Gf DELIBERATELY misgendered me and said things to make me dysphoric.

[Blackwaters427]

My gf and I were having an argument because my blood sugar was really low and we have very little food in the house and I got mad in front of her friends. So she said I was having "throwing a fit" and I pointed out that she has "fits" every month and she said "yeah well it's natural for me" and I replied "yeah well it's natural for me too" and she said "you're not even on your hormones yet". I wasn't even talking about the hormones. I was referring to my blood sugar! So anyway I said FU to her and she punched me and left the room. and then I overheard her complaining to her friends about how hard it is to date a trans woman and how "maybe I want to get liposuction so I can have a flat stomach but -he- has to spend all -his- money to try and be a fake woman". Word for word.

I'm going to have a very serious talk with her. I'm giving her ONE more chance. Although I don't know what to say to her.

[Elis]

Yeah I'd leave. She sounds emotionally abusive. Good luck

[kanad3]

Some things just aren't fair to mention during a fight and this is one of em. Probably gonna happen multiple times in the future as well.

[Sophia Sage]

There's no chance here. 

[Lady Sarah]

So ... She expects you to forgo your own happiness, and basically give her all your money? This does not sound like a healthy option for you.
Since you stated that you will give her "one more chance", I feel you already know this is a caustic relationship that will put you in more misery if you opt to stay with her.
She might apologize later, and then start up again. Do not be fooled. Do not forget.

[SueNZ]

Diabetes can make us do and say things we wouldn't normally say. Since I don't know you or your partner or how your relationship works then I won't offer advice.
Sometimes picking the time to talk events through on the quiet can make moving forward easier.
I do hope that with good communication you both find a resolution.


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[Amanda_Combs]

My gf and I were having an argument because my blood sugar was really low and we have very little food in the house and I got mad in front of her friends. So she said I was having "throwing a fit" and I pointed out that she has "fits" every month and she said "yeah well it's natural for me" and I replied "yeah well it's natural for me too" and she said "you're not even on your hormones yet". I wasn't even talking about the hormones. I was referring to my blood sugar! So anyway I said FU to her and she punched me and left the room. and then I overheard her complaining to her friends about how hard it is to date a trans woman and how "maybe I want to get liposuction so I can have a flat stomach but -he- has to spend all -his- money to try and be a fake woman". Word for word.

I'm going to have a very serious talk with her. I'm giving her ONE more chance. Although I don't know what to say to her.

Once again reading one of your posts makes me very angry.  I've thought of a dozen or so malicious reasons for her actions.  But I am no empath or prognosticator, so I can't know her heart; and it doesn't really matter.  What she is consistently doing to you is not good for you, and my honest opinion is that you would be better off without her.  But ultimately it is your choice and you should make the healthy choice for yourself and your life.  I wish you all the peace and happiness in the world.  [emoji170]

[Jean24]

My gf and I were having an argument because my blood sugar was really low and we have very little food in the house and I got mad in front of her friends. So she said I was having "throwing a fit" and I pointed out that she has "fits" every month and she said "yeah well it's natural for me" and I replied "yeah well it's natural for me too" and she said "you're not even on your hormones yet". I wasn't even talking about the hormones. I was referring to my blood sugar! So anyway I said FU to her and she punched me and left the room. and then I overheard her complaining to her friends about how hard it is to date a trans woman and how "maybe I want to get liposuction so I can have a flat stomach but -he- has to spend all -his- money to try and be a fake woman". Word for word.

I'm going to have a very serious talk with her. I'm giving her ONE more chance. Although I don't know what to say to her.

I wanna tell you that people can change, because they do, but your safety and emotional well being can't be compromised while trying to give her that one last chance. I probably wouldn't give her the chance for a few reasons, as something similar happened to me. I was establishing a relationship with someone and and about 9 months into it, I found out they were using me the whole time as a stepping stone to something better. When I confronted them about it they said something to the effect of no girl will ever want to go out with a guy who wants his **** chopped off. I told them I was transgender the day I met them too and they were supposedly fine with it. 

If you want to try it sit down with her and talk to her sincerely.
-Ask her if she meant "HE" and if she does/could ever view you as a woman.
-Ask her if she loves you and wants to stay together.
-Ask her if she knows that what she did was extremely serious emotional and physical abuse.
-Ask her if she plans on getting therapy for her emotional problem (there's something very wrong with assaulting your girlfriend in front of your friends and then putting her down too)
-Gauge her attitude while you're asking her these questions. If she isn't sorry or sympathetic (impartial or confrontational).

If she's sorry, sympathetic, can/does see you as a woman, knows that what she did was wrong, wants to stay together, and wants to get help for her problems then I would say yes. Otherwise NO, and you must end your relationship immediately.

[Valkyrie_2]

Hmm... Looking at this, it seems to be an argument brought about by hunger on both sides. I see nothing more than that and hurt feelings on both sides. She phoned her friends to relieve her stress and you published your feelings online. I think the real solution is for both of you to go shopping for food or to visit a food bank.


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