Danielle, that is a beautiful poem. Though your father does not yet accept you, he will know that you still love him.
Quote from: Katie Again on June 13, 2018, 04:59:20 PM
They are frail and my Brothers think it may be too much for them.
Im afraid of loosing them with little time to reconcile to be honest.
It is a hard call to make, Katie.
I am sad that my father never got to know the real me. Had I been transitioning while my parents were still alive, I think I would have wanted them to know me, even at the risk of possible rejection.
My wife and I thought the same way as you about her parents: let's not tell them because they are so frail. But, as their health declined, we realized that there would soon be a funeral. We didn't know which one would go first, but they were both in their 90s, and in declining health. I knew I would not be able to bear going to a funeral in boy mode, and I also knew that I would have to go. So, for the sake of the surviving parent, I had to come out to them while they could still take in the information.
They were surprised, to say the least, but they were so accepting, it brought tears to my eyes. They never once deadnamed me.They got the pronouns wrong a couple of times, but never intentionally. Mostly they got them right. When my father-in-law called on the phone to talk to my wife, if I answered he made a point of addressing me as Kathy. Such a gentleman! I am glad that at least my in-laws got a chance to know the real me, and that accepting me made them happy.
The point of the story is that keeping the news from your parents might not be the kindest thing to do. Obviously you know them better, so please just take this as an option, not advice.