Coming out to my family... maybe?

[Sarah1979]

Wish me luck everyone, I'm leaving in the morning to see my family and cousin tomorrow.  I've decided to tell my cousin Jason, and have already told him there's something serious I'm going to tell him.

[Kendra]

Best wishes Sarah!!  You'll feel better after you do this.

[Northern Star Girl]

Wish me luck everyone, I'm leaving in the morning to see my family and cousin tomorrow.  I've decided to tell my cousin Jason, and have already told him there's something serious I'm going to tell him.

@Sarah1979
Dear Sarah:
Be brave and get from under your burden of hiding your secret.  Some will not accept you but you will be surprised by how many do accept you and life will go on.  Coming out is such a relief,  it will be like a big heavy weight is lifted off of your shoulders.... then you can start freely living your life. 

I am wishing you well with your coming out announcements.... 
When all the dust settles please update all of us....

Hugs and well wishes as always,
Danielle

[Laurie]

Good Luck Sarah. I hope all goes well.

Hugs,
  Laurie

[Sarah1979]

Lol, my cousin Jason's reaction?  He nods, then starts asking questions. I don't even think he blinked funny.

[KathyLauren]

Don't you love it when it goes smoothly?  Good on you, and kudos to your kuz.

[Sarah1979]

Absolutely

[Sarah1979]

 Well, after the race was over, I started getting more of what I was expecting... "how do you know your feelings are real" "I've seen multiple studies about people regretting doing what you're talking about" but he keeps saying he's not trying to preach at me so I guess we'll see how this goes long term.

[Sarah1979]

Then the conversation moved on to "But sex and gender are the same thing and are determined by your chromosomes..." and my personal favorite, after I tried to describe to him how much HRT helped my state of mind, "well I might like to go to Chik-Fil-A, and it might taste good, but what is it doing to my body" In the back of my mind, I said, did you really just compare my gender dysphoria to the desire for a chicken sandwich?  I think my relationship with that side of my family is over. I tried.

[KathyLauren]

Aaaaaaaaaaarghhhhhhhhh!

My condolences.

[Sarah1979]

I should really learn to listen to my mother, she has a friend that she calls sister.  She has a very diverse family, but no one is trans, my mom says I can break new ground... maybe I can have a family beyond my mother after all... I would like that.

[Sarah1979]

Aaaaaaaaaaarghhhhhhhhh!

My condolences.

It's ok, you were right that I should try at least. Now I know for sure instead of wondering.

[Sarah1979]

@Alaskan Danielle

You were right, I do feel better about not keeping the secret anymore, even with the result.

[Northern Star Girl]

@Alaskan Danielle

You were right, I do feel better about not keeping the secret anymore, even with the result.

@Sarah1979
Dear Sarah....
Thank you for your update.... I am so sorry that the end result is not what you had wished for, but don't give up, be persistent and keep trying.....

I have friends that had rejected me over and over, and as I made an effort to keep the dialog open and especially when I went full-time and presented as a woman passing 100% of the time, over time they finally came around....
.... never give up, never surrender !!!!

As you did find out however, that the fact that you are not keeping your "secret" any longer, you do indeed feel better, and feel better about yourself without that big emotional weight on your shoulders.

Hugs and wishing you well as you continue your journey...
Danielle

[Sarah1979]

He told me a story about a coworker that he had at the company he works for many years ago...  There was apparently a transwoman that shared an office with him who transitioned while at this company.  According to Jason, she... or rather he... considering that he still, to this day, misgenders and deadnames her every time he mentions her, was probably mentally ill because "things got worse for her (him, according to Jason) during the transition" and that "*insert deadname here* left the company for *unknown* reasons".  In the back of my head, I'm thinking "I think I know why she left... she was probably suffering antitrans discrimination at the company, perhaps even chiefly from my cousin whom she was sharing an office with.  I just hope, wherever she is, that my cousin didn't hurt her too badly.