Thanks for sharing, Robby.
Sometimes, it helps to write out what you're feeling. Danielle does journaling, and Davina uses her diary to "unclutter" her brain. I find it helpful as a record of what I went through on my journey. When you write it out, you have to focus on the topic and organize those thoughts so that you can write them. That is helpful in starting to figure out where the problem lies and what solutions may be possible.
When I had my hypnotherapy practice, I would ask my clients "The Magic Question" as a tool to help them figure things out. The Magic Question is:
If I could snap my fingers and your problems were instantly solved, how would that change your life?
The immediate thought is "I would be so happy!" But such changes impact other things. So you need to think about what your life would look like.
Where would you be living?
Where would you work? And what would you do?
How are family, friends, neighbors, and coworkers affected by this change?
What would your social life look like? Would it change? In what way?
What about hobbies or other interests? Which would you keep, and what new ones would you start?
As you think about these things, other questions/scenarios may present themselves. But once you have a clear image of what your life would be like, then you are prepared to make plans to achieve it. If finances hold you back, think of ways to earn on the side. If location is the problem, plan a way to move to a new location. If employment is a problem, start looking at what might be available.
It is perfectly normal to feel stuck. I have been there many times. But when I feel that way, I use that as motivation to make changes (or at least plan them out). Go back to the beginning of your blog and read how you felt back then. Compare that to how you feel now while out, like at support group meetings. The small changes you made back then have had a big impact on where you are now.
You got this.
