QuoteI do so much appreciate your words. I am struggling still at home. My wife is yelling and cussing at me. She wants a divorce and she said she will make it hell. She said she will dig up enough dirt to wreck my friends and family and I will be disgraced in the community. I have not come out to anyone other than her, one of her friends, and my sister. She said she will use that to humiliate me with everyone as well. For the first time in my life I feel too weak to fight. I will use the strength I have left to a good end.
Your wife strikes me as the manipulative, gaslighting type, Leigh. And... call it a hunch, but I am not sure she would actually do any of that. My gut tells me she is saying that to try and bully or scare you into submission. And... were you to call her bluff, she would have nowhere to go. Some people can be like that. When they can't get respect, they go for fear.
Have you asked her why she would do all this? Why just an amicable separation wouldn't be enough for her? What it is that makes her so hateful?
Hang in there, honey. You can get through this. You have done nothing wrong. I give you what strength I have. <3