Hi there

[Jaime320]

So hi there. I've been hanging out over in the corner here for many years. I've enjoyed following along, and finally worked up to posting. Made a rambling sorta intro in another thread. The welcoming committee from the great white north pointed me over here. Terrible with names. Sorry.

So I know I should search, but I'm feeling a bit lazy after a long day. I'll search in morning. If nobody answers, that's ok. I know the questions personal, and can trigger some folks. Warning danger will robinson. During intake last week the doctors staff was very sweet, but I felt I was answering questions the wrong way. Maybe it's me being new to talking to other people about this stuff. I could be in denial, but not much triggers dysphoria for me.  It's sorta a even keel blah. Anyway back to the question. Am I wrong for answering the pronoun preferences the way I did? Right now I don't feel strongly either way really. It's more of how I'm presenting. If I have a choice and must pick, generally it would be she/her.

If you're interested here's the other thread https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,241551.0.html.

[Northern Star Girl]

@Jaime320
Hello again Jaime320:
It's me again, thank you for following the LINK to come here to the Introductions Forum that I provided for you on my Welcome Message on the first thread that you posted on earlier today.   

Now, more members here at Susan's Place and regulars on the Forums will be aware of your arrival... you can expect more sharing of thoughts and information that you can receive and also give as you make new acquaintances and friends here.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place
Wishing you well,
Danielle

[V M]

Hi Jaime 

Welcome to Susan's Place    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

[Alice V]

Hey Jaime!

English isn't my native so I could miss something but I didn't noticed info about pronoun preferances sorry But I think you just need to choose what fits you better and use it, maybe switch it when neccessary. It's far easier in english lol, in my language most words have gender markers

Btw, great day you described Guess my turn to be green in envy hahaha Congratulations and welcome here

[Jaime320]

Thanks Alice, I'll just keep doing what feel right at the time.

[Alice V]

Thanks Alice, I'll just keep doing what feel right at the time.

We all do it. At any moment of our life we making best decision we can in current state.

[Alice (nym)]

welcome Jamie... I am not quite sure what you are asking... perhaps this is an answer?  In my academic writing, unless it was stated, I always used gender neutral pronouns (they, them). If somebody asks me for my choice, then despite presenting male, I will choose female pronouns. It makes me feel happy and it doesn't cause any dysphoria. I tolerate male pronouns because I currently present male. I don't know how much that affected me subconsciously in the past but recently it bothers me more than it did. I hope that answers your question???

[Jaime320]

@nym

I totally get that. I light up even when a kid says mam instead. You also answered in your own way.  It seems there is no wrong our right answer to the question. It's a personal thing.  I just thought My viewpoint was in minority. Also I guess I thought well, I just jumped into the deep end.  Shouldn't I feel stronger about this? meh. I felt strong enough about it to pick up the phone and make the appointments. Maybe there's more subconscious stuff going on.