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Ever had someone guess you were trans (pre-everything)??

Started by VickyS, January 25, 2018, 06:50:52 AM

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VickyS

Well, something weird happened today at work.

My manager (who I came out to a couple of weeks ago) told me that the Managing Director (MD) of the company has asked him if I was transgender.  He said yes (he knew I would be cool with that as I told him I didn't mind him knowing at some point in the future).

I was absolutely in shock! I present as male, just with slightly longer hair than usual, longer fingernails, no arm/hand hair and probably slightly feminine mannerisms.    Apparently the MD was talking to a co-worker and they were talking about me and came to the conclusion that I'm probably transgender.

How is this even possible??  Maybe gay, but Trans???  What vibes am I giving off!!  :o lol

Anyone else experienced something similar?

The other issue now is how long can I keep it under wraps before the whole workplace knows?  I'm not sure how I feel about it.  I guess scared but also kinda wierdly proud! So that's three people at work now...

Oh and the MD said to my manager if ANYONE says anything transphobic to me they will be sacked on the spot, so that's nice.  ;D
Came out to self: mid Oct 17                   Last haircut: 3rd Nov 17       
Came out to wife: 17th Jan 18                 Therapy started: 1st Mar 18
Electrolysis started: 10th Apr 18              Referred to GIC: 16th May 18
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CallMeKatie

Sadly not haha people seem to think I'm gay before trans lol
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KathyLauren

When I was a teenager, someone guessed something about me.  I assume I was giving off some kind of vibe, but I don't know what.  It was an unpleasant (triggering) experience for me.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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ChrissyRyan

Well sorta.  Yesterday I went to get a manicure.  I regularly push my cuticles back but do not get a professional manicure often, maybe once every year or two.  The hand rubbing is relaxing, by the way!

We small talked for a little bit and she asked me if I was wanting to get a full set.  I told her yes, that I wanted her to do both hands, and I thought that was an odd question. 

She giggled then said, "Don't take this the wrong way please, but thought that you might be TG because you have a nice soft face and your hair could certainly be easily styled to look more fem if you wanted it too.  But I guess you are not trans because you do not know what a full set is, my bad.  You certainly look fine as a guy but if you wanted to be trans...", then she told me what a full set is. 

I told her that I was not offended but I was not transitioning.  I felt a bit silly, as I knew some ladies do add fake nails, but I did not make a connection that those fake nails are called a full set.

She did a nice job, and she showed me how buffing can give a high polish, with no nail polish needed to be used.  She put on some clear polish on a finger to show me the difference in looks from the buffing block high polish look and the liquid clear nail polish look, then she removed the clear polish on that finger.  I liked both looks. 

I gave her a nice tip and felt a little more fem after hearing her say her initial impression.

Chrissy
Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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Allison S

I always had people, friends, family, strangers and even a boyfriend tell me I'm a girl. I thought I was a boy and that everyone felt like the opposite sex.. I know serious denial. I also didn't think I gave off any concious indication. But people pick up things from the first time they meet us.

It's really crazy how many times I was insulted by someone telling me I'm a girl. I really thought they were being rude. What's my problem? Lol

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Mendi

After I told everyone about myself, my aunt said, that call it an intuition or whatever, but she always knew that I was a girl. She said that it was quite obvious when looking at me as a child and how I behaved.
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Charlie Nicki

No, I've lived as a gay man my entire life so even if I look more feminine than before I think most people think it's because I'm gay. That will change when I go full time of course.
Latina :) I speak Spanish, English and a bit of Portuguese.
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Shambles

If your not ready for this info to be out there better  have a word with them both asap ans explain.

Maybe the guess was down to trans being more acepted or atleast reconised in socity and they know your married? 1 + 1 can = 2
- Jo / Joanna

Pre-HRT Trans-Fem
16th Nov 17 - Came out to myself
7th Jan 18 - Came out to wife
31st Jan 18 - Referred to GIC / might be seen in 2020
Oct 18 - Fully out at one job, part out at another
Nov 18 - Out to close family
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Julia1996

Yes. In high school I had a guy once tell me I just needed to have a sex change already. Then once these 2 girls were talking about someone going to a highschool reunion and then started imagining how they were going to look at their highschool reunion. Then one of them looked at me and told the other girl she would bet money that I would show up at the first highschool reunion as a woman. And then there was my dad and brother. My dad totally thought I was trans and of course it was him outing me that got my transition started. When I told my brother I was trans he totally was not surprised. He even asked me if I thought it was going to be a big surprise to him and said I had never seemed like a boy to him.
Julia


Born 1998
Started hrt 2015
SRS done 5/21/2018
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natalie.ashlyne


Yes basically I always hated body hair so I would shave all my body hair off and I would get my hair and eyebrows done every 5-6 weeks I would wear eyeliner mascara every day. Some of the girls at work said it sucks that a guy wears more make up than we do or we have longer leg hair than him. I was told that I make a better girl than a guy also that I whine like a girl too lol. I always had the nicest shoes. I have been asked if I was gay or trans or a girl or what was up with me I denied it all and I said I just like it   
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VickyS

Quote from: Shambles on January 25, 2018, 09:14:40 AM
If your not ready for this info to be out there better  have a word with them both asap ans explain.

Maybe the guess was down to trans being more acepted or atleast reconised in socity and they know your married? 1 + 1 can = 2

Hmmm. Yes, I have had a word and they will keep it to themselves, but i wonder how many other people are talking (getting paranoid now).  ;D lol

Well, it's kinda a double whammy.  I guess because people see me being married they assume I'm heterosexual. They are WAAAAY off the mark. lol 

I'll confuse the crap out of them I think when they ask:  are you gay then? and I say: no, heterosexual, and they say: oh you still like women then, and I say, no that would make me gay, I like men.  I'd better prepare for some exploding heads. BOOOOM!

Thank you all for replying, some very interesting responses.  I have only been mis-gendered (properly gendered??) once when I was around 17.  I was at a work's outing meal and a waitress referred to me as 'miss', which I didn't actually mind, but some co-workers found it absolutely hilarious.  I was much younger then...  ;)
Came out to self: mid Oct 17                   Last haircut: 3rd Nov 17       
Came out to wife: 17th Jan 18                 Therapy started: 1st Mar 18
Electrolysis started: 10th Apr 18              Referred to GIC: 16th May 18
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Kylo

Never.

If it ever entered someone's head they never told me.

After coming out it's a different story. Lots of people thinking about it and then having the eureka moment. Lots of people suddenly recognizing all "the signs" were there from an early stage.

People totally sensed strangeness but apparently never made the connection.
"If the freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."
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Janes Groove

Back in my day there was no transgender.  There were a few people who had had a sex change like renee richards and there were ->-bleeped-<-s, which I knew I was, but it just wasn't on people's radar. Transdar?
So I always thought I was gay and living in the closet.  Lot's of people tho guessed and asked if I was gay.  Including my extremely homophobic mom.  Which caused me a lot of grief and shame.
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VickyS

Just had a conversation about which toilet I'm planning on using!   ::)
Why are people obsessed with toilets???!?!

I said, I'm in the very early stages (not even seen a therapist yet), so the male ones until such time as I'm living full time as a woman and have changed my name which could be years from now.  They seemed happy with that.

It's all a bit much at this stage!!!   :o
Came out to self: mid Oct 17                   Last haircut: 3rd Nov 17       
Came out to wife: 17th Jan 18                 Therapy started: 1st Mar 18
Electrolysis started: 10th Apr 18              Referred to GIC: 16th May 18
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Geeker

The last couple months before my father died he thought I was gay and in the closet, but that just isn't the case, well not at the moment anyway - I like girls! But that's not thinking I'm trans.

Does my 6yo niece thinking I have boobs count? I suppose compared to her father who is rail thin and weighs maybe 130 I do...
I'm not out, I'm not on E, unless things change I doubt I ever will be.
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Gertrude

No. Most are surprised when I tell them.


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Cheaney

Yeah everyone doesn't even believe me when I tell them.


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Lady Sarah

Let's see:

From kindergarten, kids called me a girl.
In high school, the computer class designed a dating app, and the principal forced all students to participate. They put me down as a girl.
My ex guessed that I was on hormones for at least a year before I actually started them.
started HRT: July 13, 1991
orchi: December 23, 1994
trach shave: November, 1998
married: August 16, 2015
Back surgery: October 20, 2016
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MollyPants

People have been saying I'm girl for as long as I can remember. There was one time a friend of my mum's commented on saying you should of been girl and I can't remember ever feeling more outed in my life! I was about 8 at the time so I just ran off buried my head in the sand.

The friend that I eventually came out to was pretty surprised and then a month or so later it clicked that she'd figured it out years ago!
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FreyaG

I had an employee ask me.  It took me about three or so seconds to answer truthfully and I've never regretted it.  She's been a true friend.
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