as a person who has transitioned, how is your dating life

[Alyssa M.]

Before I transitioned, I had one serious relationship that lasted a little over a year, and one ambiguous relationship that lasted like two months with a woman I wasn't really into, and I really didn't even date anyone other than that.

Almost as soon as I started transitioning — at 30 — my dating life took off. Queer chicks like me a lot better than straight chicks ever did, and the dynamic is just much more open. Heck, straight guys like me about as much as straight women ever did. I've had several moderately serious relationships (with women; I'm not into guys) and I've been with my partner for five years.

So ... night and day.

And by the way, it's not like I ever passed very well before FFS. People knew I was trans upon meeting me. They just liked me better anyway. Also, I know I would personally be much more nervous dating guys, if I were into them.

[kittenpower]

Hi Kitten!!! Our stories have a lot in common and I am a lifelong cat girl too!!!!

Here's to married life!!! ...Onward we go

Ashley ='.'=<{meow}

Hi Ashley, Yes married life is good! Cheers 😊

[2cherry]

I struggle to feel attracted to anybody when I'm not fully engaged with my body. 

Jump-starting that engagement is a discipline, I think.  The discipline of dilation, for example -- that gets me in my body, and I almost always use it as an opportunity to get myself off.  Long bubble baths.  Exercise.  Being nice to my hair, having good food, lotioning my skin.  When I start taking care of my body, I get out of my head, and then I find I'm not having that second stream-of-consciousness nattering in the background... and then, almost as if by magic, people respond better to me.  It's a positive feedback loop.

All of this is just to facilitate our ability to let go...

Interesting!  yes, I have not been very nice to my body... it endured many surgeries, and I even had to calm my body down a bit before every surgery... saying that it would be alright. Maybe I need to take care of my body a bit more. Nurture and spoil it a little bit. 

[juliehope]

My wife was supportive until I was honest and told her of my desire to go all the way and that there had been a gradual change in my sexuality; since coming out; then taking blockers and hormones. Since then I have be too scared to date, but hopefully after GCS!!
Love Jools x

[Emileeeee]

It was going great until I realized I was straight while in a gay marriage.

[caitlynnN]

I have a great girlfriend Adrianna and we have been together since January of this year.Adrianna is a genetic female and I am her first transgendered female she is dating.Things are going well so far and supporting me through my transition which has been a year.Adrianna said she will love me still if I decide not to have the GRS and support my decision on this part.

[rose]

Too many guys all of them want one thing [emoji850]


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[Sarah7]

About 8-9 months after the last piece of my transition (SRS), I realized/admitted I had feelings for a friend and made a move. We've been together 4 years now. We're both (graduate) students, and I'm Canadian and she's American so it's been a struggle to figure out how to live together. We've only managed about 30% of our relationship in the same home so far, which is frustrating. We're going to get married soon--not cause of any great commitment to the ceremony, but to make immigration easier.

I love her more than anyone or anything. And she puts up with my crazy. So I guess I'd say... pretty good? 

[2cherry]

Right now, I am thinking I will always be alone...

I'm not into dating websites, tinder, etc... so I am simply waiting until someone hits on me and then see where things go. I am open to it, but I am afraid. And I guess I can wait a long time. I am afraid of guys, afraid to tell/find out and all the stress around it. I am BI, but I don't find much attraction in females. Not sure, maybe it's my destiny or fate. It's a crazy world, so I would not be surprised.

But if I am honest, I don't search for anything. I am an extremely private person. So the odds I find someone through social interaction is pretty slim. Someone has to have the balls to approach me in a store or on the street, or nothing will fly.

A random guy was hitting on me today, as I went shopping. He told me I looked perfect. Not sure what he meant by that... I guess I take it as a compliment, otherwise this whole second guessing business starts messing with my mind again. No need to gaslight myself. 

When that happens, I shrug it off. I don't know what I can do about it. Maybe I am lazy, or maybe I don't care enough.

I am kinda ready for something... but I am not sure what/where/how/who/

[I Am Jess]

I was in a relationship before and during my transition with a very wonderful woman.  She was with me through GCS but I felt I had to break it off because my sexual feeling had begun to change.  I am attracted to transwomen and to a certain extent guys.  I was never attracted to a man's member until recently.  I absolutely love having sex with my new vagaina.  It feels so natural.  I am now dating a pre-op transwoman but we live on opposite coasts.  We see each other every couple of weeks and it's good.   

[juliehope]

Hi Jess

Love you girl !!!

How did we both end up becoming attracted to a man's member?

Wonderful that you are loving sex I am having surgery early next year and worried about losing my ability to orgasm. Since hormones and blockers this is already very difficult.

Take care

Love Jools x

[jujubes1986]

Hi Jess

Love you girl !!!

How did we both end up becoming attracted to a man's member?

Wonderful that you are loving sex I am having surgery early next year and worried about losing my ability to orgasm. Since hormones and blockers this is already very difficult.

Take care

Love Jools x

I'm 2 months post op and I've teen trying to pleasure myself but I can't seem to climax... it's bothering me


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[tgirlamg]

I'm 2 months post op and I've teen trying to pleasure myself but I can't seem to climax... it's bothering me


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Keep at it girl!!!... I was able to climax at 4 weeks but it took a lot of work due to post op numbness on the surface... Digital manipulation worked much better than vibration which quickly numbed things up... I can climax now just about as easily I did with male anatomy

Onward we go!!!

Ashley 😀