struggle of living with my parents is basically stopping me from feeling like i have a life of my own. I'm just ready to move out i'm 21 and its time for me to go my own way and start my own life nothing on anyone nobody's fault its just i need to live my way they live theirs.

[XxCosmicEvan]

Hey Evan,

Is there a reason why you're moving out? I know it can be frustrating when people struggle with pronouns, but generally that does improve as they see you more often, especially as you're continuing to masculinize.

I agree with Ms. Grace's assessment. Imagine how you'd feel if she had a secret and you found out from someone else instead of her. Unless your intention is to move and never talk to your family again, I think it's easier to just have the conversation and work towards helping her understand.

As far as her husband, a lot of people are homophobic and transphobic before they meet someone from the LGBTQ community. Often times after that, they find it hard to reconcile the things they believed us to be with the reality of what we are. While it may take some time for him to come around, I wouldn't immediately write him off as a lost cause.

Best of luck to you, friend.

I also think it'll help them take in the fact it isn't just a phase that isn't my plan but i just think it'll help
and give them space/time