Did you ever question WHY you are transgender?

[Lori Dee]

I kind of agree with Allie Jayne because I had no idea what any of this meant at first. So one of my first questions was "How did this happen to me?".

Later, in discussing this with my parents (Trump cultists), they thought it had to do with the way I was raised. And what parent wouldn't feel guilty if possibly something they did messed up their kid?

By understanding the genetic/hormone development that leads to a possibility of being transgender, I was able to assure them that it had nothing to do with them. That made them less defensive and more willing to try to understand and be supportive because it was no one's fault! It helped that my brother is an MD and he confirmed that what I told them is science, not "ideology".

[Sephirah]

That's fair. If you live in an environment where justification is necessary, then it matters why. More for the people around you, I guess. To stop both them and you hating you.  You have to have something you can wave in their face to say "I am like this and people have proved it."

[henrychan]

I've ask same question to my transgender friend, which is she okay and really open to talk about it, I know many people keep judging her decision but as long she okay with it, and lastly she said want to keep enough money to make surgery,

I just support what the best for her and would lend her money if she want to

[darksou]

Sometimes, but these days I'm just fine accepting this is who I am and that I can live a good life despite the challenges that are given to me because of this. So far, science didn't go very far into figuring out why we end up existing as transgender and I'm mostly concerned with how to live well than that.

[TanyaG]

these days I'm just fine accepting this is who I am and that I can live a good life despite the challenges that are given to me because of this

Looking back, if I was handed two single use magic wands, waving one of which would have made me understand why I was trans and waving the other would make me completely comfortable with being trans, I'd have waved the latter and bypassed the angst.

But it can help some people to understand some of the elements that are in play in their transness as part of becoming comfortable with it. That's one of the foundations of therapy regardless of whether the issue is being trans or not, after all.