Times you've passed in public

[WolfNightV4X1]

So not all of us have transitioned quite yet I take it, so anytime we accidentally or on purpose are referred to as our gender by a total stranger is very rewarding.

Yesterday I was roughhousing with my roommate a bit in line waiting for food and someone asked if we were brothers...to which, a bit shocked, I said yes. I feel bad for lying though since my roommate is a girl a bit of a blow to her esteem probably but I couldnt help myself, and neither of us are entirely 'out' anyways, though.


Another time was more intentional, I was filling out paper work to get a pass to a campground reserve, and to my dismay it asked for gender, I decided to list myself as male anyways even though Id have to hand my ID in, the guy was totally cool about it though and referred to me as 'sir' when we got our passes. Nice of him to do, really.

[Kitty June]

That's awesome.
I had to go to a hearing for child support and I went with my partner who is a trans man. When the guy came to find the father he looked to my partner.
We had a nice laugh from his confusion.  We had to tell him twice that it was me.
My partner isn't on hormones and I was wearing some light eyeshadow, but nothing more.
It gave me a nice lift for an otherwise unpleasant event
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[Peep]

I know I'm passing if I can get on a bus for a child ticket lol

[Mason]

I used to pass without even trying lol. Literally before I even considered transitioning, my whole life, I was called sir, he, him, etc. Even before starting HRT, as soon as I decided to transition, I just started using the men's room. It was actually quite a relief because now I didn't get the funny stares and questions in public bathrooms.

I love not having to correct people (now it's just a few people who have known me for many years that i have to remind to use my new name and correct gender pronouns).

[arice]

I used to pass regularly before I hit puberty... getting called a boy was my great delight...
Since then, I get the occasional "Sir" in winter when I am covered by enough gear that my body isn't visible. I also pass when I wear an old plaid jacket that belonged to my grandfather 20 years ago.
Just last week, I got "sir" while t-shirt shopping at my local thrift store... I was then asked for fashion advice by the person... a laugh in itself since I am a slob.

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[thorhugs]

Even before accepting myself, I was called "sir" frequently in really random situations. But I'll go with the most recent one:

I do mobile orders from Starbucks on my way to work and I hadn't updated the name on my account, so it was still my legal and very feminine name. When I got there, the store was basically empty. They were about to call out my drink, looked at the name, looked at me standing at the counter, like I couldn't possibly belong to such a name, and then they scanned the rest of the place before calling it out. Their confusion when I said it was me was pretty great.

I've since changed my name, thankfully.

[Moneyless]

Most recently I know I passed because I got kicked out of a pub for pretty much no reason, they thought I was a lot more drunk than I was. They never kick out girls though lol.

[Vincent Johnson]

The dressing rooms at a Wal-mart was gendered and I was trying some pants on. When I saw the rooms I looked at my mother and said, "Oh god." She knew that I hate being in situations like that, so she just said, "Just go ahead and do it, this will be the only time we will use these." So I went to go to the women's dressing room and the employee politely coughed and said, "Um, sir?" and pointed to the sign by the door. This was the first time someone couldn't read me, so I just glanced over to my mom and she was grinning real big. So, I was actually able to use the men's dressing room. (which was awesome for me)

[arice]

The dressing rooms at a Wal-mart was gendered and I was trying some pants on. When I saw the rooms I looked at my mother and said, "Oh god." She knew that I hate being in situations like that, so she just said, "Just go ahead and do it, this will be the only time we will use these." So I went to go to the women's dressing room and the employee politely coughed and said, "Um, sir?" and pointed to the sign by the door. This was the first time someone couldn't read me, so I just glanced over to my mom and she was grinning real big. So, I was actually able to use the men's dressing room. (which was awesome for me)

That's great!
Are gendered fitting rooms common where you are? Most stores here just have a row of stalls for anyone to use.

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[Vincent Johnson]

That's great!
Are gendered fitting rooms common where you are? Most stores here just have a row of stalls for anyone to use.

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At Wal-marts they are common. However, in some clothing shops like Factory Connection, JC Penny, and Target I believe (not sure, haven't been to Target in a while) have a row of stalls for anyone to use. There are a few other clothing stores with gendered dressing rooms that I have been to as well, but I tend to avoid them if at all possible.

[lil_red]

Went to the convenience store near my house today and got called sir. Not actually trying to pass right now so I was surprised. Haven't had this happen since before puberty.  So far it's been the highlight of my day.

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[Daydreamer]

One of the first times I passed was when I was dropping some clothing off at a local soup kitchen, and an older gentleman asked my mom if I was her son. It was so weird, since I made no real effort to "pass" and thought I looked like a mess.

Later than that, I think one of my favorites was getting read right over the phone when I got a random wrong number--which is really surreal since I feel like I still sound like a little kid.

[Midnightstar]

I have a similar experience actually
I have a best friend who i was walking down the road with and this kid road past us on a bike and asked my best friend if we where brother and sister. When my best friend told me what she said i looked at my best friend and said "You didn't have to say anything!" (She told her no) I was sad she said no but just the thought someone said "He, brother, Him" made me happy. I don't blame her for saying no though because this is before i came out or even new myself but funny i didn't know then lol.

[Peep]

I passed today - as my 12 year old brother. I'm 25 :C

[nameuser]

I passed today - as my 12 year old brother. I'm 25 :C

Oh that's the worst! I passed a couple of months ago - as my friend's child. My friend is 19, and does not have a child >~<

I also passed the other day at a pub - it came up that I was vegan, and the waitress was asking/teasing me about it. Somehow we went from there to the topic of how young I looked. She asked my age (20 ;-;), and if I get IDed a lot, then said that my veganism must be the key to my youthly visage. So that's my excuse now

"[Manly Name], why do you look like a strangely proportioned child?"

"It's my vegan powers." *seductive hair toss*

[CrazyCatMan]

People often call me sir if they are looking at me from behind, but when I turn around or talk to them they switch over to miss.

[Peep]

Oh that's the worst! I passed a couple of months ago - as my friend's child. My friend is 19, and does not have a child >~<

I also passed the other day at a pub - it came up that I was vegan, and the waitress was asking/teasing me about it. Somehow we went from there to the topic of how young I looked. She asked my age (20 ;-;), and if I get IDed a lot, then said that my veganism must be the key to my youthly visage. So that's my excuse now

"[Manly Name], why do you look like a strangely proportioned child?"

"It's my vegan powers." *seductive hair toss*

I'm vegan too! I'll definitely use that and being raised vegetarian as a reason I'm so short P: I was actually stunted a bit by childhood illness but that's more depressing than just being mildly malnourished

[PeterSteele]

I never passed 

[Rawb]

I was with my (transphobic) dad, buying bread at a little store near my house. And I held the door open for this lady who had her hands full of grocery things and she's all like, "Thank you, young man" and I just gave my dad this huge cheshire grin. He didn't say anything, but inwardly I was like 

[Katiepie]

I know that in the target close to me, the dressing rooms are not gendered, but the two different dressing rooms are one in the men's department, and the other in the women's department. So in a way it is not gender specific, but location gendered by the nature that they are in the middle of the gendered locations. I'm sure there they wouldn't mind anyone stepping to either which way.
I know for myself at work its a lot of the times hit or miss at a 50/50, when I used to wear my button up, I was misgendered a lot due to the fact that those tend to hide my body shape like crazy. But this isn't about the times not being gendered properly so without further ado....

Well with the recent change of management at work, the one upside to it is the dress code is less strict, and I am always wearing clothes that actually show my curves and actual girly figure, its more of an 80/20 of passing at the 80 mark.
Today was actually interesting, as one of my regular customers since I started working at this location, has seen pretty much my whole transformation as thus far. And today she finally noticed and then exclaimed, "Oh my gosh, BOOBIES!" Like she was totally excited. But then I assured her that it was all a slight facade as for now, seeing as I am not yet on hormones, but the way I am able to suppress my tummy as I do and kinda shift my body fat ever in the slight and double bra-ing it, is how I get my shape.
But anyways this still might be off topic.
So here we go, the last time I went to see my old manager at her old/new/old store, when I walked in, I was greeted as "welcome to [company name], miss" which made everything great! And so when I asked to see the manager. They called her up, so while I was waiting up front, well off to the side, I look down the long stretch of aisles, and then I see her and she thus throws her hands up in the air and just completely yells out "KKKKAAAAAATTTTTTEEEEEE!" Which was completely awesome that she wouldn't just call me by my workplace name as my last name.
But then again, it kinda makes me smile when someone decides to stop mid-sir, and then completely becomes apologetic correcting themselves immediately, that they actually looked up from their phone or the likes of actually paying attention.

Kate <3