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Just came out to my 86 year old parents

Started by Kendra, July 16, 2017, 06:55:37 PM

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Kendra

Stephanie I am so glad you accepted and have that ring.  The meaning behind it is incredible.  You could wear it as a pendant on a necklace - especially the next time you see your sister.  A jeweler could add one link so the ring hangs parallel with the necklace. 
Assigned male at birth 1963.  Decided I wanted to be a girl in 1971.  Laser 2014-16, electrolysis 2015-17, HRT 7/2017, GCS 1/2018, VFS 3/2018, FFS 5/2018, Labiaplasty & BA 7/2018. 
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steph2.0

Awesome idea, Kendra! My Mom had the diamond moved to her new ring when she remarried. I can't afford to have a new stone put in and have it resized for my fat finger, but a necklace would work great. Thank you!

PS: from your avatar pic it looks like you've done something similar?


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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Laurie

Quote from: Steph2.0 on August 10, 2017, 11:14:05 PM
  I realized what an awesome gesture of acceptance my sister had made by offering the ring. I had originally declined with thanks, but today before she drove us to the airport I asked if it would be alright if I took it. She lit up and ran off to get it for me.

I had planned to have my bags packed so I could leave her house quickly if necessary, I can see we're going to be much closer going forward.

I'm leaking from the ocular area.

Stephanie

Hi Stephanie

  Let me commend you on your debut with family. I am so glad it worked out well for you. And yes, offering your mom's ring was an awesome gesture by your awesome sister.
  I am so happy for you that your coming out adventure turned out so good for you.

  I know that flight preparation with the suitcase well. I myself having done the same thing when I came out to my daughter and son in law. I did stay the night after a less than optimal reception of my news. The way things have developed on that front I probably should have just left after. Sometimes coming out to family works and sometimes it doesn't. I can only keep the door open just in case someone knocks. 

  As to leaky ocular plumbing, I have noticed a definite increase in mine leaking after beginning HRT and it has gotten even more pronounced since my GP doubled my dose. But I am sure it is just a coincidence, as the cause is more likely to be in the advanced age of the plumbing.

Hugs,
   Laurie
April 13, 2019 switched to estradiol valerate
December 20, 2018    Referral sent to OHSU Dr Dugi  for vaginoplasty consult
December 10, 2018    Second Letter VA Psychiatric Practical nurse
November 15, 2018    First letter from VA therapist
May 11, 2018 I am Laurie Jeanette Wickwire
May   3, 2018 Submitted name change forms
Aug 26, 2017 another increase in estradiol
Jun  26, 2017 Last day in male attire That's full time I guess
May 20, 2017 doubled estradiol
May 18, 2017 started electrolysis
Dec   4, 2016 Started estradiol and spironolactone



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Kendra

Quote from: Steph2.0 on August 11, 2017, 09:18:50 AM
> from your avatar pic it looks like you've done something similar?
The necklace in my avatar doesn't have any sentimental value - that one is from Amazon.

My mother often wears a necklace with a thunder egg (slice of polished volcanic rock) I bought for her when I was 16, first time I drove to Yellowstone.  She has never been there.  I went again eight years ago and was surprised to find the same small store at the same intersection in Jackson Wyoming.  I am going to take her there after we see the eclipse, to the store where I bought her necklace 38 years ago.
Assigned male at birth 1963.  Decided I wanted to be a girl in 1971.  Laser 2014-16, electrolysis 2015-17, HRT 7/2017, GCS 1/2018, VFS 3/2018, FFS 5/2018, Labiaplasty & BA 7/2018. 
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steph2.0

OMG OMG OMG!!

Laurie talked to me! If I could get my voice into that range I'd go, "SQUEEEEEEE!"

You've got to realize that I've been lurking here for a while, and Rachel Lynn, Michelle, MONNIE (yes, I'm sucking up by saying it correctly, so Nyah!), Kendra, even Laurie - along with far too many others to name, are like rock stars to this new groupie. Your determination and courage are always in the back of my thick noggin whenever I get discouraged or fearful.

I watch the banter between you all, and can see the love that underlies it. Nonono, don't try to deny it. I've longed to be part of that kind of sisterhood, so don't be surprised if I barge in occasionally.

Please excuse the hero worship. And don't let it go to your head.

Stephanie


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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steph2.0

Quote from: Kendra on August 11, 2017, 10:33:59 AM
I am going to take her there after we see the eclipse, to the store where I bought her necklace 38 years ago.

Oh, dang. There goes that ocular plumbing again. Sentimentality got to me even before the HRT, but now... who's going to mop this up?

I'm a pilot and am deeply entrenched in aviation, so when I started transitioning, I bought a necklace from Amazon with an airplane charm and a pendant that says, "On Brave Wings She Flies." It's a silly little source of courage, but I'll take any help I can get.

Sorry Kendra for highjacking your thread. Didn't mean to make it about me.

Stephanie


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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Kendra

Stephanie, no worries.  This is about all of us.   

Rachel Lynn's forum name was updated to just Rachel a couple days ago - less typing for us  ;)

As for Laurie - ocular issues aside, gotta keep an eye on her. 
Assigned male at birth 1963.  Decided I wanted to be a girl in 1971.  Laser 2014-16, electrolysis 2015-17, HRT 7/2017, GCS 1/2018, VFS 3/2018, FFS 5/2018, Labiaplasty & BA 7/2018. 
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Laurie

Quote from: Steph2.0 on August 11, 2017, 10:47:26 AM
OMG OMG OMG!!

Laurie talked to me! If I could get my voice into that range I'd go, "SQUEEEEEEE!"

You've got to realize that I've been lurking here for a while, and Rachel Lynn, Michelle, MONNIE (yes, I'm sucking up by saying it correctly, so Nyah!), Kendra, even Laurie - along with far too many others to name, are like rock stars to this new groupie. Your determination and courage are always in the back of my thick noggin whenever I get discouraged or fearful.

I watch the banter between you all, and can see the love that underlies it. Nonono, don't try to deny it. I've longed to be part of that kind of sisterhood, so don't be surprised if I barge in occasionally.

Please excuse the hero worship. And don't let it go to your head.

Stephanie

  Stephanie,

  I am truly flattered. Thank you.  I am not too sure what to do with this celebrity status, but somehow it is there. *sigh*  Whatever, At least I am in good company. I do want everyone to know that I come here for the very same reasons everyone does. I came here for support and help and I still need that so I am still here. If my stories can help another struggling sister all the better. That is the other reason I am still here. I want to help others where I can.  I do not every want to be seen as someone that is unapproachable Stephanie. I am here for you and anyone else that I can help. Do not hesitate to comment on my posts. Do not think you cannot contact me personally by PM if you need to talk or just if you want to say hi. I say that not just to you Stephanie but to anyone here that feels a desire to share with me or us. I am positive that small group you named and many here feel the same way I do.
  You are here Stephanie and part of the family that is Susan's Place. Not come all the way inside, have a seat and get comfy. You should feel at home here as I do.

  Hugs,
    Laurie

  So what if this is Kendra's thread? She told me I could borrow it if I want to.
April 13, 2019 switched to estradiol valerate
December 20, 2018    Referral sent to OHSU Dr Dugi  for vaginoplasty consult
December 10, 2018    Second Letter VA Psychiatric Practical nurse
November 15, 2018    First letter from VA therapist
May 11, 2018 I am Laurie Jeanette Wickwire
May   3, 2018 Submitted name change forms
Aug 26, 2017 another increase in estradiol
Jun  26, 2017 Last day in male attire That's full time I guess
May 20, 2017 doubled estradiol
May 18, 2017 started electrolysis
Dec   4, 2016 Started estradiol and spironolactone



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LizK

Quote from: Steph2.0 on August 11, 2017, 10:58:40 AM
Oh, dang. There goes that ocular plumbing again. Sentimentality got to me even before the HRT, but now... who's going to mop this up?

I'm a pilot and am deeply entrenched in aviation, so when I started transitioning, I bought a necklace from Amazon with an airplane charm and a pendant that says, "On Brave Wings She Flies." It's a silly little source of courage, but I'll take any help I can get.

Sorry Kendra for highjacking your thread. Didn't mean to make it about me.

Stephanie

Hi Steph

Welcome to the crazy part of the board...this thread along with another couple (don't tell Laurie) can be a little on the wandering side..... I bought a butterfly necklace the day I decided to transition. I hold that piece of jewellery as something special for a very special timer in my life. Its one of those very personal things

I need to unofficially warn you about some of the lunatics running around hiding in here...Kendra is likely to get punny with you and Davinia is just a powerhouse of puns, then you never know when Racael will pop up with a new name like Jessie...who knows and don't worry that's just the tip of the  sinking iceberg but welcome to the lunacy....
 
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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LizK

Quote from: Kendra on August 11, 2017, 10:33:59 AM
The necklace in my avatar doesn't have any sentimental value - that one is from Amazon.

My mother often wears a necklace with a thunder egg (slice of polished volcanic rock) I bought for her when I was 16, first time I drove to Yellowstone.  She has never been there.  I went again eight years ago and was surprised to find the same small store at the same intersection in Jackson Wyoming.  I am going to take her there after we see the eclipse, to the store where I bought her necklace 38 years ago.

Awwww Kendra that will be amazing. It is so great you are going to get to spend some fun time with her. I bet the eclipse will be an amazing experience on its own.  :D
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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steph2.0

Quote from: Laurie on August 11, 2017, 01:16:32 PM
I am truly flattered. Thank you.  I am not too sure what to do with this celebrity status, but somehow it is there ... If my stories can help another struggling sister all the better. That is the other reason I am still here. I want to help others where I can ... I am here for you and anyone else that I can help. Do not hesitate to comment on my posts. Do not think you cannot contact me personally by PM if you need to talk or just if you want to say hi. I say that not just to you Stephanie but to anyone here that feels a desire to share with me or us. I am positive that small group you named and many here feel the same way I do.

Who is this nice person who replied to me, and what have you done with Laurie? I came here for verbal abuse, and abuse I shall receive, dangit!

Seriously, Laurie, you already know that reading about others who are in front of you on the same path is incredibly therapeutic. Watching someone grow and get better gives those of us following you hope that we can get through the hard times and get better, too. You've received that help from reading other's stories, and now you're doing the giving. That's priceless. Anyone who donates the amount of time required to tell their story just to help others deserves to be considered a hero and celebrity. I hope to add my chronicles to the list some time, though I do have to go to work once in a while, so the amount of time required is hard to come by.

Laurie, I did receive your PM, but I've been limited on what I can do because I'm so new here. This should be the magical #15 post, so I should be off to the races now.

And thank you for helping us all.

Stephanie

PS: I can be a very silly person, and you would be wise to avoid associating with me. And I can be very spontaneous if you give me some time to think about it.


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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steph2.0

Quote from: ElizabethK on August 11, 2017, 06:28:19 PM
Welcome to the crazy part of the board...this thread along with another couple (don't tell Laurie) can be a little on the wandering side..... I bought a butterfly necklace the day I decided to transition. I hold that piece of jewellery as something special for a very special timer in my life. Its one of those very personal things

I need to unofficially warn you about some of the lunatics running around hiding in here...Kendra is likely to get punny with you and Davinia is just a powerhouse of puns, then you never know when Racael will pop up with a new name like Jessie...who knows and don't worry that's just the tip of the  sinking iceberg but welcome to the lunacy....

Thanks Liz,

I've been lurking here for a while, so I've been learning who to watch out for. I'm ready for 'em (I think?). Considering how serious what we're all dealing with can be at times, lunacy is great therapy. I'm likely to add some silliness myself, especially now that I've gotten through a few of the hardest parts of transitioning, and am feeling particularly joyful about it (acceptance by family is one - see earlier postings).

For those of us working our way through these particular challenges, this site is by far the best resource, with the best people, available on the internet. Everybody in the world is broken in one way or another, and those who dismiss and vilify us because they can't or won't understand our particular trials are missing out on knowing some of the coolest, most loving people on the planet. Their loss, and all I have to say to them is, "Pthththththth!" (That'll show 'em.)

Stephanie


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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Kendra

Am I ever silly?  Seriously.
Quote from: Steph2.0 on August 14, 2017, 09:18:06 AM
> lunacy is great therapy
Maybe that's why I am driven to be at the center line of an eclipse.  Something to do with the moon.
Assigned male at birth 1963.  Decided I wanted to be a girl in 1971.  Laser 2014-16, electrolysis 2015-17, HRT 7/2017, GCS 1/2018, VFS 3/2018, FFS 5/2018, Labiaplasty & BA 7/2018. 
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JulieOnHerWay

Quote from: Kendra on August 14, 2017, 10:01:34 AM
Am I ever silly?  Seriously. Maybe that's why I am driven to be at the center line of an eclipse.  Something to do with the moon.

Yes.  We can howl at the sun and the moon at the same time.
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steph2.0

Quote from: JulieOnHerWay on August 14, 2017, 11:26:49 PM
Yes.  We can howl at the sun and the moon at the same time.

I can't make it to the total eclipse zone, so I guess I'll just moon the sun.

Stephanie


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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AnneK

I'm a 65 year old male who has been thinking about SRS for many years.  I also was a  full cross dresser for a few years.  I wear a bra, pantyhose and nail polish daily because it just feels right.

Started HRT April 17, 2019.
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KathyLauren

Quote from: AnneK on August 15, 2017, 01:59:04 PM
Don't forget the sun screen.   :D
One of my roommates on basic training acquired the nickname "Buns" due to forgetting his sunscreen in a visit to Vancouver's nude beach.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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Kendra

That would cause a deep seated fear of sunburn.  A real bummer.
Assigned male at birth 1963.  Decided I wanted to be a girl in 1971.  Laser 2014-16, electrolysis 2015-17, HRT 7/2017, GCS 1/2018, VFS 3/2018, FFS 5/2018, Labiaplasty & BA 7/2018. 
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steph2.0

Quote from: Kendra on August 15, 2017, 03:37:54 PM
That would cause a deep seated fear of sunburn.  A real bummer.
That cracked me up!


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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steph2.0

Quote from: Kendra on August 15, 2017, 03:37:54 PM
That would cause a deep seated fear of sunburn.  A real bummer.
Really scraping bottom now...


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Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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