Transgendered? Or Homosexual?

[Hazumu]

Post ENDA betrayal, it appears that being Gay or Lesbian are better than being Trans.  Transgender appear to be the bogeymen that the Fundies employ to scare people into behaving as they wish.

I heard from a couple of friends and relatives when I came out to them that if it came to that (transitioning to Female,) they were okay with me being gay instead.

If a super-power (God, space aliens, etc.,) offered you the chance to start over again, but you could only choose to be either homosexual or transgendered, what would you choose?

Karen

[cindianna_jones]

Can we be both?   >

Okay...

If I had to be gay, I'd rather be natal female.

Otherwise, I'd choose to live my life over again.  I'd probably take a couple of different turns on my journey's path, but the results would be oh so similar.

Cindi

[Hazumu]

Can we be both?   >

Nah -- the super being gets to choose your body sex.  You get to choose either that you prefer those whose sex matches yours, or you get a mismatch between sex and gender.

Double  > > back at'cha!!

Karen

[cindianna_jones]

Okay... I could never be gay being a guy.  That's the bottom line.

So I pick ... trans.

Now, can the super being turn back the clock so I can do this play over again?  I think I could get my act together a bit better and sooner the second time around.

Cindi

[Christo]

cant be a homosexual (lesbian).  I aint a chick & dont wanna be one.  I chose transgender.  ftm transgender

[Shana A]

I'm trans, and while it hasn't always been easy, I wouldn't trade it. IMO, there should be an option for both, I identified as gay/bi before coming out as transgender.

z

[nickie]

If I had to pick one (as if I has any choice) I'd pick Lesbian, because that would mean I am genetic female, right? And I wouldn't have to be "out" if I didn't want to, and I wouldn't have to bother with guys.

[Kimberly]

Transgendered     - 11 (78.6%)
Homosexual    - 3 (21.4%)
   
Total Voters: 14

Wow, I am in the minority?
Why on earth would I want to be transgendered?

Granted I am bi now so the notion of homosexuality doesn't exactly bother me, but even so. What makes a mind/body mismatch more attractive than congruency with sexual attractions that the current society doesn't like?

^*shrug* I don't see it myself, but isn't diversity wonderful?

That said, given the same conditions and the same reasons I would do this transsexual stuff again for her, so, ^*shrug* Tis just a life after all. (But you have to understand that I am aware both of prelife and of other lives. One unpleasant life, this one, isn't THAT big of a deal in the scheme of things. Not that it helps the here and now but.. ^*shrug* things could be SO MUCH worse.)
Sand in the wind...

[ChildOfTheLight]

Transgendered.  I'll stick with what I am.  I also like being asexual.  So not homosexual.

[Desire]

Every time I've tried to answer a question like this it leads to a huge conversation. I'm transitioning MtF and I have always been attracted to men. I'm still anatomically male so would I be gay? I've always considered myself female so am I straight? If I can afford the surgery at some point will I be a straight woman? For what it is worth I consider myself a heterosexual transsexual woman so I guess I don't fit in the poll anywhere.   

[Keira]

Desire,

I think it depends.
If you go out with gay males
then I'd say you'd have to be considered a gay male
at that time because they are certainly not females!!

But, if your going out with bi's then you'd be
whatever you self-declare yourself to be
no matter what point of transition your in.

[Kaeren]

I choose transgendered. Here is why.

For me the definition of being alive is to change. Everything is continuously changing around us.  Why not change ourselves then ? Only a difference can give a connection. Chosing homosexual is chosing not to change.  Not to allow any difference, not even for your sexual partner. 

Homosexuals choose to put the change outside of themselves. While Transgendered people put the change inside of themselves. Both are possible but my way has always been to put the difference inside of me.  It is the choice for external peace through internal war.

[Desire]

I'm attracted to straight males......so I am declaring myself.....I'm still confused....I guess my mother was right. I aspire to be a straight female...how's that.

[Steph]

Every time I've tried to answer a question like this it leads to a huge conversation. I'm transitioning MtF and I have always been attracted to men. I'm still anatomically male so would I be gay? I've always considered myself female so am I straight? If I can afford the surgery at some point will I be a straight woman? For what it is worth I consider myself a heterosexual transsexual woman so I guess I don't fit in the poll anywhere. 

That's simple...

If you are a mtf and attracted to men only then you are heterosexual.

Steph

[Sheila]

When I was born I was really screwed up. My thought processes didn't match my body, so what do you do? The only thing you can do is change the body. You can't change your thought processes. The key word here is change that means going from something to something else. That means a transition. So, I guess I would have to say for a while, I was in transition and now my body equals my thought processes. I'm no longer in transition, at least in the gender part of life. So that leaves one part of sex orientation when there are clearly at least four that I know of and probably more, and that is hetero, homo, bi and asexual. I think that cover them. To ask a question are you a homosexual or are you a homosexual? I'm neither. So the powers to be can kiss my sweet oops.
Sheila

[Suzie]

I choose transgendered because you said that's the one the fundies like the least.

And if there is anything else they don't like, that's what I want to be as well 

No one is going to dictate to me what I should or shouldn't be or force me to compromise who I am, just because it fits into their nice and tidy little made-up reality.  I've played that game and it caused me profound unhappiness.

xo,
Suzie

[Kaeren]

Well said !

I'm also like that. Don't force me or you'll be in trouble.

[Rachael]

fail@ topic....
im a straight woman, being born wrong wont change that in the slightest...
i am a woman, and im not gay.
R

[Kate]

fail@ topic....
im a straight woman, being born wrong wont change that in the slightest...
i am a woman, and im not gay.
R

I don't think the original question was about what we ARE, but about which problematic life (homosexual or transgendered) we'd rather live, given a choice of being born again.

I'd still be transsexual (not merely transgendered), given a choice, even though I realize transsexuals can't escape their pain (except via transitioning), while being gay is only a problem in that OTHER people can make life difficult for them at times. The irony is that after transitioning, many transsexuals will just blend back into the fabric of society, while gays will probably always be considered outside the mainstream.

There's just something kinda noble and (tragically) beautiful about being transsexual. Don't get me wrong, I know it's awful, I know it hurts. But it did give my life purpose and meaning, and offered me the chance to embark on a journey of self-discovery few people on this planet will ever experience.

~Kate~

[Rachael]

noble? beautiful? gives life purpose?
WHAT ARE YOU SMOKING? srsly.....
it does nothing but ruin lives... id REALLY examine your reasons for transition tbh, because i utterly hate this... my life has meaning, and you dont need to suffer this much to 'discover yourself'
if i could be born again, identically to now... id kill myself. it would save a lot of pain.
what life is harder? well, depends where and when you live, but tbh, both are  equally bad in thier own way, being gay can be a non issue, being trans will always be suffering... id honestly prefer to be dead than transition if it came round again.
R