Wonderful transition without any RLE

[warlockmaker]

I never dressed up as a female until post srs and just jumped into the full female life after my surgery. It's been wonderful and a very easy transition. This is contrary to all those who try and impose the RLE before srs. 

For me I was always going to have my srs and live my dream and be true to myself and to others. This ment for me not to live as full female before my surgeries. This was my being true to mysrlf and not to continue living a lie.

I believe that I have had an amazing transition ...maybe because I now live in Bangkok. I attend and have fully adapted myself by attending Thai language class, social functions, dinner parties, clubbing , yoga, gym, swimming , golf etc. All seems to be normal for me...I believe had I been forced to have RLE that I may have not adapted so easily ....I needed to feel secure ...I am an example that RLE is not necessary.

Mod Edit- posted edited to avoid invalidating those that live as their authentic self prior to or without SRS. TOS 9

[Megan.]

I'm glad you're happy, and interested to see how well taking a route that is not too common has worked well for you.

[Laura_7]

Congratulations 


Is your social role much different than you expected ?

Like being a bit more passive now ... etc ?


It can also be an advantage, leading people emotionally ...


hugs

[Devlyn]

I'm a huge fan of setting your own course. 

I'm just curious if you went through a therapist? I'm not a believer in mandatory therapy for people who know what they want, but as we know, it is pushed, especially to people who are using insurance to obtain hormones and surgeries. Naturally, skip that question if it's too personal. Here's an easier one. Who do you got in the World Series this year? 

Hugs, Devlyn

[FrancisAnn]

I agree. Too much is made of this RLE stuff. Once our bodies are correct it's so much easier to just live a normal life. I know for myself it would be so easy.......Having any unwanted body part around would bother any woman. Great for you girl friend. Thanks for your post.

[warlockmaker]

I'm a huge fan of setting your own course. 

I'm just curious if you went through a therapist? I'm not a believer in mandatory therapy for people who know what they want, but as we know, it is pushed, especially to people who are using insurance to obtain hormones and surgeries. Naturally, skip that question if it's too personal. Here's an easier one. Who do you got in the World Series this year? 

Hugs, Devlyn

I saw a therapist for 8 years.  We had this issue as he felt before srs that I should at least live 1 month as a female in Bangkok.  But he backed down ...we had many disagreements and he was right most of the time ...this subject however I knew he was wrong ..

Dr Bushong was such a sweetheart ...was really worried I would have post op depression after 3 or 4 weeks.. I never did.

I'm living my dream ....every night since I can remember i dreamed I was a female ...and now it's come true.....

[warlockmaker]

Congratulations 


Is your social role much different than you expected ?

Like being a bit more passive now ... etc ?


It can also be an advantage, leading people emotionally ...


hugs

I am just myself with hormones giving me a different perspective of the world. .I don't make a great effort to be feminine but let it happen naturally. This includes great empathy and less agressive. .. I am proud to be Trans ...I tell the new friends ...including the males that hit on me..

I had this big secret of being Trans for so long and now I'm liberated ....I don't want to hide a new secret and live in stealth.

I'm a powerful personality and am an Alpha male...it come thru clearly in my behavior.

[mmmmm]

I'm a powerful personality and am an Alpha male...

Feminine Alpha male? 

[Laura_7]

I am just myself with hormones giving me a different perspective of the world. .I don't make a great effort to be feminine but let it happen naturally. This includes great empathy and less agressive. .. I am proud to be Trans ...I tell the new friends ...including the males that hit on me..

I had this big secret of being Trans for so long and now I'm liberated ....I don't want to hide a new secret and live in stealth.

I'm a powerful personality and am an Alpha male...it come thru clearly in my behavior.

There are alpha females just as well so its no problem to mention imo ...
and there are switches who can switch between alpha and beta ...

I think female roles can be more varied, showing more emotion.
Wish you fun in trying out

hugs

[AnonyMs]

Thanks for posting this. Its good to have confirmation that there's other valid ways of doing things.

[karenpayneoregon]

I have always believed this was a good idea and did a modified version of the RLE in that I went the year prior to surgery androgynous. My mother told me that I could easily pass as male or female my entire life so that made things easy and my therapist was in agreement with this too.

On the flip-side there are some who know they are going to transition need time to acclimate to the gender they are transitioning too yet that should not mean a full year is truly needed.

There should be flexibilities with patients and therapist that the therapist can dictate say 12 months for one person, several months for another and another zero time for RLE.

Everyone is different and with that the standard rule should not apply to each person who will have surgery and transition. 

[kiwidownunder]

Hi There

Thank you so much for posting this I thought I was the only one who was doing this.

This is my plan also.
Due to my work situation RLE would be very difficult so I have a finance plan in place to retire in 3 years.
This would give my family who I am telling shortly time to adjust.

Have discussed a transition pave way with my therapist who is in agreement.
Started laser hair removal last year.
Changing to a trans friendly GP shortly then HRT and in 3 years time have  FFS BA SRS.
I will come home fully as the true ME.

Kiwi

[big kim]

I'm sure Roberta Cowell didn't live in role til after surgery in the early 50s

[cheryl reeves]

I guess i'm the weird one here for I believe in rle for transitioning. It would be easy for me to go rle for I already have a feminine body but I've gotten used to be rle in both male or female roles for I live in both world's.

[warlockmaker]

It's ok for those who want RLE but to force it on a person, of age, to do RLE,  is cruel and takes away our rights as human beings.

I also feel that forcing a person who feels uncomfortable in dressing up as a female when they feel they are not physically ready in appearance is barbaric.

Look at me today...I'm a happy female , I could not image the ridicule I would have received dressed up as a female when I looked and felt physically as a man.

[Ellement_of_Freedom]

It's ok for those who want RLE but to force it on a person, of age, to do RLE,  is cruel and takes away our rights as human beings.

I also feel that forcing a person who feels uncomfortable in dressing up as a female when they feel they are not physically ready in appearance is barbaric.

Look at me today...I'm a happy female , I could not image the ridicule I would have received dressed up as a female when I looked and felt physically as a man.

I wholeheartedly agree! I think I will transition in a very similar fashion to you. RLE for me right now would mean most likely losing my job and having an uncomfortable time at university. I'll do it in my own time.

[AnonyMs]

I wholeheartedly agree! I think I will transition in a very similar fashion to you. RLE for me right now would mean most likely losing my job and having an uncomfortable time at university. I'll do it in my own time.

To take it a step further, I'm all for doing SRS first and RLE some years later. If ever. I got enough problems without social transtion making it all worse.

[Ellement_of_Freedom]

To take it a step further, I'm all for doing SRS first and RLE some years later. If ever. I got enough problems without social transtion making it all worse.

If ever? You don't want to present in your true gender ever?

But further on that point .. I don't want to be tucking everyday, I'm very much for the finish all surgeries (bar maybe breast augmentation?) and then RLE approach. Everyone has their own journey, but this is what works for us it seems.

[AnonyMs]

You don't want to present in your true gender ever?

Want to, yes. Will do, not so sure.

[Katie]

I'm all for you gal. I never went to ta therapist. I simply did what I had to do........ So yes more power to you...