I have another brother.

[Julia1996]

Hi everyone. So last night my dad told Tyler and I he needed to talk to us and told us we have another sibling. It seems there was another pregnancy before Tyler and that child had been put up for adoption. He tracked my dad down and they talked and he wants to come to Denver next month and meet my dad and Tyler and I.  His name is Brian and he lives in Ohio. My dad had gotten another girl pregnant before he met my mom and she put the baby up for adoption. Brian is 24. Since he's 2 years older than Tyler that means my dad got the girl pregnant when he was 15!! He said the girl was 17 when he got her pregnant.

He asked us if we were ok with Brian coming to meet us, which we are. It's kind of sad because he told my dad that the birth mother didn't want to meet him and wanted no further contact from him. I don't have a problem meeting him but I have to admit Im finding this situation weird.  And I also can't believe my dad got someone pregnant when he was 15! Then he got my mom pregnant with Tyler when he was 17. He was a sexual menace when he was a teenager! Did they not have rubbers back then? What a little horndog he was. No wonder he gave Tyler a box of condoms when he was 12. But anyway, Tyler and I have an older brother. I do wonder what he's like. We will see what he thinks of us. If he happens to visit on a bad day he might run away screaming.

[Paige]

That's amazing Julia.  I hope it goes well.

Paige

[Julia1996]

I hope so too. We will see what he thinks of me. My dad didn't tell him I'm albino or trans.

[KathyLauren]

That is pretty neat, Julia.

About 10 years ago, my father gave me similar news, that I had a cousin I never knew about.  Turns out his sister got pregnant 'way back, and gave the the child up for adoption.  A year or so after my dad's sister died, he found an internet request from my cousin for information about his birth mother.  It was too late for him to meet his mother, but he did get to meet his uncle (my father) and (the old) me and my brothers.

It was kind of cool, because we didn't have much in the way of living relatives.  As soon as I saw his face, I recognized the family resemblance.  He lives on a different continent, so he hasn't met the new me, but we are on Facebook and he and his wife are good with my transition.

[Kylo]

Yeah, it's probably always a bit weird to find out you have a long lost sibling. I do too, 20 years younger than me. Never met her, but she knows of me. My dad just told her "the details" about the sister actually being a brother. I don't think he needed to, I mean it's not like she's gonna care that much about someone she's never met. He'd already told her before I told him about the transition and that, so there was no avoiding it. I'm not really concerned what she thinks and she's probably the same, it's just weird when someone has a pre-formed opinion of you based on the stories someone else has told them. If you're going to see this new sibling without any expectation, it'll probably be all right. 

[Jessica]

And so begins the next chapter of the book...."The Life of Julia"! 
Soon to be in a theater near you!

[Cassi]

Congrats!!!!!

Ever think of changing your name to Alice?  Curiouser and curiouser!

Just kidding!

Cousin had the same thing happen.

[I Am Jess]

Congrats!  I hope everything goes fantastic.  Sometimes these unexpected things are amazing.

I have 4 children with my ex-wife.  About three years into our marriage I got a call from a woman who had picked me up before I was dating my ex-wife.  Turns out she was married and going through a divorce and she wanted me to know that my name was going to possibly be coming up in her divorce case.  Turns out her 4 year old daughter had a different father than her husband - me.  Apparently there were able to settle the issues in the divorce and I was never mentioned.  We were friendly with the woman (she's from my hometown and graduated high school the year before I moved there) and we always got to see my daughter and she got to meet her siblings.  When she turned 13 she was told that I wasn't just a family friend but her biological father.  She will be 32 this year and is a part of my family.  To this day her dad doesn't know that he's not her biological father.  It makes it a bit tough because we can't be friends on social media because she looks so much like me.  I bet he would freak if he found out his daughter's actual father is a transwoman.  All of my kids with my ex absolutely adore their older sister, and so do I.

[Cassi]

Congrats!  I hope everything goes fantastic.  Sometimes these unexpected things are amazing.

I have 4 children with my ex-wife.  About three years into our marriage I got a call from a woman who had picked me up before I was dating my ex-wife.  Turns out she was married and going through a divorce and she wanted me to know that my name was going to possibly be coming up in her divorce case.  Turns out her 4 year old daughter had a different father than her husband - me.  Apparently there were able to settle the issues in the divorce and I was never mentioned.  We were friendly with the woman (she's from my hometown and graduated high school the year before I moved there) and we always got to see my daughter and she got to meet her siblings.  When she turned 13 she was told that I wasn't just a family friend but her biological father.  She will be 32 this year and is a part of my family.  To this day her dad doesn't know that he's not her biological father.  It makes it a bit tough because we can't be friends on social media because she looks so much like me.  I bet he would freak if he found out his daughter's actual father is a transwoman.  All of my kids with my ex absolutely adore their older sister, and so do I.

OMJ - Oh My Jess, aren't you full of surprises

And that tongue!  Definitely a KISS band member - well maybe Comrade KISS

[HappyMoni]

I hope so too. We will see what he thinks of me. My dad didn't tell him I'm albino or trans.

He probably didn't tell him you have an awesome personality either.

[Cassi]

He probably didn't tell him you have an awesome personality either.

And other devices!!!!! 
Like x-ray eyes that she told her brother's GF about

[Christy Lee]

I couldnt imagine what that would be like or you must be going through, i dont have any brothers or sisters, i dont know how i would cope if i had a brother or a sister all of a sudden

Good luck and i hope everything turns out ok

[Cassi]

I couldnt imagine what that would be like or you must be going through, i dont have any brothers or sisters, i dont know how i would cope if i had a brother or a sister all of a sudden

Good luck and i hope everything turns out ok

Wow, never thought what it would be like if I had been an only child and later find out I wasn't.
I think my feeling would be anger that I had missed out on the connection for so many years.

And Chrissy,
I guess this as good a time as any but you need to know I'm your (Trans)sister!

[Christy Lee]

Wow, never thought what it would be like if I had been an only child and later find out I wasn't.
I think my feeling would be anger that I had missed out on the connection for so many years.

And Chrissy,
I guess this as good a time as any but you need to know I'm your (Trans)sister!

Awww thanks, back at you *hugs*

[Lady Sarah]

Well, either your new brother will be more mature than Tyler, or they can have tickle fights.

I found my birth mother when I was 36. She accepted me, no matter what. My birth father had already died, so I never met him. My half brother and half sister are cool.

[Joelene9]

  I had similar. My mom passed away from cancer 3 years before my grandmother told me and my 3 siblings that my mom had a girl with another fellow before she had us. She found us through grandma after going through the distant relatives out of town. She found the divorce document of her parents after taking her mother to a rest home and it listed one child, adopted. She did not know she was adopted. A further search of her mom's old letters, she found a letter from my mom wanting her back. My mom's handwriting had not changed since that letter was written until she died.
  We did a meetup and all of the cousins and remaining aunts and uncles in town came to the party. Our aunts and uncles did know, but that was a family secret. We have been doing things together the 23+ years since. Camping, rafting down the Arkansas, holiday visits and other things. A DNA test confirmed her relation to us. She is using that to find her biological dad's family. My Boomer generation was indoctrinated differently than our parents. Shows like "Unsolved Mysteries" with the finding of long-lost siblings, kids or parents and those joyous reunions were watched by us. My aunts' and uncles' generation, that usually meant shame.

Joelene

[Julia1996]

Well, either your new brother will be more mature than Tyler, or they can have tickle fights.

I found my birth mother when I was 36. She accepted me, no matter what. My birth father had already died, so I never met him. My half brother and half sister are cool.

Lol, Tristan was messing with Tyler about that. He told Tyler it was too bad for him that Brian was coming to visit. Tyler asked him why it was too bad and Tristan told him because Tyler seemed to enjoy his status as the older brother but since Brian was older he could kiss that goodbye and that he had just become the lowly middle brother. Then he told him he better hope Brian wasn't too nice because my dad and I might like him better. Then he told him my dad might even have him move in and if that happened he would give him Tyler's room and stick Tyler in the basement because the older brother always got the best room. He told him I probably wouldn't want to hang out with him any more but not to worry because he would hang out in the basement with him once in a while so he wouldn't get too lonely down there. Lol! 😂  Tyler just said " you've been around Julia too long dude because you're getting the same warped sense of humor she has."  Lol.

[Cassi]

Lol, Tristan was messing with Tyler about that. He told Tyler it was too bad for him that Brian was coming to visit. Tyler asked him why it was too bad and Tristan told him because Tyler seemed to enjoy his status as the older brother but since Brian was older he could kiss that goodbye and that he had just become the lowly middle brother. Then he told him he better hope Brian wasn't too nice because my dad and I might like him better. Then he told him my dad might even have him move in and if that happened he would give him Tyler's room and stick Tyler in the basement because the older brother always got the best room. He told him I probably wouldn't want to hang out with him any more but not to worry because he would hang out in the basement with him once in a while so he wouldn't get too lonely down there. Lol! 😂  Tyler just said " you've been around Julia too long dude because you're getting the same warped sense of humor she has."  Lol.

I can relate to this.  My youngest sister knows about Cassi and I guess the older sister does also.  I've tried to contact the older sister for a few days now but she doesn't answer her phone.  Since I'm the oldest of all the siblings I would become the older sister and I think she's not answering because she was demoted

[Bari Jo]

Lol, Tristan was messing with Tyler about that. He told Tyler it was too bad for him that Brian was coming to visit. Tyler asked him why it was too bad and Tristan told him because Tyler seemed to enjoy his status as the older brother but since Brian was older he could kiss that goodbye and that he had just become the lowly middle brother. Then he told him he better hope Brian wasn't too nice because my dad and I might like him better. Then he told him my dad might even have him move in and if that happened he would give him Tyler's room and stick Tyler in the basement because the older brother always got the best room. He told him I probably wouldn't want to hang out with him any more but not to worry because he would hang out in the basement with him once in a while so he wouldn't get too lonely down there. Lol! 😂  Tyler just said " you've been around Julia too long dude because you're getting the same warped sense of humor she has."  Lol.

This brings me back to my sister and I growing up.  I can't tell you how many times we would tell each other that one was adopted.  Especially in public.  Friends would be "you are adopted?  I never knew that."

Bari Jo

[Cassi]

This brings me back to my sister and I growing up.  I can't tell you how many times we would tell each other that one was adopted.  Especially in public.  Friends would be "you are adopted?  I never knew that."

Bari Jo

Interesting, I'd swear I had heard that you were kidnapped by gypsies!