... when you kinda think she's got a point?
I have a friend back home in SA, also trans, who is having huge problems with her parents, whom she is still dependant on and thus stuck with. She hasn't said as much, but I get the feeling that she is nearing a point where she's going to just give up the ghost.
Problem is, I sometimes feel exactly the same, and it's not like I manage to talk myself out of it or reason with it or whatever ... I kinda just bury it beneath being busy and friendly and everything, and for a while just forget.
But sometimes the frustration and sadness is just overwhelming. I'm at least lucky in that my folks support me (even though they're 9000 km away) it must be so much more difficult for her, with constant pressure from the moment she walks into her home, till the moment she leaves again.
She keeps asking that somebody knowledgeable come speak to her folks, but the small "out" Trans community in SA has many big fish to fry (most recently a girl accused of raping a street-kid in Melville - never mind that her HRT prevents her from even being able to do so...), and she's stuck in a little town out in the middle of rural Natal. My lame attempt at helping so far consists of sending her HBO's Middle Sexes and telling her to get her parents to watch it.
I really don't know how to help her, and since I could use some cheering up myself, any ideas and advice would really be appreciated.
Simone
