Exit Strategy

[esphoria]

  So a little bit about my situation... My parents were having issues and were about ready to lose their house so I moved back with them as a temporary thing.

  Now its getting time to leave which for me was when I want to come out to them that this is still a thing and I'm going through with it. My parents are caring and I know they care for me as their son, but I know that they are closed minded as I've tried to start to come out but it simply got way too hostile to risk it at that point. I've been testing the water every chance I can get to no avail neither my mom or dad seem to be budging on the subject at all.

  The only way I see them coming around to the idea of me being trans is if I give them time and for that I need separation hence telling them right after I move out, it seems like its my only chance at allowing our relationship to continue.

  Now my question given that your parents are not on board with the idea of being trans, what is the best way to break the news? I really would prefer to tell them in person, but I know I would not get out everything I'd want to say so I'm thinking an email would be best outlining the vetting (two therapist one psych and my endo) along with supporting sources and resources to help them better understand gender dysphoria should they want me in their lives.

  Right now I'm in the midst of renting a storage unit and PO box to move my stuff/mail to so that I can make the move easier once I get the place I want. please let me know where I'm flawed in my plan or if it seems like a decent play.

Thanks,

Jess

[jeipea]

Hey I think you know your parents best...plus it's really great you care about their feelings and want to keep the relationship with them - your motives for the plan are good and highly likely after the email one day you'll have to talk about it.
I might have to go live with my mum for a while too and I have to be a "son" when home.
I think I will only be able to tell her  post transition

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[Devlyn]

Big hug! It's a scary time, that's for sure. I like your plans.

You have this under control, and they control their own destiny. The wiki has a  Family And Friends section with sample letters. They're a bit dated but full of good ideas. Best wishes!

Hugs, Devlyn

[Elis]

I think your email plan is the best way. I wrote an emailing explaining how I felt in the past about my assigned gender, how I felt currently about it and my transition plans for the future. As well as helpful links about what trans is and prove on the fact it's a medical not mental condition. Then signed it with my new name.

Be prepared for fake support, guilt trips, and unapologetic bigotry.  Just remember only you know what's best for yourself. Your parents don't own you.

Good luck

[esphoria]

At this point the gates are up. While I really do hope for this to work, I'm expecting it to explode as much as they can make it, my goal is to take away as much ammunition as possible while still making sure that I give them the ability to choose, I am trying to not back them into a corner or force this on them... Now that the ball is rolling on this it's up to logistics for the show to drop, hopefully everything holds till then, but I really wanted to get a jump start on writing this so it's well laid out and clear