Quote from: Robbyv213 on Yesterday at 11:13:45 AM@Lori Dee yea I don't know honestly. She is a very strong and independent woman, and if she didn't lose everything in the house fire a year ago then she would have no issues getting by with out my help financially.
But we are a couple so we started living life based off of two incomes and so now if we were to separate neither of us could maintain where were at now.
But she def doesn't need a man to define her or to show to the world shes the woman in the relationship or anyone to rescue her.
That's the furthest thing I believe she is.
I feel she is still just very hurt about it all. She thought she was marring a man who wants to remain being a man. You know.
I do feel everything else about how others will react and see her is spot on. She always says she is worried her ex will try to take custody of their youngest who still lives with us. She's afraid her very religious parents will disown her. She's afraid she will end up alone fighting the world again, where she at least thought she had me to help her and be with her in this world.
But she is the toughest woman I know, she def doesn't need me and or any man to take care of her. Yes would it be nice to have a companion and someon to help out of course, but I know she is a survivor, but I think as anyone would become, is tired of just surviving. And so when I came out all of her dreams of the future for building and not surviving came crashing down.
That makes sense. My apologies. Losing everything in a fire is trauma enough for anyone. It makes sense that she feels another loss with this, too.
I understand the two-income family needs. My second wife and I both had good jobs, with full pay and benefits. When I became disabled, it took over a year fighting with Social Security in court to get my income started. We suffered a death in the family, and our finances took a big hit. She was the only provider, so the stress was insurmountable. Then she got sick and eventually passed away.
I have been in that situation where two incomes suddenly become one, then become none. It is scary and stressful. I feel for you both. I sincerely hope it all works out. It usually does, but not necessarily in the way we expect. Hang in there.
