Robby,
It seems like things keep going back and forth and up and down for you. If she is truly interested in trying to understand, would she be willing to talk with your therapist, with or without you?
If she is getting slanted information, that will only fuel any bias she may already have. Is she interested in knowing what is really going on? Or does she prefer to learn from people who will just agree with her bias?
I removed the last sentence from your post. I'll PM you in a moment.
Hang in there.
Hugs!