I'm sure this is a story similar to ones that have been on here from the beginning. My spouse told me this last Friday that they thinks they're transgender. (I will apologize now if I mess up pronouns, they haven't really decided yet how they want to be referred) The two of us have been together pretty much nonstop since we were 11 and 12, and I love them more this year than I did last, so the idea of me turning away from them because of this was ridiculous in my mind, this is the love of my life and nothing will make me give them up. This is the point that I would feel bad if I didn't admit that we have a bit of a head start in that with two facts: 1) they immediately stated that it changed nothing about their own sexual preferences, and 2) I am bisexual anyway. No, I am perfectly happy for them to explore what they are thinking and feeling since all I have ever wanted for them anyway was for them to be happy, but I almost broke down in tears today when I decided to look it up and see if other couples were able to weather the storm... what I found was terrible. story after story of divorce, of complete upheaval of personalities and exclusion of one or the other (or both) from old support systems and new ones.
Please, all I want is a little reassurance that not all couples fail at this hurdle. I know all relationships are different, but there has to be someone, somewhere that has made it work, right?
And for what it's worth, I fancied my spouse up last night to try and boost their confidence, and they were freaking stunning! ...I have to admit that it was a bit hard to wait until the kids were in bed before showing them how much I liked it...
also, I have no idea what good tags might be for this site, if anyone has any ideas if you could help me out there too!