What was your best friends reaction when you told them you were trans

[stephaniec]

All my friend said was " cool "

[Eevee]

I didn't have a "best" friend until after I started transitioning. I had a couple friends (and some people who claimed they were at the time) who were totally accepting, so I appreciated having them around.

[Devlyn]

I showed her a picture of myself in a dress and wig. She said "If you're going to do that, you have to get boobs" 

Hugs, Devlyn

[Katiepie]

Hm... Which best friend are we talking about?

Well my best friend from high school, after not seeing him for well since high school, and after gaining contact back with him, he's supportive. His mom and sisters are really supportive as well, seeing as i have stopped by their family house on occasion.

My best friend of current is really supportive, and wants to destroy anyone who opposes me. Well not really destroy as in hurt, but like drop them down a notch and make them think logically.

Kate <3

[BeverlyAnn]

My best friend, outside of my wife, I guess would be my cousin.  Three weeks ago when I handed him my letter to read, halfway through the first page he said, "You know, this explains a lot of things when we were kids."  Halfway through the second page he asked, "Why didn't you do this years ago."  After finishing it he hugged me and said, "You've always been part of my life and you always will."

[stephaniec]

nice, I just got that reaction from my sister I just reconnected to after 20 years

[KyleeKrow]

Mine was pretty quiet at first... But then he said it didn't matter. Then he came over a few days later to hang out for a bit, and he had just moved back after living a long ways away for a few years. He didnt seem affected by it. So that was cool. We'll probably end up hanging out more.

[HeatherR]

my best friend for decades hasn't spoken to me since I came out over 3 years ago..  my more recent best friend, whom has earned that title, is my biggest advocate and I love her to pieces.

[Ms Grace]

I don't really have a best friend per se, but a number of good ones. Here are some of my favourite responses:

- "Again? Make up your mind!" (as a joke from a male friend who suffered through my first attempt 20 years earlier)
- "You're going to become a woman!" (from one female friend, as a joke, just before I was about to tell her. When I said "Yes" the stunned look on her face was hilarious.)
- "Sweetie, I always knew." (from a female friend since I was 17)
- "You could knock me down with a feather right now." (from a close female colleague who I had worked with for 14 years, she was very supportive though)

[sparrow]

I have a bunch of best friends.

wife: explosions, devastation.
female bff: Yeah okay, that's fine by me; you'll always be <deadname>... followed by some ugly generalizations about transwomen.  I'm not surprised because your hair has always been long and you're bisexual, etc.  Oops.  She was really trying.
male bff: Um, okay.  How are you doing?
... and since I was a grad student at the time...
male school bestie: wow, that's interesting!
female school bestie: hell yes we can go shopping!

[suzifrommd]

She is an ardent feminist who believed that gender was totally a social construct and that transgender people were fooling themselves into believing they were something they aren't.

Needless to say, we had some very interesting discussions.

She's a sweet, accepting, loving person. I see her torn between her feeling that it's important to accept me and her deep belief that there is no such thing as inborn gender.

[sparrow]

She is an ardent feminist who believed that gender was totally a social construct and that transgender people were fooling themselves into believing they were something they aren't.

That's funny... I can rationalize transgender identities on the basis that gender is entirely a social construct.  The problem is, that social construct is oppressive to people.  Transgender people are those who don't fit the guidelines of that oppressive social construct, and the way that they rationalize their status as a misfit is to place themselves into "the other box" (for binary folk, that is -- I don't believe in boxes).  And since it's all a social construct, we should tailor that social construct to do a minimum of harm: does it hurt her to acknowledge you as a woman?  Not as much as it hurts you for her to deny your womanhood.  If she needs proof, show her the numbers on suicide.

Of course, there are studies out there that provide evidence for a biological basis for transgender identities, but I prefer to operate within the logical framework of my "opponents" wherever possible.

[LizK]

My BFF since I was 17 simply said to me "It's about time, I really wanted to say something when you were getting married all those years ago but figured you had worked it out..so how are you?" and when I asked how she felt if I took her name as it was the name my mother would have given me she flipped out, reeling off all the great things about having her name.

Liz

[KelliHu]

My best friend is my wife, and we had the talk about a month ago.  She was open-minded and ultimately wanted me to be happy, but she was also deeply concerned and almost scared of our future.

And that's where we are now...

[Nicole]

My 2 best friends are still the only ones who I've ever told.

I didn't have a friend until we moved to Melbourne and by then i was out.

My whole family were good mainly because mum set the tone "like it or get out of our lives".

My friends were different though, they knew me as Nicole.
I became very close with 2 girls, Charlotte & Lisa, one night I broke down when we were talking about school, (I left high school, took a year off and went back to a tafe to do my VCE (years 11 & 12)).
I told them everything, they took it so well, both got straight up and gave me a hug, told me they would have never known and we got on with the night.
To this day it has never come up or been even the smallest issue.

I've been a bridesmaid at both their weddings.

[karenpayneoregon]

My best female friend said she was happy for me, now lets go shopping. She has been with me through all my surgeries, even came to California for GRS and nursed me after breast augmentation.

My closest male friend said, now you can go and purchase that Miata you have been talking about. I also work with him and he was the first person on my team I came out too. He said his belief was, everyone would accept me and out of roughly thirty co-workers only one did not accept me.

A handful of friends whom I had not seen for sometime that live close by said they didn't understand and wanted to talk to me in person. Each one of them was fine with my transition after we sat down and talked. The important thing in the conversations was I was fully prepared in what I would say and also dressed conservatively, like any other cisgender female would in day to day life.

[Emileeeee]

Ok

[cheryl reeves]

Mine told me he accepted and even though I identify as female I would always be his bro, sadly he died 3 yrs ago and I still miss him.  My brother is fine with it as long as I don't dress around him. One brother n law thinks because I'm this way I'm weak,told my sis that of he threatens me again he will find out how weak I really am,apparently she told him for since that chat he's been more friendly toward me. I don't live my life for others for my life is my life.

[Kacie Lynne]

ive known my best friend since i was like 8 and he was the one i was most scared to tell
and when i did he responded by telling me that we have been friends for a very long time
and he has always been there for me no matter what and he will always be there for me,
he was happy for me having finally deciding to be who i really am and supports me 110 %

[cindianna_jones]

I had good friends I worked with. They were nice but they tried to talk me out of it. We were all good Mormon church members so you can imagine where that conversation went. We didn't keep in touch after that. I made new friends. Good friends. Friends I can talk to about anything without fear of reprisal. I like it better now.