<< I do think many of us however are concerned with fitting the female norm which is more defined from an anthropological standpoint than any stereotype. Female bone structure is very different from male and even in women who look very masculine the basic bone structure still fits this standard in facial features. >>
You have , of course, the right to do anything you like to your own body. I do not take issue with that fact. But.......
In your statement, I think that you are entirely missing my point.
I think that by trying to 'fit(ting) a female norm' as you phrase it, is dangerous, if not deluded. My point, is that there is no norm. I think that you are drawing on too small a sample of the female population in making your statement of generality.
Woman come in every size and shape. You might be very surprised by some of the women you might meet, then methinks, because I've no doubt you would not know some of them were not men? For instance, I had a roommate, that had the biggest %$#@#$%^ head I have ever seen. It, was, huge. And she was built larger and was stronger than almost all of the men she worked with, but she was still a natal female. And, she is not an aberation, or just "the exception."
I get the strong feeling from your posting, and from many others here, that your view of what a woman is supposed to look like is very narrow, indeed. My point is, that a woman is not supposed to look like anything. At all. She is supposed to look like who she is. It is how she was born.
Now, I also have heard the other argument, that some people want to undo what testosterone did to to their body, to their face, frame, etc. But, realistically, how are you to ever determine what you would have/would not have looked like had your not been exposed to "T?" Once again, for every point one can make about looking "more" female, I can think of many women I have known that do not fit that norm, both in people I have known in the past and present, and no doubt, could find several examples on any trip to any venue where lots of females are present.
Another point I would raise, is that from many conversations in the past, amongst women I have known, one of the greatest points of contention that has come up, in regards to woman that transition, vs. natal females, is that they take great issue with the way woman that transition view what is female? In essence, they feel kind of, well, insulted, by the fact that people that were not born natally female feel free to judge what a woman should/should not look like. And especially, when they themselves cannot fit that mold.
So, when I say that the right time to have FFS is never, it is not based just on trying to avoid a stereotype, but also based on a larger sociological idear of supporting woman's space, and the work that woman have done to quash stereotypical thinking. In other words, just because you can do something, does not mean you should.
