Quote from: AnneK on November 29, 2018, 08:44:46 AM
Incidentally, I enjoy reading about you supporting your partner in her transition. Was it always so? In reading here, I've noticed it takes some partners a bit of time to come around and some never do.
Thanks Anne. I'm enjoying chronicling it for her as she gets up to speed here. She is quite the popular lady, and is learning how to manage a pile of friendly, cheerful messages, thanks to Susan's.
I don't recall ever having a problem with Beth. I think that she is whom I met when she, as my future husband, was trying to attract me. I fell head over heels in love with her, and puzzled over the male stranger who inhabited her body when we were around anyone else. So, Beth coming out means that I get more of the person whom I love!
The only problem that I recall was one of trust, afraid that another, bigger secret was going to come out. I was straining my peripheral vision in anticipation.
I have stated here at Susan's that I am a heterosexual. Then I stated that I am bisexual. I recall now that my earliest romantic attachment was with a girl. Our troll dolls were married, wife and efiw (wife spelled backwards). I wanted to marry that friend. As a young woman, I was attracted to women, but none responded. Men did... and kept me too busy to miss women's attention. Much.
All that makes Beth's and my staying together so much easier than how it is for many other couples. Our first steps were to read books and watch movies (fiction and documentary) to fuel our discussions about the terminology to figure out where she was on the spectrum. More recently, we've been reading about intersex, and guessing how pieces of her memory fit together to explain how she got to where she is. Other stories here on Susan's have been great at triggering her memories.
My reason for posting here is to assure women that women like me exist. You are lovable. You are fun. You are exciting. You deserve the best care and support. Both cis women and transgender women.
I'm leaning toward explaining what makes Beth and me so closely bonded, to help provide something like a checklist that can be used to assess or improve the possibility of staying in an established relationship. Or maybe my posts can inspire women to do what it takes to keep a good partner, or to move on with appreciation and respect.
By the way Ann, have you heard anything about the status of your hrt prescription? I'd be on the phone every day following up! Or sulking in a dark corner with my phone on my lap...