Coming out to daughters next week

[Jessica_Rose]

Steph, I just read through the quotes and the letter -- it is fantastic. I hope you don't mind if I borrow from it. Although I want to keep my announcement letter short so I can read it to my intended audience, I plan to give everyone a printed copy. I will add a few pages to include the information you used to explain gender dysphoria. I think the information will significantly help others understand more about our situation. Although I do occasionally read your updates, I had not seen this before. I cannot ever thank you enough.

[steph2.0]

Steph, I just read through the quotes and the letter -- it is fantastic. I hope you don't mind if I borrow from it. Although I want to keep my announcement letter short so I can read it to my intended audience, I plan to give everyone a printed copy. I will add a few pages to include the information you used to explain gender dysphoria. I think the information will significantly help others understand more about our situation. Although I do occasionally read you updates, I had not seen this before. I cannot ever thank you enough.

Jessica, I'm glad you found something useful in it. Please use as much of it as you like. Hoping it could help someone else is the reason I posted it (well, a little bit of vanity, too. I like writing [emoji6]).

Best wishes,

Steph

[LJH24]

Very well done, Jessica. Your original, your revision, and the suggestions of everyone are all excellent. You are a very good writer.

I really have nothing to add other than to note that the wording on my coming out letter was very similar, especially here: "I have discussed this with a doctor and a therapist and they agree on the diagnosis -- I have gender dysphoria. In other words, I am transgender." Yup. Almost exactly what I'd written. Mine was addressed to the world at large, not family members, and posted on Facebook. If you care to read it, it's here: https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,228563.msg2037025.html#msg2037025

Best of luck with your daughters, and hug your wife for us. She has earned it.

Stephanie

Stephanie,
I just read your coming out letter. It is beautiful and it made me cry because I can feel so much of your pain and heartache in it and it makes me (kind of) understand what my daughter is going through. I am planning to share it with her today.  She is seriously struggling right now and I am hoping some of this will help.

I am unable to see the videos that you included with the letter though. Is there anyway you could post the links to those for me?  Thank you so much.

[Dena]

Unfortunately I don't have a good solution to fixing some of the links like that however if you quote the post, you will be able to pick the link up directly and paste it into your browser so you can view it.

[LJH24]

Unfortunately I don't have a good solution to fixing some of the links like that however if you quote the post, you will be able to pick the link up directly and paste it into your browser so you can view it.

That worked! Thank you.

[steph2.0]

Stephanie,
I just read your coming out letter. It is beautiful and it made me cry because I can feel so much of your pain and heartache in it and it makes me (kind of) understand what my daughter is going through. I am planning to share it with her today.  She is seriously struggling right now and I am hoping some of this will help.

I am unable to see the videos that you included with the letter though. Is there anyway you could post the links to those for me?  Thank you so much.

Wow. I just reread it all, and I ended up crying again. I wrote all that?

I very much hope it helps your daughter. You sound like a wonderful Mom to be so concerned and helpful for her.

Well, I never was able to get them to show up correctly, but I see you used Dena's trick to grab them.

Please feel free to PM me if you need any other help, or your daughter would like to communicate with someone who's been there and is doing that...

Stephanie

[HappyMoni]

Jessica,
   I really like how you rewrote it. It is now very much focused on your concern for your loved ones. Way to go. I wish I were there to give you a hug before you go in to talk to them. I have fingers crossed for you.
Moni

[Jessica_Rose]

Thanks Moni!

Originally I planned to tell my daughters about this Thursday evening, but today I found out one of them is going to visit her boyfriend on Wednesday and won't be back. She only gets to see him a few times each year, so I understand. The big day is now tomorrow (Tuesday) morning. 'Nervous and scared' does not begin to explain how I feel right now! I truly believe everything will be fine, but the pessimist in me is trying to make sure I am prepared in case it does not go as well as hoped.

[HappyMoni]

The only thing you can control is how you present this. After that it is in other's hands. You have given this a lot of thought and what you write looks very good. You are showing love and concern for them. Hold your head up high, be real and share this with them. It is all you can do. I will be thinking of you tomorrow.
Moni