Why Crossdressing?

[barbie]

When I can get the voice and makeup right, I will attempt to go out as a woman on evenings and weekends. That will be a big step forward (for me at least).

Yes. It should be a big step. Good luck! (and enjoy it).

barbie~~

[Yanira]

The word which comes to mind when I am cross dressed and playing the part of Yanira is 'carefree'. It is also fun and I really do think women have more fun than men. The process of trying on earrings and all the other stuff is fun for cisgirls and so for men like us who have a penchant for this kind of thing and do it periodically, it becomes super fun! I often think of the Cindy Lauder song 'Girls just wanna have fun'.

On a deeper level I feel more gentle and I have come to accept that I am lucky to be able to do this. This is not to say that I don't enjoy many facets of my male life. As they say, variety is the spice of life 

[barbie]

I often think of the Cindy Lauder song 'Girls just wanna have fun'.

Yes. It is indeed a funny song. I was impressed.



barbie~~

[Joanna2]

I don't understand, why would crossdressing be alleviating?   They're just garments after all, just pieces of fiber.   So what's the big deal?   Why would people be compelled to put on skirts/makeup or whatever?   It doesn't make much sense to me...

A rather ignorant post. Not in a anti-crossdressing way (although your position is obvious) but in your genuine ignorance of the importance of clothes in society, in general. So, let's just explore this way... If you woke up one day in panties and stockings, bra and dress, would you immediately panic and run to change? Why? What's the big deal? They are just garments after all, just pieces of fiber.  Why would you be compelled to run and change or whatever? Would you feel "alleviated" once you got back in your man clothes that so identify you? It IS important, transforming, and alleviating. But you knew that because it was obviously important enough to you to seek this site and make an account just to ask.

[aaajjj55]

Although this is an old thread and the OP has not been active for some time, I think you need to delve slightly deeper into the question and its background before judging it.  If you look back at the OP's other posts (which you are able to do now you've hit 15 posts) you'll see that they are trying desperately to be male but are plagued with the doubts about gender that we all have.  Granted, the original post could have been worded better but, in the context of their other posts, I think the OP is trying to say 'I'm a guy, I want to stay a guy but why does female clothing have this calming effect on me?"  In other words, the OP is trying to understand their feelings rather than express a negative view about the feelings of others.

And, of course, we all know the answer...!

[Joanna2]

Although this is an old thread and the OP has not been active for some time, I think you need to delve slightly deeper into the question and its background before judging it.  If you look back at the OP's other posts (which you are able to do now you've hit 15 posts) you'll see that they are trying desperately to be male but are plagued with the doubts about gender that we all have.  Granted, the original post could have been worded better but, in the context of their other posts, I think the OP is trying to say 'I'm a guy, I want to stay a guy but why does female clothing have this calming effect on me?"  In other words, the OP is trying to understand their feelings rather than express a negative view about the feelings of others.

And, of course, we all know the answer...!

You are right, ignorant on my on part. Should have done my research. It wasn't the actual question but more just the way it was worded that made me a little defensive. I wasn't as gracious as others in their answer. Maybe a trait I have to do better with.

[Ciara]

I don't understand, why would crossdressing be alleviating?   They're just garments after all, just pieces of fiber.   So what's the big deal?   Why would people be compelled to put on skirts/makeup or whatever?   It doesn't make much sense to me...

For me it is an emotional release. For 58 years I have lived a man's life while knowing that I am actually a woman. This leads to a lot of stress inside. Wearing female clothing gives me such relief from that stress. I know that I will never have the curves, the boobs, the uterus and everything else that physically defines a woman, but I can have some of the things that socially defines a woman.
It helps, it makes me feel normal, it makes me feel happy, it makes me feel good............and what can be wrong with that!!

Ciara.

[RobynD]

The "its just cloth" argument is brought up a lot by people. I think a lot of people struggle like the OP to understand themselves and why an activity such as this is so needed, when it creates personal turmoil for them. I have so much empathy for them.

Identity is a strong human need and when we feel it lacking we usually go out and try to find it.

[elkie-t]

Breaking taboos is liberating...


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

[CDGwen76]

I'm going to say for myself it's a way to express the feminine or anima (?) side of me. For most of my life I've been around mainly male figures and very few or limiting female ones. I hope to get in touch with the other side of me and I'm noticing when I do put on the clothes etc I'm more calm and passive. Just let the male side go. All the pressure and stress. Now would I want to do it a lot? I don't know yet. But it is a experience to try and switch sides and see how it might feel or work. I would love to find a gathering of like minded people to hang out with dressed and experience the social side of that. Some gurl time lol. But those are my thoughts and reasons for doing it.

[gail123]

Why Crossdress?
Why indeed?
Part of the allure is the desire to transgress societal norms.
This desire is latent,to some degree, in many of us, and Crossdressing is a harmless, relatively safe way, to engage in transgressive, deviant behavior.
Some of us discover that our desire to transgress is fulfilled through Crossdressing, and, in fact, Crossdressing leads to an awakening of a deeper nontransgressive understanding of our true nature.
This discovery is both comforting and disturbing, as it imbues the simple act of dressing with a deeper significance, and forces one to act on that discovery.
Why Crossdress?
Why indeed?

[Rayna]

I would love to find a gathering of like minded people to hang out with dressed and experience the social side of that. Some gurl time lol. But those are my thoughts and reasons for doing it.

I've found a gay bar that hosts a weekly drag queen show. While I'm not excited about the queens, it brings a clientele that's an appropriate environment for me to experiment with cross dressing. Too bad it's across town on a Sunday night.

Also there's a local amateur burlesque troupe, and their shows likewise bring a supportive and open crowd.

Sent from my Victor 9000 using Tapatalk

[AnneK]

Several years ago, I used to go to "Fetish Night".  There, anything goes, including crossdressing.  About the only thing that wasn't allowed, besides nudity, was white pumps after Labour Day.   

[MissAmandaCrossdress]

Why cross dress?  For me, it is very relaxing, a wonderful stress reliever.  Plus, I can enjoy being the REAL me. 

[Dena]

Welcome to Susan's Place Amanda. I guess we missed you with your first post but I saw you moving around a few minutes ago so I decide to watch for you. Feel free to ask any questions you have and enjoy what we have to offer. If there is anything I can help with, let me know.

A Cautionary Note:
This is a public forum so please remember when posting that The Internet Never Forgets, and the various web crawlers and archival sites out there may retain information that you post.

We cannot ensure that any information you share on the site will be protected from public view and/or copying or reproduction. This warning is also listed in the Terms of Service listed below.

If you give out personal information on Susan's you are responsible for any consequence.


I also want to share some links with you. They include helpful information and the rules that govern the site.  It is important for your enjoyment of the site to take a moment to go through them

Things that you should read

Site Terms of Service & Rules to Live By	Standard Terms & Definitions	Post Ranks (including when you can upload an avatar)
Reputation rules	News posting & quoting guidelines	Photo, avatars, & signature images policy

[rose]

I'm my country crossdress is crime even for trans MTF
When they catch trans girl dressing a feminine clothes or putting makeup they arrest her
For crossdressing and homosexuality
They don't care If the person gay or trans in their eyes it's all the same ( homosexuality crossdress )

[babu]

I always was drawn to more feminine clothes but ignored it almost entirely for decades. Then one day I tried cross dressing properly and realized I had been doing 'me' all wrong.

I floored myself how it felt, things just felt 'proper'. Standing, sitting, walking, breathing, everything, and even looked a bit pretty. I don't mean to be rude but ever since then it has made my old self seem like a disease. It might not be the healthiest way to look at it, but it represents how different, how much more 'me' I am when I be me. I cannot describe it but to say being male feels polluted.

To explain why, is harder. Feminine to me is about health and happiness and not sexual, not in any way actually for me. If people are turned on by that then great, but for me sex is a different and more psychological. Beauty then is just a synergy of health and happiness, which seems to be mostly confidence as the measure of that inner beauty. The clothes then compliment how I feel. I can not explain it other then it feels 'right'.

[Andrea Pelloti]

For me it is just that I absolutely adore the female form, image, the porecelain doll make up etc.  There is something sexual within that but I don't always cross dress for that sexual urge.

I love high heels but not just any.  I love the sky high non platform types and I am very picky about the arch/transition from the sole to the heel.  Think Louboutin 120s and that is me going giddy. lol

If we reach an era where heels are just normal unisex items (like the 70s but everything not just platforms) then I will wear high heels all day in the house and out in public.

Problem being though now, that I am 100% male in thought and physically.  I do not see myself as a female.  I do not want to identify as female.  I am as straight as they come.  I just love how women look (however shallow my taste there maybe) and I love dressing up in clothes, heels, makeup, wig that emulates that ideal image I have.

It does help that I am very slim and always have been so if I don't look at my face in the mirror I can imagine I am looking at a female in the mirror and not me dressed up in (perceived) women's clothes.

So rather than asking why? I would suggest my answer would be "Why not?" I enjoy it.  I like doing it.  I am not harming anyone.  To me it would be the same as asking why do some people wear sports clothes when they aren't playing sport.  Or wear any other style of clothing.  The reason normally is because they like the look.  In my case it is the same.  The fact I am 100% male in mind and body (and want to be perceived as the man I amY) is a hindrance more than a confusion or abnormality.

I like doing it and I want to do it.  So why not?

Roll on the unisex heels era.

[barbie]

Roll on the unisex heels era.

Yes. I think it is possible. As I know, men first wore high heels, probably in France.

barbie~~