Good Morning Ladies.
No chapter today, just me taking out some mental garbage.
I've had some highs the past week or so and some lows as my symptoms of gender dysphoria have gone through their cycles.
It's funny(ish) I frequently have this need to validate the authenticity of my identity, find ways to erase self doubt or maybe illuminate that it has all just been a mental misunderstanding. Perhaps in a way I want to find a way out of this bizarre condition. For instance, suddenly discover that I have a vitamin C deficiency and that's why I want to be a woman.
Of course that is just silly but seemingly impossible situations produce some ridiculous answers. At least they do in the bewildering mind of Brooke, it's truly a puzzling place.
Anyway. I will be humming along, GD will be little more than a very distant whisper and I will begin to have some self doubts. While the stresses of gender dysphoria are nauseating, they have always been a very reliable compass. Moments where it goes silent can be confusing, I will just feel numb. For me, these moments are generally short lived and I will get triggered, the tsunami of GD returns with a fury and I will again know who I am.
However, during that period of numbness, I will feel compelled to re-diagnose myself. I cannot tell you how many times I have read the clinical markers of GD. I know I check every box, I know it. But during these safaris into the "in-between" this re-affirmation is a practice I seem to be doomed to repeat.
So, I am going to write all of this down in my blog in hopes of ending this Groundhog Day once a for all. Here goes..
The DSM-5-TR defines gender dysphoria in adolescents and adults as a marked incongruence between one's experienced/expressed gender and their assigned gender, lasting at least 6 months, as manifested by at least two of the following:
6 months? try 48 yearsA marked incongruence between one's experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics (or in young adolescents, the anticipated secondary sex characteristics)
I have an overwhelming desire to feel and express femininityA strong desire to be rid of one's primary and/or secondary sex characteristics because of a marked incongruence with one's experienced/expressed gender (or in young adolescents, a desire to prevent the development of the anticipated secondary sex characteristics)
Yes, this is a dream for me.A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender
Goes hand in hand with above. Sometimes I muse if Ikea makes a home GCS kit and what it would be called but I digressA strong desire to be of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one's assigned gender)
Pretty sure that since I checked the first three boxes I have, by default, checked the crap out of this one.A strong desire to be treated as the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one's assigned gender)
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes times eleventyA strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one's assigned gender)
See previous answer, ditto.And yes, all of these symptoms have caused significant distress.
Ok, there. Done. No more of this nonsense. I am who I am.
"So shall it be written, so shall it be done". said some dude in a toga.
So with that rubbish taken out to the curb I resolve to find a new compass. Sure GD is super reliable but I am tired of being in a place where I must count on emotional distress to re-affirm my identity. This has become exhausting. I need to find ways to feel Gender Euphoria on a more frequent basis. Let something positive lead the way rather than being pushed by the darkness of dysphoria.
To this end, I took a giant leap this past week and I told my boss I was trans. She has always been very supportive of me and I knew this would go well and it did. I wasn't asking for any workplace changes, I just wanted a person at work to know the real me. Finally have someone that I could interact with where I could be seen. Wow, I underestimated how calming and affirming this would be. Being seen and accepted as your true identity, what a novel idea.
Gender Euphoria is indeed a shinier compass, one that I will endeavor to use way more often.
Warm Regards,
Brooke
PS: Look for the
könsbekräftelseoperation on an Ikea shelf near you.