Well, I came out to my wife on 07 Feb 16. Obviously this was not very easy for her but she did say that she knew something was off and she had been prodding me to let it out for a while. She had a lot of ups and downs back and forths with her emotions since then and I expect still will for a while.
I did my best to express to her that I want to stay with her but I understand her need to make her own choice regardless of what I want. She did say she needed a while to tell me her decision.
I am glad I read thru this site a bunch before coming out. I was able to read what others experienced and prepare myself for some of her questions. When I say prepare I mean think about how I feel in order to best answer her. She has asked a million questions and I think I was able to answer them. It is funny all of the things that people say they get asked I got asked. How long, do you like men, do you love me, moving forward etc.
I am very happy, ecstatic and over joyed to say that she said she will stay with me as my wife. Our daughter (older) was very supportive of my wife and in turn me, not very easy of course. Our son has a hard time dealing but is willing, just a bit of a shock to him. It was so nice that the kids said very nice things about the old me.
My wife did a little shopping with me for some around the house things and I went out for the very first time to walmart and Loewe's in very androgynous clothing that I bought in the womens department and a cool pair of Columbia pants that I got from my wife.
One problem that I did not consider is my name. The country where my family is originally from has one heck of a time with the TH in words so Beth sounds like Beff. My wife was not crazy about the name either so I told her she can pick a name...still waiting on that part. First VA mental health apt coming up end of this month and I have a new primary care Dr visit the end of March and she can prescribe HRT. My therapist is also writing a letter.
Soooo I don't think I have anything at all to gripe about lol I have a great family that is supporting me. And I just became a grandpama again this last week on top of it all.
