Probably a repeat question but I got to ask

[Abcat12]

I'm sure this question has been ask a million times but how many people wish they could have bottom surgery in this case mtf but not transition. I like being male I act talk and think male but I hate having a appendage down there.  To me all it has ever done is make me extremely horny and sex sometimes can feel like an obligation to release pent up energy more then an enjoyable orgasm especially if I spend the whole time trying not to go so my wife can enjoy it.  I never wanted to be a girl and I didalways want and have had children.  I'm not going to go crazy and tell my wife this is happening but I wish it could.  I always enjoyed women and feel nothing toward men. If I were to change I know I would be a lesbian.  Has anyone one else had that feeling whether they mentally wanted it off or like a physical desire like removing a scab or wart.  Sounds strange but that's the best way to describe it

[Dena]

I wanted it all but lately this topic has been discussed a bit more on the site. It isn't real common because there is a problem. If you are transsexual, you may still feel socially uncomfortable without a full social transition. The people who it is appropriate for are non binary near the transsexual end of the scale but not transsexual. I suspect it would be more common but a number of treatment programs don't consider surgery for the non binary which I think can be a mistake. Gender very diverse and it's important to really understand the needs of a person under treatment instead of just trying to pigeon hole them.

[Ms Grace]

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Welcome to Susan's    Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.

I'd suggest seeing a therapist or counsellor to talk it through. There may be more going on that is or isn't gender related. It's not common for people to have penectomies or similar but it does happen.

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[suzifrommd]

The people who it is appropriate for are non binary near the transsexual end of the scale but not transsexual.

I would hesitate to say this.

It seems to me like labeling someone's gender identity based on their gender presentation and body image.

In my opinion, people should not be labeled unless they choose the label themselves.

I'm sure this question has been ask a million times but how many people wish they could have bottom surgery in this case mtf but not transition.

I've read quite a lot of posts from people who want to alter their physical sex but not their presentation. Unfortunately, the therapeutic community is only just coming round to understanding the complexities of gender and huge variety of the way people experience being trans, and therefore the variety of therapies needed to help people feel comfortable.

From a practical point of view, the human body needs sex hormones to be healthy, so if you had bottom surgery, you would need to take hormones, either male or female in order to preserve your body chemistry.

There are thousands of men who go through life with a vagina (many trans men, for example) and manage to live comfortable lives. It does limits bathroom options and choice of romantic partners, so you'd need to incur those costs.

If you decided to go see a gender therapist, you probably should make sure it's someone who's somewhat open-minded and doesn't have a rigid model of transgender treatment.