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Started by stephanie_craxford, April 10, 2006, 06:20:57 AM

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stephanie_craxford

I was out at a small get together last week, not a huge crowd but it was a lot of fun.  Towards the end of the evening someone turned on a stereo and people started to dance.  I really didn't pay much attention until someone came up and asked me to dance and the person grabbed my hand and away we went.

Although I was having fun, I never was a good dancer but this was the first time that Stephanie got to dance.  I was a little paranoid about how I looked and how I was dancing, if I looked like a woman dancing ?

There is a big difference in the way that females and males dance so I was wondering if anyone out there has taken dancing lessons so that they don't dance like a guy for MtF and dance like a girl for FtM?

Steph
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Hazumu

Geez, good question, Steph.

I've thought about the body kinesthetics thing for, well, a long time.  But never with any serious thought until recently.  Somewhere here I posted about last summer observing a couple of girls (the GG variety) practicing tennis, and how the learner was no good because she was self-conscious about appearing female.

(Okay, that's the set-up...)

Just to venture a guess-y viewpoint, I'd say you'll probably do fine if you're really in touch with your female-ness.  I view dancing as a form of communication, like music.  You're communicating an inner state.  And in your case, Steph, you're no longer censoring that inner state, trying to strain out anything that isn't hyper-male NCO  ;) .  Let yourself go!  Stike some poses!  Make some mistakes!  Dare to look stupid!  Have fun!  Don't worry about the mechanical stuff.

While I'm thinking about it, I'm told that pre-pubertal boys and girls' bodies are the same (with the exception of sex organs, of course  ;) .)  So why do little boys learn to throw a baseball like a big league pitcher, and little girls use that little-girl bent-arm sorta' side throw?  Nature?  Nurture?  I think that it's because if you're a little girl, there's no penalty for not throwing like a boy (just my 2ยข  ;))  Question for the FtM's on this board:  Did you learn to throw things well when you were a child?

Any way, I digress(ed).  I'm a fool for good Techno/Trance (at my age  :o ), and one thing I'm looking forward to with the support group I joined is the chance to attend Sacramento's arguably best dance club, Faces (so good, straights regularly attend this G/L club!)  Let's see how well Karen can dance!

You go, Steph!

Karen
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Melissa

My problem growing up is that I always wanted to dance like a girl.  I rarely danced as a guy.  Now that I can dance as a girl, I do very well.  Yes, I have danced a couple of times now since my transition.  I imagine the older you are, the more years of maleness you have to unlearn.

Melissa
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Dennis

With the throwing thing, I never threw like a girl. Always like a boy. I played baseball on a boy's team for a while until they found out (that was back in the days before girls were allowed on boys teams), and booted me to a softball team. I don't know why there's that general gender difference. Maybe it depends on who you look at and model yourself after when you're learning to throw. I probably watched guys throw and learned that way and perhaps girls watch women and girls throw and learn that awkward over shoulder thing.

Dancing. I don't think I have ever danced like a girl either. If anything, I dance like a gay man, having spent my formative years in gay men's clubs.

Dennis
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Hazumu

"Gay man" -- isn't that redundant, like Lesbian woman?

Karen  >:D
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Dennis

Nope, some lesbians prefer to be called gay. Lesbian is female only, but gay could be either gender.

Dennis
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Hazumu

Ah! Shiranakatta! (it wasn't known.)

Thanks!

Karen
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stephanie_craxford

May be I should rent the movie "Dirty Dancing" - Patrick Swazzzzzzzzzzzzzzy Hmmmmmmmm. :)  Imagine him teaching you how to dance  :D

Steph
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jan c

I only ever could 'dance like a girl'; Which means I could almost never get away with it, only a VERY private dancer... now I am a, a dancin' fool (I may be totally wrong but I'm a...)
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LostInTime

I am not a great dancer at all but I will get out on the floor every so often.  Last time I did that I was out partying with a few women that I know.  I was completely smashed when a guy reaches through the crowd and dragged me out onto the floor.  This was a new thing for me, dancing with a guy.  He was just a young one that wanted a dance partner and I did dance with him a few more times that night.

As far as now vs when I tried doing the guy thing.... I tend to be a bit more expressive with my body.  As a guy I was pretty conservative/contained out on the floor, too worried about what others were thinking.  Now I just do not care.  :D
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Leigh

Quote from: Karen on April 10, 2006, 10:02:14 AM


is the chance to attend Sacramento's arguably best dance club, Faces (so good, straights regularly attend this G/L club!) 
Karen

Not having experienced much of Sacramento I can't speak about the "best" place but if associating with str8 people coincides with the best dancing I'll settle for second place.  Plus from what I saw of faces the clientele was most gay boys.

Club 21 on the other hand was almost 100% women on Saturday.  Seeing as how I can't identify as a gay boy or str8, Faces wouldn't be my first choice.

Leigh
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Hazumu

Quote from: Leigh on April 10, 2006, 06:24:25 PM

Club 21 on the other hand was almost 100% women on Saturday.  Seeing as how I can't identify as a gay boy or str8, Faces wouldn't be my first choice.


Hey, Leigh! (say that three times real fast!)

Club 21 IS on my list -- Our own Terri Gene has invited me there.  But I do have a serious jones for techno/trance.  If Club 21 has it, then I'll likely prefer to go there  ;)

Karen
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mariska

I also like to dance and since it has ever been a hobby to me I learned to dance in a dancing school as a leader (the male way to dance) and learned my self how to dance as the follower (the female way to dance) now a days you can even find dancing schools where they speak onely about leading and following and no longer about male and female. There are even dancing tournaments where you could go to  especially for male male and female female couples I just do not know if a male female couple is allowed where the male has the following and the female the leading part or what they do if it is a MtF FtM couple
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