Quote from: jentay1367 on June 23, 2017, 11:09:37 AM
Well....sorry you didn't care for my opinion. I'm a pragmatic woman and do workarounds to avoid problems. I'm not a martyr, not an advocate and don't have a victim mentality. Consequently, I get through life with a minimum of confrontation.
Uh-huh. A pragmatic woman who feels the need to jump into conversations and condescendingly demand that everyone else adopt the same balance of priorities between privacy and dignity.
I choose not to disclose in public places and especially not in front of my business colleagues. I don't believe anyone should be treated in an undignified manner because of that.
You seem to think everyone should have the same priorities and deal with things just like you do.
I don't have a victim mentality either. But I'm capable of noticing imperfect processes that unfairly humiliate transgender travellers and calling them out as problematic.
How frequently do you travel internationally? How often do you travel through Heathrow T5? Do you think that the frequency of travel through overseas airports might be more of a factor of whether you have have a bad experience than when you choose to disclose?
There is a huge difference between saying
"I travel a bit too... here's how I deal with things... it works well for me...perhaps it might help you too,"
And saying
"You must do things my way. You asked for it. Your way of doing things is 'not acceptable'. If you had done things my way, your complaint would be legitimate."
One of those is supportive. The other is the height of paternalistic arrogance.