Tried but failed to understand

[Larisa]

Ive been wondering more again what it feels like to be comfortable and okay in your own body. I look and I wonder what like for guys how it feels to be okay in their own body. They never seem like hey I want what she has or anything like that, they are fine who they are and I know it never crosses their mind. For me, I think about it everyday why do I not have a girls body when Im a girl inside. I dont know peace. I dont know what that is. Trying to understand always ends up no good.

[Dena]

It means you can think about things and others without any distractions. You can truly live in and enjoy the moment without any distractions. You happiness is greater and your discomfort less. Think about laying in bed waiting for sleep to take you and thinking happy thoughts without the discomforts entering your thoughts. Any transgender thoughts are in your past and not your present.  It's worth all the time and trouble to reach that point in your life and I hope someday soon you know what it feels like first hand.

[JoanneB]

It only means you aren't "Cis".

It took me a good 40 years to come to the "And Now What?" point vs, avoiding the issue altogether. With "Avoidance" usually being the easier route. Until "The excrement hits the air handler" one too many times. Which.... it inevitably does.

Cis people do not think, FEEL, how we do. Most cannot imagine. Like we cannot imagine how it must be to NOT wonder...... It simply means we are.... Trans

Well that was easy. Now What? The hard work of sorting out where on the spectrum you are, TODAY. Where being a moving target as we being growing and learning what it is to be... YOU. Something else Cis people never seem to really fret over

[Rachel]

I once asked my therapist ( after I had taken my E by IM the day before) is this how cis feel every day, while still having body dysphoria but reduced by the hormone euphoria and expressing. She said we will never know. I am hoping and working to feel ok with my body. I know for me, planning, and achieving milestones has helped me to feel better about myself. I may never feel comfortable in my own skin but I am achieving less discomfort.

I often go to LGBT friendly places. For dinner tonight I was in New Hope, PA which is LGBT friendly. We ate in a LGBT friendly place and got chocolate at a LGBT friendly shop. While there the owner of Havana ( LGBT friendly) walked in and we had a good laugh with him and the owners of the chocolate shop. Everyone there was LGBT except my wife. Point being be in friendly places and be yourself. This may help you to feel better about yourself.

[Kylo]

and I know it never crosses their mind.

I think you hit the nail on the head.

For cis people, it's not noticeable as a problem. They probably do not think about it unless something occurs to prompt them to. I imagine it's just another aspect of their lives that is "invisible" because it does not bother them, even if it does dictate some aspects of life. It's like breathing. Completely unnoticeable and unconscious - until something stops you from breathing.