Can you hide a transition to the family especially when you start the hrt?

[AlexUABC]

Because I have read in many forums like this one of people of all ages that want to hide that they are taking estrogens either in an appropriate way with medical advice or in an inadequate way, self-healing thing that should not be done.

[CarlyMcx]

That depends on your age, build, bone structure and genetics.

After about two years on estrogen I couldn't pass for male any more, even wearing men's clothing head to foot.

[krobinson103]

After a year on estrogen trying to pass as a man would have been silly regardless of what I was wearing.

[big kim]

I managed 18 months, people thought I was looking younger!

[Lexi Nexi]

Yes you can. Your body make take tear some months.

Im guessing your MTF So you will see less body hair, get soft breasts to form, which will hurt, It will look like to your family you are just getting soft. Keep up the shaving cream and razors like you need lots and take that and do your legs chest and arms instead. You will still get facial hair bbut it grows in very slowly and thin Also don't forget the hair on top of your fingers and toes that's so gross in a girl or a t girl.

You might find you start crying about nothing like a pregnant lady does. Or you have to have chocolate or sweets like crack!!! Those all go away after 6 months or so. Wear baggy clothes so your chest doesn't stick out and butt doesn't look big. THEN BAM!!! Come in dressed in a super sexy skinny little stripper number nails all don't body waxed and show them "How your little ->-bleeped-<-got nephew now has a vagina" As you whip your gstring in his face. No one in my family is like that but I'm planning on doing that real soon



I wanted to do this for two year then just come out all at once but my face gave it away after 6 months and it was obvious when you saw the rest of me. Estrogen is one hell of a drug.

[Lexi Nexi]

I managed 18 months, people thought I was looking younger!

I got that they all said I looked 25 instead of 35 and asked it I did botox.

[Lexi Nexi]

After a year on estrogen trying to pass as a man would have been silly regardless of what I was wearing.

Unfortunately I am friends with some transwomen who did do hrt until 60 or 70 with big frames. Luckily for them the mental part of being on estrogen is 80% of the benefit! I am still pisses for waiting as long as I did and I just keep thinking how much better it would be if I h\was 12 or 13

[pamelatransuk]

Hello Alex

I am 14 months HRT and showing signs which people are noticing. However I am going fulltime in Summer.

So Yes you can hide but you have to careful especially after 10 or 12 months!

Hugs

Pamela

[CynthiaAnn]

My situation was I did not want to hide my changes to my family, I was very open and honest with my close family members before I started HRT.... I have no "mental baggage" to carry or nothing to hide especially with those I love, I like it that way....

Cynthia -

[GingerVicki]

6 months and people notice.

[JamesG]

Family will notice. Ironically, it will be the ones whom you don't see that often who will notice the most.  The family you live with or see all the time, won't notice for the longest because the change is gradual.

[Kirsteneklund7]

Because I have read in many forums like this one of people of all ages that want to hide that they are taking estrogens either in an appropriate way with medical advice or in an inadequate way, self-healing thing that should not be done.

Hi Alex,
               In a nutshell yes you can. At your age you should have not much problem for 12 months. Unless you already look feminine.

Kirsten.

[Lexi Nexi]

That depends on your age, build, bone structure and genetics.

After about two years on estrogen I couldn't pass for male any more, even wearing men's clothing head to foot.

I couldn't. Not that I tried but there were times I just didn't want to be trans or female. About 6 months in, even dressed as a guy I was told I was in the wrong bath/ mens room. For me I got B cups fast my face fat changed on top of already looking girly: small hands feet no adams apple short small nose small jaw, not hairy, So really hard to say But I bet you could pull it off until the 1 year when your hair is long and you just say ->-bleeped-<- it. The earlier you start the better. When the hormones change your cheek and jaw fat people will just call you miss regardless.

[LaRae]

I've been keeping it under wraps for most of my family. Not out of anger or anything, just that my comfort level's not quite there, and I'm not very close to most of them anyway. I'm at 5 months, and I haven't had anyone make any comments about it, but it's beginning to become quite difficult to pass as male. Nature's forcing me to move my timetable up.

[Sylvia]

My partner is nearly a year on HRT and no one has noticed a thing. If they have, they haven't said anything. Our kids haven't noticed. I have, but that's because I know!

[Alice (nym)]

Yes you can. Your body make take tear some months.

Im guessing your MTF So you will see less body hair, get soft breasts to form, which will hurt, It will look like to your family you are just getting soft. Keep up the shaving cream and razors like you need lots and take that and do your legs chest and arms instead. You will still get facial hair bbut it grows in very slowly and thin Also don't forget the hair on top of your fingers and toes that's so gross in a girl or a t girl.

You might find you start crying about nothing like a pregnant lady does. Or you have to have chocolate or sweets like crack!!! Those all go away after 6 months or so. Wear baggy clothes so your chest doesn't stick out and butt doesn't look big. THEN BAM!!! Come in dressed in a super sexy skinny little stripper number nails all don't body waxed and show them "How your little ->-bleeped-<-got nephew now has a vagina" As you whip your gstring in his face. No one in my family is like that but I'm planning on doing that real soon



I wanted to do this for two year then just come out all at once but my face gave it away after 6 months and it was obvious when you saw the rest of me. Estrogen is one hell of a drug.

That gave me a good laugh... thank you.

[Victoria L.]

I hear/read mixed reports. I've seen a lot of people say that it can be hid for quite some time if you know what you're doing. However, I think it depends a lot on your genetics and how drastic the changes are for you individually.

That is my plan with starting HRT - I'm not intending on socially transitioning right now, but I really feel like I need to get started on HRT, to help alleviate some dysphoria causing things and also set the foundation for my transition when it is time... I've been reading a lot of topics on this. I may need to talk to my therapist about this specific plan. She's writing the HRT letter for my next session. 

[Ryuichi13]

Well, you didn't specify whether or not you are MTF or FTM, so I can tell you that, as a FTM, the changes are difficult to hide once your voice starts cracking!  I was around a month in when I would wake up wondering if I would sound female or male.  It got so that every morning it was a game of "What Gender Do I Sound Like Today?"

Other changes that came around pretty quickly were, facial and body hair.  I ended up with a slight mustache, my arms became hairy and my sideburns, which I always let grow, started creeping down my face to form the beginnings of a beard.  Boy, was I happy when that happened!

There were other changes, of course, such as my facial shape.  I still have a (genetically) round face, but I'm happy that some of the fat has been redistributed.  Unfortunately, I now have a bit more belly fat than before!  My hips are thinner, and I also lost fat from my thighs.  My upper arms and shoulders are also more muscular, which gave me the courage to finally go without wearing my hoodie, which I used to wear to hide my body shape.  Now, I have a tendency to only wear it when I'm cold.  I've always been the "jeans and graphic t-shirts-type," so my going without my hoodie showed off my upper arms and shoulders more.  Now that skinny jeans have made a comeback, I wear those as well.  My partner says I definitely have a more masculine body shape, despite still having some hips.

So to answer your question, I think I could have hidden my transitioning for maybe...three weeks to a month and a half if I spoke.  If I didn't speak, I think I could have hidden myself for around two and a half to three months before my mustache really started growing in.  Its still sparse, but its definitely there.

Are you FTM or MTF?

Ryuichi

[Rachel]

Summer time is a little different. You will need to tape your nipples and wear a rash guard. if you are lucky and have good breast growth of any amount in a year a rash guard will need to be female

I had no issue and I was on HRT 2.5 year before coming out.

[Barri]

Been on full strength HRT for 14 years and even though I have small breasts. 
Only my wife knows about the changes...
No one else sees me as anything but a giant male.