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Told my boss this afternoon

Started by Kendra, July 28, 2017, 08:46:24 PM

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sarah1972

#20
July 29, 2017, 09:19:37 PM
So happy for you Kendra! Nothing more encouraging than a happy coming out! Hope all your coworkers are equally accepting than mine...

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KathyLauren

#21
July 30, 2017, 04:46:33 PM
Congratulations, Kendra!  Very slick approach to coming out to your boss.  Hee-hee!

Good luck on Wednesday, Sarah!
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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maybeventually

#22
July 30, 2017, 05:10:41 PM
What a way to tell your boss! You must have a lot of confidence, best of luck!
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Kendra

#23
July 30, 2017, 06:41:32 PM
Thank you! 

I definitely did not have confidence when I came out to my parents two weeks ago - the thoughts leading up to that conversation woke me up at night several times.  So I just faked confidence best I could. 
Assigned male at birth 1963.  Decided I wanted to be a girl in 1971.  Laser 2014-16, electrolysis 2015-17, HRT 7/2017, GCS 1/2018, VFS 3/2018, FFS 5/2018, Labiaplasty & BA 7/2018. 
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KageNiko

#24
July 31, 2017, 12:14:35 PM
You go girl!  I'm happy to hear that someone else had a pleasant experience with coming out at work.  Sometimes I feel guilty telling people that I have a lot of support with my superiors, especially since I'm in the military, but seeing that you had a good experience is very encouraging, and I hope that others can draw some encouragement from that.

~Ashley
Hey all, I've created a new account because my life has begun anew.  This is to protect my identity.  Thanks for your understanding!
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Kendra

#25
August 01, 2017, 10:45:38 AM
I have heard the expression: if a customer has a good experience they tell someone.  If a customer has a bad experience they tell ten people.  As a "customer" of an employer, I want to encourage and reinforce good stuff when it happens. 

I sent a short and very positive email to my manager's manager and the Corporate Vice President.  In the message I highlighted several ways my manager handled this perfectly.  I thanked them for understanding and supporting this fact: people do their best work when we are appreciated for who we are. 

I hope more companies can get a clue.
Assigned male at birth 1963.  Decided I wanted to be a girl in 1971.  Laser 2014-16, electrolysis 2015-17, HRT 7/2017, GCS 1/2018, VFS 3/2018, FFS 5/2018, Labiaplasty & BA 7/2018. 
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Michelle_P

#26
August 01, 2017, 11:38:12 AM
I'm so glad your employer was supportive.  (OK, knowing them I'd be shocked if they weren't!)

My last employer was pretty amazing in their support as well.  Two co-workers that I knew of transitioned during my last couple of years there, and both HR and their work teams were incredibly supportive.  I didn't transition there, but Deb's work transition definitely got me to thinking that something I had dreamed of long ago might actually be possible.
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steph2.0

#27
August 26, 2017, 02:11:58 PM
Quote from: Kendra on July 28, 2017, 08:46:24 PM

hey, have you ever worked with a transgender person here?  He thought it over, and said no.  And then I said "you're wrong" with a big smile.


Kenundrum,

I just discovered this thread through your link. What an awesome way to break the news! Applause applause!

I found out recently that not only is my boss ok with my transition, but one of my employees actually came out to me at almost the same time.

Did I mention that I'm self-employed?

Stephanie [emoji12]


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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Laurie

#28
August 26, 2017, 02:17:54 PM
Quote from: Steph2.0 on August 26, 2017, 02:11:58 PM

I found out recently that not only is my boss ok with my transition, but one of my employees actually came out to me at almost the same time.

Did I mention that I'm self-employed?

Stephanie [emoji12]

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April 13, 2019 switched to estradiol valerate
December 20, 2018    Referral sent to OHSU Dr Dugi  for vaginoplasty consult
December 10, 2018    Second Letter VA Psychiatric Practical nurse
November 15, 2018    First letter from VA therapist
May 11, 2018 I am Laurie Jeanette Wickwire
May   3, 2018 Submitted name change forms
Aug 26, 2017 another increase in estradiol
Jun  26, 2017 Last day in male attire That's full time I guess
May 20, 2017 doubled estradiol
May 18, 2017 started electrolysis
Dec   4, 2016 Started estradiol and spironolactone
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Kendra

#29
August 26, 2017, 02:28:30 PM
Took me a second.  That's not a first.
Assigned male at birth 1963.  Decided I wanted to be a girl in 1971.  Laser 2014-16, electrolysis 2015-17, HRT 7/2017, GCS 1/2018, VFS 3/2018, FFS 5/2018, Labiaplasty & BA 7/2018. 
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steph2.0

#30
August 26, 2017, 07:20:12 PM
Quote from: Laurie on August 26, 2017, 02:17:54 PM
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Hey, who let him in here?

And sorry, Kendra, I'm not very original. You heard that here first.

Steph (We now return you to your original thread)


Assigned male at birth 1958 * Began envying sister 1963 * Knew unquestioningly that I was female 1968 * Acted the male part for 50 years * Meltdown and first therapist session May 2017 * Began HRT 6/21/17 * Out to the world 10/13/17 * Name Change 12/7/2017 (Girl Harbor Day) * FFS With FacialTeam 12/4/2018 * Facelift and Lipo Body Sculpting at Ocean Clinic 6/13-14/2019 * GCS with Marci Bowers 9/25/2019
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rmaddy

#31
August 26, 2017, 07:53:37 PM
Congratulations Kendra.  You're really on a roll this week!

Employers are really quite good about this.  Watch out for churches, PTA groups and family though.  They'll get you every time, IME.
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JamieLee

#32
August 28, 2017, 09:03:36 AM
Quote from: Kendra on July 28, 2017, 08:46:24 PM
I popped into my manager's office - hey gotta minute?  I casually asked him - hey, have you ever worked with a transgender person here?  He thought it over, and said no.  And then I said "you're wrong" with a big smile.  Took a couple seconds and then the look on his face was priceless..... And he thought the way I brought it all up was great - "yeah you got me with that one."

;)

That is just beautiful! Like, day-making beautiful ;D

Congrats on it being so easy and great! :D I work from home so I don't think I'll have too many problems when I do this. The place I work for treats it's employees like family (seriously concerned about how you're doing, how your health is, they don't hear from you for a little bit they get concerned - not about work, but about you as a person) so I hope they accept me when I tell them.
"For anyone who is considering a transition - prepare yourself, you're in for a bumpy but thoroughly enjoyable ride. Buckle up and make the most of it! Be brave, be proud and be true to you. Set yourself free - I promise it will be worth it. And for anyone out there who knows somebody who is transitioning... tell them how wonderful they are for doing it!" - Rhyannon Styles. The New Girl: A Trans Girl Tells it Like it is

Came out to Mother: 31/8/2017      Came out to Father: 9/9/2017
Started HRT: 1/3/2018 ;D
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Rachel_Christina

#33
August 28, 2017, 10:02:28 AM
That's a great way of doing, no big old mess, just short and sweet.
This is how I would have done if I wasn't tossed for being trans ha


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