Love being transgendered!

[Yakayla]

I've been in and out of the forums and talking with other trans people. And I've heard a lot of chatter about feeling down for being born the wrong sex, not getting support, feeling like it's bad to be this way. But we weren't born the wrong sex. Without our original bodies we would just be normal, we wouldn't be transgender.

We are different. But what's wrong with that? We are beautiful because we are different! Everyone only gets to live one life, but we get to live twice. Once with our given name, and once with our name that represents us for who we really are. We can learn from all our mistakes and start all over again. We may not know exactly what we want, but we sure know what we don't want. And when it comes to having insight into what it means to be a girl or boy, we're pretty much experts. We may have to deal with a lot of bs, like bullying, people not understanding us, or thinking there is something mentally wrong with us.

But we've gotten to a point where we can make a difference. Show the world that it is okay to be yourself. Because we aren't the only one that's get picked on for being different. We can be role models for future generations and maybe one day no one will have to live in fear for wanting to just be themselves. My name is Nina and I'm a girl. I might have a boy's body right now, but I'm still a girl and will always be one. No matter what! And i will always be transgender, and I'm glad I am. Love who you are others will love you back!

[Devlyn]

Beautiful post, Nina! Merry Christmas to you. 

Hugs, Devlyn

[bobbisue]

     Nina you put into words the attitude I try to maintain as I meet more of our people I find that we are mostly a group of the finest people you could ever hope for not despite our struggles but because of them .I am proud to be a transgender woman


     bobbisue

[tgirlamg]

Hi Nina!

A beautiful post indeed sister and, I am in total agreement!...

There are so many gifts in this journey that are ours to claim... This path in life demands much but it gives so much as well... The demands are learning exercises... We learn what we value... We learn who we are at our very core...we learn to express... We learn to give our true self to others...The challenges and obstacles we overcome give us the true measures of our inner strength and resolve...

We are those who refuse to play the cards we were dealt and the game we are told we must play... We are those who shape our realities to reveal hidden truth...We learn that our life is what we make it to be and we feel the joy of looking at the world through new eyes ...like a child... A world of possibilities that were previously not ours to consider... become ours to explore...

Many in this world live their lifetimes without demands upon them to know these joys as we do...

Ours is a bold path and I am honored to be traveling it with all of you...

Onward we go!!!

Ashley 😀❤️🌻

[Julia1996]

That was a very nice post. I'm glad for you and others who like being trans. I have never and will never feel that way. Being trans has caused me a lot of suffering and it's going to continue to cause me stress and pain for the rest of my life. There's always the possibility I will be outed and I can't ever have kids. I don't want them but I want the option like any other woman. No matter how good I look or how well I pass I am always going to feel inadequate next to a CIS woman because I'm not a CIS woman and I will never be one. When I actually think about being trans I get pissed off and very bitter that I was born that way. If I could go back and be born a CIS girl I would in a second.

[HappyMoni]

This is a topic that is very personal for each person. I would not look down on anyone for how they view this. I actually have mixed emotions. I have given up a lifetime of shame along with the weight of this incredible secret of my nature when I came out. So, shame is not in my picture. I want to be a regular woman, I certainly didn't grow up and dream about being a transgender person. It doesn't mean I hate being trans. (I have had a few of those days though.) My reality is that I am a woman who had to transition to get here at least physically and socially. My thought is, if I sit here and surround myself with negativity about being trans, at some point it can't help but poison what I have fought my tail off to accomplish in becoming me, Monica. I waited til I was in my late 50's to get this right. In my case, I would be a fool to not enjoy the wonderful life I can have because it isn't perfect. I think I have a reputation for being positive on these boards. Believe me, it is self interest. I have tried the negative in my life for so long and it didn't work. I have discovered being positive (as much as I can) does work. I want to see others on here feel good so that is what I encourage, positive attitude. So, if they have a Matrix like blue pill that I could be a normal male, I would say no. It would wipe out who I am, and I am really starting to like being me. As for  pride in being trans, I have times when I  am proud of it. It is funny that so many always say they want to be different then the crowd, but when they really are different, suddenly they don't see the coolness of it. I look forward to what I will evolve into next.
Moni

[Allison S]

This morning as I was getting ready and heading to work I was thinking how much I'm agonizing. It's really not doing any good to keep thinking "what if" or be stuck in the past. I don't fault people or society because they don't know any better for the most part. We're in our physical form in this world right now but anything can happen at any moment.

I can be miserable thinking about everything that's wrong with me (there's a lot). But I choose not to be. At least not until I have a chance to do something about the things that I can change.

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[Devlyn]

I thought the O/P wanted a topic for people who were happy. My bad.

[tgirlamg]

it's going to continue to cause me stress and pain for the rest of my life

Hi Julia

I know you didn't solicite opinion or perspective on your posting here but, I am going to offer you a bit little sister because, I love you!!!

Your statement above has more than an air of resignation to a viewpoint that can negatively color your life... your relationships to the world and people in your life, for years to come.... When I was your age, I might of made a similar statement but now, I see things differently...

I'm not going to lecture or tell you to change your viewpoint today... We each form our opinions and build upon them as we move through our life based on our personal realities...

What I am going to ask of you is simply to remain open to the idea that the statement you made above may not be how you feel about things in the future... At a very deep level,... WE DECIDE, how we will feel about things and the lens we will view our life through... If you decide you are going to be in pain the rest of your life, our mind often takes that as our reality and does not revisit the thinking that got us to that place for years or possibly  ever!...  You are young Julia and the world is yours to make of it what you want! ...

Wishing all good things for you always little sister!!!

Ashley 😀❤️🌻

[tgirlamg]

I can be miserable thinking about everything that's wrong with me (there's a lot). But I choose not to be.

There you go Sara!!!

The worries and fears only have the power we assign them... The real power is in your words above!...

Hugs and Love,

Yer Big Sista' 😀❤️🌻

[Jessica]

Hi Julia

I know you didn't solicite opinion or perspective on your posting here but, I am going to offer you a bit little sister because, I love you!!!

Your statement above has more than an air of resignation to a viewpoint that can negatively color your life... your relationships to the world and people in your life, for years to come.... When I was your age, I might of made a similar statement but now, I see things differently...

I'm not going to lecture or tell you to change your viewpoint today... We each form our opinions and build upon them as we move through our life based on our personal realities...

What I am going to ask of you is simply to remain open to the idea that the statement you made above may not be how you feel about things in the future... At a very deep level,... WE DECIDE, how we will feel about things and the lens we will view our life through... If you decide you are going to be in pain the rest of your life, our mind often takes that as our reality and does not revisit the thinking that got us to that place for years or possibly  ever!...  You are young Julia and the world is yours to make of it what you want! ...

Wishing all good things for you always little sister!!!

Ashley 😀❤️🌻

Ashley, beautiful words to give Julia.  I have experienced what she is feeling since I was her age.  I live my life happily as who I am, but I too feel that deep pain of knowing that never will I bear children.  I know there is nothing I can do about it at my age so I'm finding peace in what I can do.  Julia though, is young enough to possibly benefit in advances in medicine. 

[tgirlamg]

I thought the O/P wanted a topic for people who were happy. My bad.

Sadly Devlyn, it often seems that keeping a thread 100% positive around here can be a tall order but, I would truly LOVE to hear some more posts in this thread that speak of the joyful, the beautiful and the empowering aspects of the journey...

C'mon! step up to the plate and show us what ya got...(if no one steps up I will continue to spout my insufferable clap trap and no one wants that!!! 😀)

Hugs To All!!!

A 😀❤️🌻

[bobbisue]

       Ok Ashley Here is my shot at being positive Being trans is better than:
       . pretending to be cis when you are not
       .being lonely in a room full of people because no one knows the real you
       .Wishing to be able to be yourself
       .avoiding mirrors every day
       .doing things because people expect it based on how you were born
       .lying to yourself every day
       .censoring every gesture and comment
       . carrying around a huge secret

     Leaving behind all of this and more makes being trans great I now am free to be me
     please feel free to add to this list

     bobbisue

[tgirlamg]

Now, that's what I'm talking about!!!! 😀 Thank you Bobbiesue!!! Who's at bat next?...⚾️

[DawnOday]

That was a very nice post. I'm glad for you and others who like being trans. I have never and will never feel that way. Being trans has caused me a lot of suffering and it's going to continue to cause me stress and pain for the rest of my life. There's always the possibility I will be outed and I can't ever have kids. I don't want them but I want the option like any other woman. No matter how good I look or how well I pass I am always going to feel inadequate next to a CIS woman because I'm not a CIS woman and I will never be one. When I actually think about being trans I get pissed off and very bitter that I was born that way. If I could go back and be born a CIS girl I would in a second.

Julia, When I started on Susan's I didn't fully understand. What I saw as an opportunity to be happy. Passing fabulously and I just had to complement the girl because her transition was so spectacular. She had the same issues as you do and at the time it did not  make a lot of sense. Since then I understand and I think back to those same desires for myself years and years ago. Very valid... Except, now the ability to have a transplant seems achievable in a short time. Julia, you have a spirit I lost long ago. Please, never put yourself down. From what you have expressed in these pages, I know you are exceptional as a person...I do hope the road smooths out for you. Myself I am happy to be stable for once in my life. Right now I truly believe I can accomplish anything. If anything I feel younger and healthier than I have in a long, long time.

[warlockmaker]

I'm so glad to see others who regard trans positivly, well done.I am known for my views that not only are we a normal living human but we are special and blessed. We have one life and we can wish all we want to be cis male or female but we are trans and that can never change so enjoy our amazing journey, life is not a practice run.  Be proud to be what you are. Merry Christmas and have a wonderful 2018.

[tgirlamg]

... and Warlockmaker hits a Home Run!!!!! 😀!!!!!

Thank you my beautiful sister for expressing the essence of what we are.... our path is blessed when our eyes are open to see the values in the journey and we are blessed again, to be walking the path with you!

Onward we go!

Ashley 😀❤️🌻

[Michelle_P]

I've come round from self-hatred to the point where I see being a transgender person as an amazing gift.  I've grown so much since coming to accept this, and it has altered and enriched my life in ways that I would never have experienced as a suburban cismale of the dominant ethnicity here.

Oh, sure, it comes with a downside as well.  Being anything other than a person of the heteronormative dominant gender and ethnicity here puts one at a disadvantage, with various higher risks in life.  There are things I can do to mitigate some of the risks and disadvantages.

But, all in all, swapping my old life for my current one has been a good deal and a great experience.

[Yakayla]

That was a very nice post. I'm glad for you and others who like being trans. I have never and will never feel that way. Being trans has caused me a lot of suffering and it's going to continue to cause me stress and pain for the rest of my life. There's always the possibility I will be outed and I can't ever have kids. I don't want them but I want the option like any other woman. No matter how good I look or how well I pass I am always going to feel inadequate next to a CIS woman because I'm not a CIS woman and I will never be one. When I actually think about being trans I get pissed off and very bitter that I was born that way. If I could go back and be born a CIS girl I would in a second.

Hunny, we have all had these kind of feelings. I mean I would love to have a baby, but there are regular woman that can't give birth either due to cancer, deformities, injury. We don't always have a choice about what happens in life, but what we do have, is what really matters. Don't look back at bad experiences and think about how bad life has treated you. Use them to your advantage to grow and become a better you. And when I look at your profile pic all I see is fun and beautiful woman. You're no less of woman than any other.

[Yakayla]

This morning as I was getting ready and heading to work I was thinking how much I'm agonizing. It's really not doing any good to keep thinking "what if" or be stuck in the past. I don't fault people or society because they don't know any better for the most part. We're in our physical form in this world right now but anything can happen at any moment.

I can be miserable thinking about everything that's wrong with me (there's a lot). But I choose not to be. At least not until I have a chance to do something about the things that I can change.

I have seen a lot of your posts. And I'm happy to see that your turning things around. You go girl! You will get there. Keep focusing on the good stuff and more good things will happen. Though I like your dress, I would love to start seeing your face in your profile.