Just to go to the other end of the spectrum here, But there is often a difference when this comes up. in some cases, like recently, a member left, and in her leaving topic, said she was no longer trans, and was going to get on with her life.... cool! good for her.
Well theres also how one identifies... do you, when you think of yourself, say i'm 'male/female/transgender?' if you want to identify yourself, as transgender, fine, as a transman or transwoman? fine. But i think people are allowed to identify as just men and women.
I am a girl. plain and simple. i'm not transitioning to become a transwoman... The reason i transitioned, was because i looked like a boy, but i was a girl, so that needed correcting sharpish...
Trans is something i had to go through, a birth defect....
My being IS is nothing to do with this. at the end of the day. ill still never be the same as my peers... but that doesn't matter...
in my view, people with gid are born transsexual...
they're x gender, in y body... once y=x then x
2 Cancels.... X is alone... you are that gender... sure, maybe not at a genetic level, and sure, no kids, but there are lots of women who cant have children for whatever reason, a woman with a hystorectomy will be on hrt, and have no periods or be able to give birth...
My mother had cervical cancer. and she had a hysterectomy, and massive surgery... shes on hrt, shes not got a uterus, infact, shes got about as much vagina as a transwoman... does that make her less of a woman? hell no.
I do feel its a bit militant to say 'identify as trans or gtfo' because SOs are welcome on this forum... And i think that people who have successfully transitioned should stay if they wish, as it shows people just starting out that there is hope...
For some, Trans is a culture, a social group, a fun little club to be a member of, with your cool little decoder ring...
for some, its a problem, that they fix, and a lot move on to live happy, normal lives.
If you identify as trans, you are transgender, not transsexual, as the key part of therapists diagnostic criteria, and gid in general, is that the individual feels that they are x or y. not Tx or Ty.... Transsexuality is a physical condition. like any other birth defects, ( point of contest i agree) when its cured it goes away, sure, it will never be the same as if it had never happened, but its gone away.
I'm preop, yet i still consider myself female. if im asked, i say it without thought. I'm a female in my deep subconscious, in dreams. i automatically refer to myself as female. not a transsexual female. but female. i don't care that my body is deformed (in my view) that will be fixed, and to a good enough extent that i can successfully move on, and live a normal life, leaving all this behind me....
this forum is a support forum, we don't need people telling each other how to think. just support each other while its needed. a transit camp of sorts. people come, and people go. There is no mandate for when one should leave, and nobody but the site administration can decide that. Because a person doesn't identify the same as you, is thier prerogative, not yours...
Quotethat leaves alot of space and opportunity for us to step up and show others how cute and sweet a girl personality really can be.
what? there is no reason why we should be any different to those admirable women, and bitches... there is no set requirement for transwomen to be 'cute and sweet...' i am female, not a stereotype. this hyperfemininity culture in the TS community is majorly unproductive, and quite sad really.
I do smell an element of jealousy around this topic... as its always the ones that aren't going post op and moving on who complain...
I will make one thing clear. I am a girl. a young woman. I am about as transitioned as i can get, without grs, something i simply cannot afford right now. I live an entirely trans free life off the internet. I study, i work, i socialize with my friends, i date. I AM WOMAN there is nothing T' about my personality, identity, or life, so i will thank you to live and let live.
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