I feel the frustration. I am trying to do my name change and then once that goes through, gender marker on a passport card (because I live where there's one of /those/ bathroom bills and I want to be able to prove I'm male) and it's been so frustrating. The paperwork, the background check waiting, the expense... So annoying. Especially since I hope to get top surgery this summer and if I do, I'll just be going back and changing all my documents AGAIN for the gender marker (except the passport since it'll be done).