Changes

[Xxirishbratxx]

Friday, I helped my husband get rid of his chest and back hair. I don't know why this upsets me so much. It's just hair.

I feel like I'm losing him physically. I know I'll never lose him emotionally. I don't want his looks to change. I don't want him to permanently look female. I'm not attracted to women.

I have this gigantic fear that if he transitions, I will lose him altogether.

Some days I feel perfectly fine with him considering himself trans and other days I cry on end for hours. Did anyone else experience this when their. S/O came out?

-Kat

[LizK]

Friday, I helped my husband get rid of his chest and back hair. I don't know why this upsets me so much. It's just hair.

I feel like I'm losing him physically. I know I'll never lose him emotionally. I don't want his looks to change. I don't want him to permanently look female. I'm not attracted to women.

I have this gigantic fear that if he transitions, I will lose him altogether.

Some days I feel perfectly fine with him considering himself trans and other days I cry on end for hours. Did anyone else experience this when their. S/O came out?

Hi Xxirishbratxx

I can't say I know how you feel but I bet my wife does. She said to me about 2 months ago that one of her biggest fears is that she would lose "me" in transition. My mother actually voiced the same thing last Friday during a Skype call. But both of them went on to say that has not happened, my Mother said that my "essential essence is still there" My wife said "you are still there" feminine but there

I hope that helps give you hope

Liz

[Xvianna]

Hey there!

My boyfriend (ftm) has been transitioning for 2 years now, the physical changes started happening about 2 months after he started using T which was in October 2016. Most of it has actually been pretty easy to live with, considering my boyfriend always had boyish looks and even features. So I don't have to go through hair grow and such, it was always there.

Today though, he mentioned to me that he would like for us to stop using any kind of female private part names. That it killed him inside a little every time the words where spoken but that it's only been recent. I get it, I knew it was bound to happen but it feels like, every time something more changes, a piece of me or him dies. Yet sometimes, I can be totally okay with it. I dunno, it's weird; hard to explain actually.

So, all in all, I completely understand how you feel. I think personally, it's normal. We're going through our own kind of grievance and sometimes I think our significant other's might forget this. Just do your best to stay supportive, it's okay to cry! And most of all, keep an open communication with your significant other. I know it's helped so very much in my relationship.

I hope you have a great day!

Marissa

[Twoman44]

I know exactly what your going through.....! Is very scary. My husband has not transitioned in any way but wearing female clothes when we are alone (we have a 13 year old daughter). We are getting ready to begin our first therapy session with a gender therapist next week. I'm really nervous that is will send him deeper that what he originally wants to do ( present as male but tak a low dose of HRT to help with the mild dysphoria he has). There are times that I am ok with him having some feminine attributes and then the next day I'm like you crying over the loss of the man I married. But.... he needs to feel better about the missing parts he desires to have. I can't hold him back from that. He is my world (along with my children). I want what's best for him. Sex is a big fear of mine, then the world finding out, then the loss of loosing my husband I have always known. So I can totally feel how you feel!

Lisa