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Help me cut my beard.

Started by Daniellekai, May 14, 2017, 12:32:49 AM

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Denise

Today you have your big toe out of the closet.... how about extending a second toe or maybe even a foot.  I think when you look back on it, you'll understand/remember your trepidation but think "I didn't need to worry."

Remember that you have "trans"/gender on your mind 7x24.  CIS people DO NOT!  I would be surprised anyone thinks anything of the sort.  I could be wrong, but from my experience people don't generally care.

If you are looking for an excuse - assuming you are in the northern hemisphere - "You don't want to go through another hot summer with all the hair."  Plausible.

Good luck - let us know what you decide.
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CarlyMcx

I had my hair military short (even though I was never in the service other than college ROTC) from age 20 until a year ago (33 years).  Then I just grew it out.  Yes, some people asked.  I was not ready to come out to them so I just told them I wanted it long before I go bald.

The world did not end, but since I have had my facial hair removed and both ears pierced, I think some have already figured things out.

I haven't lost any friends, though.

Just shave it.  It is your life to live, and way too short.
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Daniellekai

Apparently it's going to be hot a couple days next week, seems like a good excuse, but I'll strategically wait for the hot days >.>


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Rayna

This is obviously a sensitive topic. I was away for a few days and whoa, lots of posts.

I stopped shaving when I graduated from high school, so it was with me my entire adult life, 2 wives, 2 kids...

Then after 41 years, my wife mentioned it was scratchy (aging thing no doubt ). After dithering a few weeks, I just cut it off. Except for more painful winter winds and the need for more aunscreen, haven't regretted it.

Work and friends just accepted it at face value so to speak.

You'll find the skin under there has been protected and looks younger than the rest of you.

Enjoy the new look!

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Jennifer RachaelAnn

Just before I got on hormones I had a beard that I hadn't cut in over 10 years. It stretched all the way to my belly button. Bear in mind that I'm big. 6'4" to be exact. so that's a long beard. My wife and I cut it off one night and I looked so weird without it. I blew my best friends mind when she saw it. She specifically said that she never in a million years thought that I would cut it.

Now tho, I shave every day and use foundation to hide the blue chin. Foundation makes a hell of a difference.
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There are some who share my time. I am entertained by them.
There are precious few who contribute to my time. I cherish them."


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jjordynn

Own it! Shave it off, shave it down in various steps, or simply just rock it if you feel it's truly apart of your identity and you just can't part.

The worst feeling is coming to a ledge yelling questions when it comes to appearances.
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Denise

Quote from: Daniellekai on May 14, 2017, 10:33:39 PM
Apparently it's going to be hot a couple days next week, seems like a good excuse, but I'll strategically wait for the hot days >.>

Well??? how did it go?
1st Person out: 16-Oct-2015
Restarted Spironolactone 26-Aug-2016
Restarted Estradiol Valerate: 02-Nov-2016
Full time: 02-Mar-2017
Breast Augmentation (Schechter): 31-Oct-2017
FFS (Walton in Chicago): 25-Sep-2018
Vaginoplasty (Schechter): 13-Dec-2018









A haiku in honor of my grandmother who loved them.
The Voices are Gone
Living Life to the Fullest
I am just Denise
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Daniellekai

Can't do it yet, mom had that minor freak out (worry based), I figured I'd slow down on any sudden, outwardly visible change while she processes a bit more, I still don't have my HRT yet either, I need to get tested for a genetic condition that some of the women in my family have that makes blood clots more likely. The endocrinologist said she'd refer me to a hematologist, but I haven't heard back yet, going to shoot her an email Monday.


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MarcellaJH

Quote from: Daniellekai on May 14, 2017, 12:32:49 AM
I hate it, only grew it to begin with because my girlfriend (now ex) liked it. But now it's part of my identity (at least from the point of view of other people), if I cut it, it'll be viewed as a radical change, and may even raise suspicions that I might be transitioning, worse than that though, they'd be right! I've only got my big toe out of the closet, and I'm of course planning getting all the way out, but I'm not capable of the all at once [emoji304] style coming out, I need to do it one step at a time, and this is the next one.

I have a feeling HRT is going to screw up my schedule, but so be it, for some reason it's ok if I'm not entirely the one in control of it/it's a very gradual thing, but in this issue, I'm the one holding the clippers, and it's gotta come off all at once... If I don't do it now it'll be harder later. This is sort of me standing on a ledge and yelling "I don't want to do it, I swear! C'mon, give me a reason!" Lmao


I had my beard for 30 years after living decades in repression.  I finally decided that it was time to transition...or never.  That was the first thing, decisively making up my mind that I wanted to transition.  Then after, in the midst of much arguing with someone near and dear to me, I said "The hell with it," and grabbed the shears and went to work.  A word of warning, be very careful when putting your face to a razor.  It will take a couple of shaves before you won't get nicked.  Shaving off facial hair is an excellent positive first step to take for your transition.  Good luck!


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Marcieelizabeth




HOLY MACKEREL -

Thank you for starting this post!  I too have a beard that has not been cut for 36 years!  One of many fears is removing it.   It is thick and has I think now that it was and is my male identity - I have had it for so long - This is one of my daily fears, wanting to remove it and others figuring something out. 

But I cannot tell you how much it helps to know I am not alone!!!  You all - know  it brings tears to my eyes to know I am not alone in this.

Love and Hugs Marcie

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Janes Groove

Quote from: Daniellekai on May 14, 2017, 12:32:49 AM
I hate it

. . . C'mon, give me a reason!"

1.  It's got to go eventually, so the sooner the better.
2.  You'll feel so much better when it's gone.
3.  If anybody asks, just say you lost a bet.

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MarcellaJH

Quote from: Daniellekai on June 02, 2017, 11:41:07 PM
Can't do it yet, mom had that minor freak out (worry based), I figured I'd slow down on any sudden, outwardly visible change while she processes a bit more, I still don't have my HRT yet either, I need to get tested for a genetic condition that some of the women in my family have that makes blood clots more likely. The endocrinologist said she'd refer me to a hematologist, but I haven't heard back yet, going to shoot her an email Monday.




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HappyMoni

   I'm just throwing this out there, okay. Maybe that beard is symbolic of the safe male image you have. It is hard to jettison what in some ways has been so comfortable for you. I got beard, am safe from questioning! I think it is a hump you have to get over. I learned a lesson from my brother before I was even in transition. I was playing strong man carrying a cooler up a mountain by myself. I had just recently come out to him. He said, "If you are gonna do this (transition) you are gonna have to give up this macho crap." He was right. If you are going to transition or change your life significantly, you are going to have a series of things come up  that you just have to let go of. Once you do it a time or two, you realize the world doesn't come crashing down. You accept the new, but you must also let go of the old. Don't let fear rule your life, kick its butt!
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Caro

It's only been a bit more than a month since I took off my beard, and it got mentioned by two or three colleagues. One of them just pointed out that I had apparently taken off my beard - maybe he assumed I hadn't noticed. One joked if I had had a hot date. The third one asked what happened and accepted "eh, I just felt like trying out something new" as a reply.

And I was in a similar place like you, @OP, my beard & long hair were kind of my most defining visual feature for the last several years.

So unless the gender police is already onto you (look out for windowless pink vans), I think you'll be fine.
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Sinclair

Quote from: Daniellekai on June 02, 2017, 11:41:07 PM
Can't do it yet, mom had that minor freak out (worry based), I figured I'd slow down on any sudden, outwardly visible change while she processes a bit more, I still don't have my HRT yet either, I need to get tested for a genetic condition that some of the women in my family have that makes blood clots more likely. The endocrinologist said she'd refer me to a hematologist, but I haven't heard back yet, going to shoot her an email Monday.

Shaving your beard is a temporary step. Removing your beard is a whole other conversation. See the posts on laser, etc. If you have genetic health issues, than you must explore those and examine the risks. In general, one can't shave away their male face. If you decide to transition, shaving is not a solution. You have to have the facial hair killed, which can be a long, expensive process. HRT will do little, if anything about facial hair. Good luck and best wishes! But that beard will never go away with just HRT.
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DawnOday

In 1971 I had long hair and a halfway mustache for about three months and then cut it off never to return.  I've been clean shaven every since.  I could not wear makeup with facial hair. As to the long hair  It got too sweaty to play tennis and racket ball.
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