what's your fear level for being trans

[stephaniec]

I really have no concerns because I rarely leave my neighborhood or venture outside my neighborhood at night. I live in a college community with a lot of police around. Once in a while I get a little unnerved if I'm sitting in a sandwich shop in the early morning hours and a group of teens or a bunch of drunks come in, that can be quite unnerving.

[Mariah]

My fear level hasn't changed. It's not something I give anymore thought to now than before. Hugs
Mariah

[suzifrommd]

Never had a problem, but I try to avoid dodgy areas. I was always fearful for my safety (even as a man, I didn't scare anyone), so being trans hasn't changes things much.

[Deborah]

Since I'm ambiguously androgynous right now I rarely think about it.  Plus, for better or worse I do know how to fight and that mindset seems to be fixed and unchanging.

And I do like Suzi and avoid bad places while remaining acutely aware of my surroundings.


Sapere Aude

[cheryl reeves]

I've never been afraid. I can scare he'll out of any man when I let my facial hair grow out. As Cheryl they are left in wonder and leave me alone for I carry an aromia of trouble,so it's best to wonder and keep quiet. See Cheryl maybe my middle name,but my other middle name is TROUBLE.

[archlord]

i dont have any more fear then a woman does when alone on big city street  after midnight...  ciswoman have high rape statistic sadly.    Trans or not.



god... just noticed im a bit over 7 month HRT. time flies since month 5  :O

[KyleeKrow]

Pretty high, but getting easier. I think it's mainly just getting past old trauma for me. I tend to be hypervigilant, though.

[KristinaM]

My fear/anxiety had died down pretty well until this fiasco with HB2 here in NC.  Now I look over my shoulder more whenever I'm somewhere unfamiliar.

[stephaniec]

I get somewhat apprehensive when I need to go to the bathroom. I was shopping at Target yesterday and felt a major weight off my sholder when I went to the ladies room because of their new policy.

[MichaelaLJ1972]

Sadly, most of my fear is experienced right at home. I've said before that I am my dad's caregiver and he's not supportive. A few days ago we had an argument and he had the nerve to tell me that I was a disgrace to my mother's memory because I am changing my body. Forget the fact that my mother was very supportive of me and was going to help me start my transition before she passed away. So, I spend a lot of time trying to hide all the changes going on with my body while I am at home. I can be a little more open and free at work, but I still don't feel like I can pass so I will hide my breasts as best I can when I am out... it's getting more difficult because they are definitely growing quickly, even on low dose. My dad has at least accepted (reluctantly) that I am wearing wigs, but that's about it. He even bitches about that though.

[allisonsteph]

I've been full time for about two and a half years. I never had any fear until the last couple of weeks. I've been harassed at the shelter I am staying in and on the streets. I refused a housing placement from social services over fears for my safety. I have no idea why it's starting now.


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[RobynD]

I think also that i have about the same fear level as any woman. I live in liberal city, i don't venture in unfamiliar places late at night, i go with people when it is appropriate.

My mom always use to say not a lot of good happens after midnight, which is sort of silly but has some elements of truth to it. I'm sleeping before that hour 95% of the time.

[karenpayneoregon]

Everyone is different coupled with where they live in regards to society feeling on transgender and cross-dressers.   In the beginning I had reservations living in a small town but once out into a larger city all thoughts on not being accepted went away.

[Beth Andrea]

Same as before. Really it's not much different than when I was going to school and being bullied, as far as "do I go out today or not..?" I just take a deep breath and que cera, cera.

One of the few times I'm glad to be built "like a linebacker" LOL 

Fear does not, must not, stop me.

[Emileeeee]

I've never had a problem where I live, but I still get a little nervous at night. I've seen other people in the area get asked if they were trans whether they were or not, so the fact that people are not only looking for us, but telling us when they spot us, puts me on edge.

[cindianna_jones]

I live in a very transphobic community. I'm out to everyone I know and I'm sure there are others who know. I don't think about it much but when I do, I get a touch of paranoia thinking that someone might take a shotgun to me. Oddly enough, I worry about that more at home than when I'm in town. I live in a remote area.

Many neighbors used to brag about the low crime rate... "We don't have much crime here. We own a back hoe." I've heard that from more than a few people. The thing is... they're not joking. People talk around here. There have been lots of stories about bodies show up in weird places. I know that some of them are true.

[RobynD]

Cindi - are you sure your not living in that community from "children of the corn"? Do they do unsettling rituals or anything? 

I use to read a lot of Stephen King when i was young, i would be likely be freaked out hearing about their crime prevention measures.

Definitely time you moved north

[TG CLare]

Generally I try to be aware of my surroundings and what is going on.

The other day I was waiting for someone when I found this mid-20's man staring at me. Not in a checking me out stare but a defiant, angry one. I just stared him right back and after a while I just said, Why don't you take a picture instead, if you're that interested?" That's when he called me a f***ing ->-bleeped-<-. Doesn't even know my preferences and thinks I was interested in him? Full of himself that was for sure.

Overall I have had no problems apart from the occasional smart ass comment but I can fire them back as good as the next person.

Just be aware of what and who is around you and be careful when the bars let out. Drunken young men do not take lightly to being fooled by someone they thought was a real woman and not a trans woman, especially in a group.

Love,
Clare

[HappyMoni]

I was getting less and less afraid. Now with the clarification by Obama on the rules for the bathroom, I believe someone somewhere is going to pay a price. Some wacko will see us having the "special right" of being able to go to the bathroom and think it is their duty to put us in our place. Flying under the radar in a sense had the advantage for trans people of not putting us upfront in people's minds. Of course, no real progress can be made without increased visibility.
Moni

[Laura_Squirrel]

I'm not worried about it. I have noticed a few looks and whatnot recently. But, I think that it's a result of all of the stuff about trans this and trans that lately. If someone wants to actually come at me, I would rip their eyes out of their head.