Starting Transition/Expressing myself around friends

[Hannah_Celeste]

Hi all,

I have been awol here over the holidays. But in the meantime Im excited to announce Ive started transition! I have a little dilemma Im facing I am wondering if anyone might have some input on and want to share my excitement for starting transition. I am taking Estrodiol and Spiro and its been about two weeks. Im sure it might just be a placebo this early in, but I feel wonderful! My mind feels more stable and calm, my depression has significantly lessened and Im hoping for and looking forward to getting more of this. Everything is very exciting right now.

Over the last week, I came out to my close friend group. They were all kinds of supportive, but, I know that can change when I really start to look and present differently. Im *dying* to present as female to them right away, but the subtle things ive done so far along those lines like with my hair and voice seem to be causing them a small degree of discomfort.

We are having a regular game night on Sunday night, and Im getting some epic earrings and dressing my nails up...or I really want to...but im afraid of taking things too quickly and feel like I should give my friends more time to adjust. Does anyone have any experience with this or thoughts on this kind of thing?

Hugs and thank you's in advance.

-Hannah

[Lynne]

While you have to give them some time to adjust to the idea, you still have to show them that you are serious, it's a fine line to walk, it's not just your transition from that point on, it's theirs too.

Since you know your friends the best it's hard to give advice about them, but try to show them that you are still the same person, just a happier version of yourself. If they are really your friends they will come around, in the meantime be ready to help them with any questions they might have about your transition.

I made the mistake with my parents that I didn't effectively communicate my feelings after coming out and I wanted to avoid direct confrontation about the issue so they have never really understood my situation. Now only my father is alive and I'm not sure if he is ever really gonna think of me as her daughter but at least he tries to avoid misgendering me after all these years.