Shedding baggage, picking up a tie

[Lizard]

Hi everyone!

Everyone's journey is different, so let me tell you a little bit about me. I'm a woman in my 40s, married to my man for 20+ years, and we've got two kids. When I was young and into my 20s, I was a "tomboy" and embraced being one of the guys whenever I could. Buuut, years of corporate jobs and being who everyone (including parents) wanted me to be, shoved that Tomboy into a little box in the back of my brain. The last few months I have opened that box, and started on my new path by cutting the girly-curls.

I am now assessing what I need vs what I want in order to be happy. I need to stop wearing dresses and having long hair. Check. I want to be included in guy stuff. *shrugs* Sometimes I am, depending on the company. I do not need to change my body, but I want to fit properly in a buttoned shirt. I packed up my jewelry, and I'm still trying to figure out the best way to style my short (but Irish-pouffy) hair. I'm not in any rush, and looking at each element that needs to be dealt with as it arises. Purses? Packed away. Shaving my legs? Yeah, I still like that.

I realize that some of my decisions can and will change over time, and I'm enjoying the process of rediscovering myself, and doing what is pleasing to me. Quite the change!! This attitude has unleashed a lot of other really positive aspects/perspectives as well. There are hundreds of people in my life who know me as a woman, so trying to pass as a guy is not as important to my happiness, and I don't need hormone therapy or surgery. (But TONS of support for those of you who have chosen that path!) I'm not trying to be a boy, and I am so done with trying to be a girl. I like my shade of grey.

I'm feeling a little old to be going through this process, but I'm also glad that I'm at a mature time in my life when people can either accept me or walk away. Also, the world is much more accepting than it was in the 90s!

I don't know how often I'll be able to hang out here, work, kids, life stuffs, but I will try to stop in and support others, and I might have a few questions along the way. 

L~

[V M]

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[DogSpirit]

Hey, Lizard. Welcome to a great group of people.

Shaving my legs? Yeah, I still like that.

<grin>I'm a non-binary, somewhat masculine female-bodied person married to a woman. One day I was walking with three very hetero women, and I was the only one in the group who shaved her legs. I do it for my wife.

Have fun discovering yourself. It can be a treasure hunt.

-- Sue

[Lizard]

<grin> and I was the only one in the group who shaved her legs....

LOL! Life is a riot, isn't it? Thanks for the warm invite! Nice to meet you, Sue. (And V M!) I look forward to getting to know more folks around here.

L~