Saw an unsuccessful transwoman and it scared me, a lot

[alex82]

Hi Sophia,

I'm curious about your statement.  There are cis-women with very masculine features that get accused of being trans.  I would suspect some have a fear of being mistakenly clocked.  I would be interested if anyone has ever met a cis-women who has had this happen to them and worries about this sort of situation.

Take care,
Paige


   

I work with a woman who I presumed was trans. When she shared with me that she was going to have her arm implant changed I presumed it was some kind of hormone thing. It turned out she was talking about a contraceptive device. Like I say, her voice, bone structure, everything, made me wrongly assume.

I didn't discuss it more with her because I didn't want to admit what I thought, and I didn't want to get fully into a discussion that might result in her thinking 'ok, why was that your first thought?', and leading to her knowing all about me.

[Cindy]

I think that this topic has run its course.

It has demonstrated the gamut of frailty, prejudice and tolerance that exists on the Forum.

It has shown how we can hurt each other with ill considered phrasing, at least I hope they were ill considered. It also has shown that we can support and discuss contentious topics but that prejudice even amongst ourselves can be close to the surface.

Maybe we can learn from this thread to appreciate people and not to be quick to judge.

Cindy
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